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I'm going to be a dad! Update - Video of home birth of our first born son Liam!

We just found out this morning.Too bad we only have $40 dollars in our account and are living check to check. I must get back in school and finish my degree. So much to do. Advice would be appreciated. Thanks!!

Update
Video of home birth:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NezADtaeEk




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Well that made me sob like a baby!

Let me pay you back for that: A song for the new daddy:

BLESSINGS!!! BLESSINGS!!! BLESSINGS!!!! Give my love to your beautiful wife and son, and much to you, too!
3:52 - that is where I went from wet-eyed to sobbing - so much love! :)

This is the article that got my posting privileges revoked:
http://bklim.newsvine.com/_news/2013/05/12/18212165-dr-stan-...

Bumpity

bump!!!!

Update

Hip Hip Hooray!!!!

Congrats!!!!

Be the best father that your child could ever have!!!! :)

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Have a Cigar, FF!!

You're now a Dad...Congrats!

Congratulations!

There is already some really great advice here, for my $.02 (not adjusted for inflation)

Love each other, and go the second mile to keep your relationship on good ground. Children love and need to see their parents treating each other with kindness and respect. When you disagree, do it gracefully. The children will learn by your example how to settle conflicts.

As they get older, look for their particular bents, skills and talents. Train them to develop skills and talents, encourage them to see which bents (inclinations, what have you) are helpful and which are harmful.

But that man should play the tyrant over God, and find Him a better man than himself, is astonishing drama indeed!~~D. Sayers
Love won! Deliverance from Tyranny is on the way! Col. 2:13-15

www.dailypaul.com/280083/jesus-christ-vic

Oh wow

First off,congrats,a new baby is so exciting(but kiss your days of a good nights sleep goodbye for awhile). My baby is now a year old so I just went through what you will be soon.

Not advice so much as observations.
-If I had known what I do now I would have never bothered with all the little cheapy plastic toys that they sell and try to sell to new parents,my little guy's favourite toys are for the most part things he sees his dad and I handling(pots,pans,spoons,glass beer bottles,tools)although he does have a few store bought toys he likes. Oh and those baby books with the thick,stiff pages are great,he/she might not be so interested in what they say,but they're great to chew on!
-If you have a family member or friend you can rely on,have them there when the baby is born to make sure your wishes are followed,after all,you and mommy are going to be wiped out from the delivery. If you have the money when the time comes a doula(sp?)would serve the same function.
-Saw someone else mention this,but if you can put a bug in a relative or friend's ear about throwing your wife/girlfriend a babyshower do it! I didn't have to buy my son clothes for the first few months with the exception of diapers.
-People will try to bully you into doing what their idea of being a good parent is. My mom,an RN,is still having fits that we didn't vaccinate our son,eventhough he is one of the healthiest,happiest babies she knows. You may have to remind people that you are the mommy and daddy of this child,it's funny but people tend to forget that little fact.
-Oh and one last thing,enjoy each and every stage. People will keep telling you,oh and wait until he/she reaches such and such a stage. Yes there are challenges for every stage your baby goes through but the joys far outweigh them. Congratulations!

--
“Government is not reason. It is not eloquence. Government is force; like fire it is a dangerous servant -- and a fearful master.”
—George Washington, 1797

“A wise and frugal government, which shall restrain men from injuring one another, whi

Oh wow

First off,congrats,a new baby is so exciting(but kiss your days of a good nights sleep goodbye for awhile). My baby is now a year old so I just went through what you will be soon.

