Dad Shoots Daughter's Laptop Over Facebook Post
Submitted by joeneesima on Mon, 02/13/2012 - 08:30Dad Shoots Daughter's Laptop Over Facebook Post
ALBEMARLE, N.C. -- A North Carolina dad has become a YouTube hit after filming his response to a Facebook post by his daughter.
Tommy Jordan posted a video on Wednesday that showed him reading his daughter's post to the camera.
"My daughter thought it would be funny/rebellious/cool to post on her Facebook wall just how upset she was and how unfair her life here is; how we work her too hard with chores, never pay her for chores, and just in general make her life difficult," he said in the video's description.
"She chose to share this with the entire world on Facebook and block her parents from seeing it. Well, umm... she failed. As of the end of this video, she won't have to worry anymore about posting inappropriate things on Facebook," Jordan said.
At the end of the video, Jordan pulled out a .45 caliber pistol and fired several shots into his daughter's laptop as it lay on the ground, telling his daughter she'll have to pay him back for the bullets, too.
"Maybe a few kids can take something away from this... If you're so disrespectful to your parents and yourself as to post this kind of thing on Facebook, you're deserving of some tough love. Today, my daughter is getting a dose of tough love," he said.
By Friday morning, the video had nearly 1.5 million views.
http://www.wyff4.com/news/30428143/detail.html#ixzz1mGggYosH
And?
My only opinion on this is:
The father should be paying the daughter something for chores to teach her the value of work. Forcing labor without pay is teaching the wrong lesson. It is teaching the girl that her labor has no value, which is destructive to her future, because as an adult, she won't understand the value of skills and service to others, and will end up angry as she engages in life without a sense of economics and self-respect.
Besides, she needs to pay for his bullets.
I disagree,
there are certain jobs (like making your OWN bed and picking up after YOURSELF) that you do NOT ever get paid for. My children have jobs they MUST do everyday (unless they're sick), it is their contribution to our home. I do however, offer them the chance to earn money every week by doing things outside of their everyday chores and they've also done jobs for our neighbors.
"When there is a boot on your neck, it matters not whether it is the right boot or the left."
I Agree
I agree. Sure, we should learn to take care of ourselves, and make our bed, and do little chores, etc. I can't see the video, but my point is that it is wrong to reinforce labor without reward. It is just bad conditioning. All animals, including people, give their best effort when they see a reward in return for their efforts. And they become failures and "give up on everything" when they see no reward for their efforts. That's just the nature of all biological organisms.
In the video
he read the FB post and she was complaining about making her bed and cleaning up after herself - and her language was ugly (in tone and she used profanity). Teaching your children how to manage money (by giving them the chance to earn it) is most certainly the job of the parent. I will not disagree with you on that but that wasn't the case with this girl (if, in fact, her father is being completely honest). I think the problem in this case was not that he was "reinforcing labor without reward" but for the first 15 years of her life enforced reward without labor and is disgusted when she acts like a spoiled brat and has no appreciation for the gifts he has bestowed on her - thus perpetuating her entitlement mentality.
Example: My 10 & 11 year olds wanted a PS3, I helped them find out the price and we counted their money. Of course they were (very) short. So we set about finding ways they could earn enough money - they ended up selling their Nintendo DS's, games and doing extra chores. Within 2 months they proudly marched into Game Stop and made their purchase. They were empowered, this girl was apparently given a (very nice) laptop and Dad's mad that she doesn't appreciate it. Although I understand his frustration, methinks he may have created that monster.
"When there is a boot on your neck, it matters not whether it is the right boot or the left."
Her reward is
Free room and board. As well as the the satisfaction of knowing she is contributing to the overall well being of her family. Having to pick up after someone constantly is draining, especially when they show zero appreciation. I have 6 kids and they ALL have a role in our family. I don't bust my ass at work 60 hours a week just so they can sit around and do just enough to get by and EXPECT to have everything handed to them. The greatest gift God gave us (aside from Jesus) is the GIFT of humility and the opportunity to serve others. Kids need to learn to appreciate what they have and not feel like being a lazy ass is their right while expecting to EVER have the things they want. If I have to do my job and theirs...they can sit and waste...just like they would in real life. If they want to be disrespectful after all that has been provided to them by my daily sacrifices, then at an absolute minimum, they will know discipline. I'm not trying to be their friend, I'm trying to raise responsible young adults, cause they ain't livin with me forever, and I ain't takin care of any bastard kids that ain't mine. That's right...in my custody, 6...5 girls, 1700 square feet, 1 bathroom, and a mental deadbeat ex. Just let me read some dumb shit on facebook about gettin up off my ass and doing it my self....holy shit. There are no words.
Hmmm?
First of all, nothing you say can violate the fact that all biological organisms "give up in life" when they consistantly see no reward for their efforts. That's just a fact of nature.
Second of all, children have no choice in being born, parents make the choice of creating them. Parents are not a child's responsibility, children are a parent's responsibility. Also, it is not a child's job to appreciate or respect you. If you don't have appreciation and respect, it is because you haven't earned it. Your comment on "discipline" just shows that you are deciding to punish your children for your own failure, which makes no sense at all.
Children NATURALLY are born to want to please parents and get praise from their parents, it is their natural way of learning survival skills, and if you destroy that, you have done nothing good by them.
If you find 6 children to be so much of a burden, then you should not have had 6 children. Since you decided to have 6 children, then you must bare the burden, because your children had no role in the burdens you created for yourself, and have no obligation to be responsible for it.
Nobody ever said children have a right to "expect all things handed to them". And if you are working 60 hours a week, you are not around to raise children properly. You are describing a fatherless home, and apparently, a motherless home.
If you feel like children are a "sacrifice", then you were irresponsible to create them, and now, everyone is suffering because of it. Please don't make 7. When children have a potential to change from a gift and joy into a "sacrifice" that need "room and board", you made too many, and their lives will suffer for your irresponsibility.
And they had no part in that. It is not their fault, and they should not have to suffer the consequences of what you did with a woman.
You must not have children
A reward by definition is something you earn...consequently, no effort=no reward. Although it is not their job to appreciate me, it is my job to teach them appreciation. And sorry but as long as they live in my house, it is their obligation to respect me. You call me a failure without knowing the first thing about my situation, showing your ignorance. Not all children are born with the ability to give a shit about pleasing anyone outside their circle of friends. Unfortunately some children are genetically predisposed to not care about anything but themselves. It's called borderline personality disorder, and it's a clinically diagnosed condition inherited from my ex. That's why she's my ex. If you do the math 24x7=168 hours in a week-60 hours at work=108 hours-42 hours sleeping=66 hours available for my kids. My kids have less time for me than I have for them. But my current wife stays home and is ALWAYS available for them...all of them...3 of which aren't hers. Children aren't the sacrifice. The dreams I had for myself are the sacrifice, not the burden you describe. A sacrifice is something you willingly chose to give up. Not something that is taken from you. My kids are a gift, and always will be. I'm pretty sure if you asked any of them they would all tell you they have it pretty good. You may get the wrong idea about the term discipline as used in my post. I'm not implying beating them into submission, but they do get grounded from their stuff. All I'm trying to say is that everyone has different ideas about how to raise a family. What works for you may not work for everyone. We get along just fine, and all my kids are well cared for. You can judge all you want, but I think that's why everyone here is here. We all want the same things for our families. The ability to live our lives the way we see fit without someone telling us they know what's best for us.
My Reply
You are right, I didn't have "children", I had a child, an adopted daughter, because I never found a woman that I could respect as a wife and mother in my time to do that, because parents have been raising spoiled brats with no skills or care to be wives and mothers for my generation; they are raised to be "just as good as men", instead of a compliment to men, and I utterly refused to make babies without full confidence in a woman to be a good mother and wife for life - but try to find one of those ...
So I married a woman that already had a daughter, and did the best with that. I figured I might as well benefit something that is already broken than make another mess.
Anyway, I am not going to be hostile, I am just saying that there is a way to capitalize on the natural instincts nature provided, and there are so many things wrong with an urban society that I don't have time to write a book about it.
I think overpopulation is not when we cannot feed one more mouth, it begins when we are utterly dependent upon a man-made system, and we begin to live as resources of that system. Once that happens, corruption of all kinds arise in all areas of life, and it is a suicidal path for humanity without hope.
Thomas Jefferson agreed with me, but nobody seems to understand:
"When we get piled upon one another in large cities, as in Europe, we shall become as corrupt as Europe."
-- Jeffersonian Cyclopedia published in 1900 by Funk and Wagnalls and edited by John P. Foley
I don't know what the hell is wrong with people that don't see this as undeniable truth. There is hardly one problem we are facing in our future that isn't a result of being "piled upon one another". It is at the base of most any societal problem you can think of, and the reason EVERY civilization fails. It can't be sustained.
Agreed
Very noble of you taking on a child you didn't help create. I'm adopted, so is my brother. My wife had a child before we met and if everything goes well, she will be adopted by me this year. I know how hard it can be sometimes for both the child and the parent of adoption.