Not advice so much as observations.
-If I had known what I do now I would have never bothered with all the little cheapy plastic toys that they sell and try to sell to new parents,my little guy's favourite toys are for the most part things he sees his dad and I handling(pots,pans,spoons,glass beer bottles,tools)although he does have a few store bought toys he likes. Oh and those baby books with the thick,stiff pages are great,he/she might not be so interested in what they say,but they're great to chew on!
-If you have a family member or friend you can rely on,have them there when the baby is born to make sure your wishes are followed,after all,you and mommy are going to be wiped out from the delivery. If you have the money when the time comes a doula(sp?)would serve the same function.
-Saw someone else mention this,but if you can put a bug in a relative or friend's ear about throwing your wife/girlfriend a babyshower do it! I didn't have to buy my son clothes for the first few months with the exception of diapers.
-People will try to bully you into doing what their idea of being a good parent is. My mom,an RN,is still having fits that we didn't vaccinate our son,eventhough he is one of the healthiest,happiest babies she knows. You may have to remind people that you are the mommy and daddy of this child,it's funny but people tend to forget that little fact.
-Oh and one last thing,enjoy each and every stage. People will keep telling you,oh and wait until he/she reaches such and such a stage. Yes there are challenges for every stage your baby goes through but the joys far outweigh them. Congratulations!

--
“Government is not reason. It is not eloquence. Government is force; like fire it is a dangerous servant -- and a fearful master.”
—George Washington, 1797

“A wise and frugal government, which shall restrain men from injuring one another, whi

Oh wow

First off,congrats,a new baby is so exciting(but kiss your days of a good nights sleep goodbye for awhile). My baby is now a year old so I just went through what you will be soon.

Not advice so much as observations.
-If I had known what I do now I would have never bothered with all the little cheapy plastic toys that they sell and try to sell to new parents,my little guy's favourite toys are for the most part things he sees his dad and I handling(pots,pans,spoons,glass beer bottles,tools)although he does have a few store bought toys he likes. Oh and those baby books with the thick,stiff pages are great,he/she might not be so interested in what they say,but they're great to chew on!
-If you have a family member or friend you can rely on,have them there when the baby is born to make sure your wishes are followed,after all,you and mommy are going to be wiped out from the delivery. If you have the money when the time comes a doula(sp?)would serve the same function.
-Saw someone else mention this,but if you can put a bug in a relative or friend's ear about throwing your wife/girlfriend a babyshower do it! I didn't have to buy my son clothes for the first few months with the exception of diapers.
-People will try to bully you into doing what their idea of being a good parent is. My mom,an RN,is still having fits that we didn't vaccinate our son,eventhough he is one of the healthiest,happiest babies she knows. You may have to remind people that you are the mommy and daddy of this child,it's funny but people tend to forget that little fact.
-Oh and one last thing,enjoy each and every stage. People will keep telling you,oh and wait until he/she reaches such and such a stage. Yes there are challenges for every stage your baby goes through but the joys far outweigh them. Congratulations!

--
“Government is not reason. It is not eloquence. Government is force; like fire it is a dangerous servant -- and a fearful master.”
—George Washington, 1797

“A wise and frugal government, which shall restrain men from injuring one another, whi

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Congratulations to you guys

Congratulations to you guys :) Sounds like it's your first?

Anyway. Welcome to the club !

I'm not gonna give you a lengthy list of advices or clues ... that wouldn't be fun, as a spoiler. ;-P

I can promise you one thing, though, without fail:

fatherhood ... that's gonna change your life, my friend.

It's an awful lot ... OF FUN... problem solving to keep yourself busy. And I don't mean about darling baby boy/girl only... :)

Take the care! so, bravo to the mommy, too!

"Cyril" pronounced "see real". I code stuff.

http://Laissez-Faire.Me/Liberty

"To study and not think is a waste. To think and not study is dangerous." -- Confucius

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Congrats to the new Papa

let us know how things go..Pop!

Tonight I will cook

Chicken and andouille gumbo with this song playing while the wife's off working! :-]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YrTidoW2Erc

This song has stuck with us ever since hearing it on the radio in the car on our honeymoon in Colorado:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4FDcTyyXQb8

Thanks a bunch everyone!!!!!!

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Congrats! Maybe you could write Dr. Paul a note and maybe he would deliver for you? I will bet he would for a nominal fee and a promise to teach him/her the US constitution!!lol

Warm Regards,

"OH NO! He has a SON?" Neoconservatives and Liberals EVERYWHERE!

Rand Paul 2016

Dont forget about

Introducing the baby to Ron Paul, Tom Woods, Peter Schiff etc videos when he/she is young, so instead of mindless mainstream media garbage she/he's already be introduced to the likes of liberty minded folks. EVEN if they cannot understand its the baby step familiarity with those people that they will always remember them (kind of like how you remember certain things to this day when you were a lil one!)

Congrats...some simple rules to follow:

1. When baby is born,

- Momma's breast milk
- Hormone free regular milk when necessary
- Saturated fat IS BRAIN FOOD!!!

2. After first shots wear off,

- You go outside, baby goes with you.
- You go for a walk, baby goes with you.
- You go shopping, baby goes with you.
- You see it, baby sees it.
- You name it, you say it, baby hears it.
- You enjoy 20 minutes of sun, baby enjoys 20 minutes of sun.
- You watch the hail fall, baby watches the hail fall.
- You do gardening, the baby is right there with you.

3. Do not "rescue" or "help" the baby.

- If baby finds navigating an 8" carpet ledge difficult, you just watch.
- When the baby finally figures it out on its own, you lie down right next to it with a big giant jolly smile, and give 'em a big jolly happy congratulations.
- Show 'em something one or twice slowly and carefully - then walk away.
- If someone else tries to intervene, YOU intervene. Family or non-family it doesn't matter. They'll just have to get used to the fact that it's your baby and YOU are the primary educator.

4. Lots and lots of Blues Clues - the originals with Steve and Joe - NOT the Blue's Room crap.

- Buy all the videos and DVDs, new or used.
- Let the baby when they are 3-4 years old watch 'em over and over.
- It's inductive reasoning to the hilt.

5. When at a restaurant, waiting time is quiz time.

- Bring paper
- Draw pictures on one side, words on the other.
- Have the baby match 'em up.
- You can actually start this as early as age 2.
- Do simple picture and number adding and subtracting.

6. When the baby enters third grade, buy the entire "Key to" series from the Berkeley publisher.

- Stay one step ahead of the teacher with the booklets.
- Always, always and always pay attention to the number line. Math is linear all the way to beginning Algebra. Public schools and many private schools fail to cover it often enough to Algebra and hence a fundamental reason why later on kids shut down when introduced to negative numbers.
- Always leave a little space to the left of zero when you draw a number line. That will plant the "germ" in the baby's brain early on that there is something there - when introduced to negative numbers it'll make perfect sense.

7. Starting at age 2, have lots of books around. Read a book together 15-20 minutes each night. Eventually, the baby will take over and read independently at some point.

8. Last but most importantly - baby sleeps - either you, Momma or the both of you sleep as well. A tired immediate caretaker is a poor caretaker. If any party fights back when its their turn - tie 'em down if you have to. It'll be good for the baby and the caretaker.

In short:

Lots of exposure, hands-off learning, natural saturated fat from Momma and a clean cow, "putting it together" and the good old fashioned tried and proven number line with lots of ZZzzzzz.

Your baby will enter Kindergarten at about 3rd grade reading and 1st grade math, and finish at about 5th grade reading and 2nd grade math.

I guarantee it!!!

=8-)

...oh...and you are gonna have fun!!!

=8-)

Conservative AND Libertarian!!!

Can we have an parenting interview for Relate4ever Publishing?

Good outline! Looking forward to hear from you!

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LOVE

LOVE

"OH NO! He has a SON?" Neoconservatives and Liberals EVERYWHERE!

Rand Paul 2016

Forget about the DVDs and

Forget about the DVDs and videos. Books, man... books!

congrats!

from now on, try your best to not sweat the small stuff. Nothing helps you keep things in perspective like having a child : )

Love Is In The House

My son just turned 3. I never even considered the possibility that some little boy could bring so much love into someone's life.

KMoore
May our efforts in support of Congressman Ron Paul be blessed with supernatural success.

For vaccine injuries find a

For vaccine injuries find a pranic healer in your area. Look it up.

Do not get a SSN. What it

Do not get a SSN. What it means is that you are the indurOR not the insurEE. If it is important when he wants to work, then deal with it then.

Consider your vaccine choices very carefully

And take special care right now as to what mom eats. Their bodies, and mom's placenta, was not designed to deal with the chemical exposures that we foist on them now. Organic might be expensive, but do as much as you can, especially with the dirty dozen.

And please do lots of research starting now on anything that will be injected into mom or baby. Wish I had.

-Mother of a vaccine injured child

Make sure your wife does not

Make sure your wife does not get vaccinated while pregnant and do not get your kid vaccinated. REgardless of what you read or want to believe is this: There is a blood brain barrier issue

Condolences

You may want to consider getting a job at the same time as going to school.

Congrats!!!

I agree with the comments saying don't overthink it. I've had 4 and have been completely broke with 3 of them, LOL. Babies don't really need that much. At least not for a little while (and then it's not really so much of a need as a want). My husband now has a really good job and we are completely out of debt other than our mortgage and car note but we don't live much differently than we did when we were totally broke.

Anyway, I'm getting off subject. You have quite sometime to think about it. If you are going to use disposable diapers then I suggest buying a package every time you have a little extra money to do so. Don't get too many newborns... they grow out of them fast. Size 1 will last longer.

I also agree with the suggestion to breastfeed if possible. I breastfed all 4 of my girls and it was one of the best things I ever did for them.

Ron Paul convert from the Heart of Dixie

This exact thing happened to me

Though I had more than 40 bucks in my checking account when I found out I would be a father at the age of 21, it wasn't that much more. Most of the advice here has no action steps... my advice would be the following:

1) Start paying close attention to build your credit—get a free credit report from the government website annualcreditreport.com. Learn about disputing negatives to clean up your credit. Use an existing credit card (with no balance) or sign up for one, put a small charge that you pay every month and pay it off every month! This way you build a positive pay history and don't carry a balance or pay interest. Your credit is very important, it will determine your cost of ownership and ability to obtain things like insurance, loans, cell phones, and ability to rent in nice areas.

2) You need to figure out what your strengths are, and the standard of living you're willing to have and align those things. This is no easy task for anyone. I would start with doing some sort of strength assessment like Gallup's Strengthfinder. Many people have ideas about what they'd LIKE to do or what they're "passionate" about, but very few people figure out early what they're truly good at (without being biased). If you find out what you're good at, you can align that with what companies are willing to pay people like you to do. Find a job that plays to your strengths. Sales jobs can allow you to earn a lot of income without a degree/a ton of experience. If you've ever done a service for money, consider a freelance business. Read http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog

3. Automate your savings now. Use your company's direct deposit setup to split your paycheck into multiple savings accounts. I have a vacation fund, a property tax fund, a car repairs/maintenance fund, etc. This is extremely powerful if you understand behavioral science. You will never conciously save anything, you must make it automatic to win. Max out your 401k if you have one through your work.

4. Be a good Dad. Teach your child the principles of liberty and help them understand private property. Respect your child's property also. Educate your child and help them to learn their own talents and strenths.

5. Use your network. Ask for help. Ask your parents, friends, family, when you need them. Always repay your debts to them. Your friends and friends of friends will to the most incredible things to help you find work and get on the right path. Help them do the same, for this is the Law of Reciprocity.

Yes! Right, get good credit not to use it but to benefit.

A lot of things are discounted if you have a high credit rating.

Putting $FRN in the bank is risky in this economy. Currency Inflation over the last 99 years has been around 9% a year. So on average 9% of the purchasing power of savings evaporates every year.

I collect scrapped brake rotors, aluminum and copper. If it gets hot enough to evaporate, I won't be caring. Plus I can get it for free most the time.

Metal scrap has more value if clean. So I tear down hard drives for the non magnetic stainless, the cast aluminum, copper and the neobydnium magnets and the steel screws have a bucket. I've torn down autos also.

I can do teardown when listening to Ron Paul or Mises.org youtubes etc. I get wealthier and wiser at the same time.

Free includes debt-free!

Proverbs 22:7

My advice is don't live paycheck to paycheck. Stay out of all debt; including not using credit cards. Then make more money. Because money talks and BS walks--so profound I know. In my opinion, that is the advice you need at this time.

Advice for men

Men are taught to stand up for what we believe in, the stories we are attracted to as children are those of perseverance against overwhelming odds...and we tend to be more interested in true stories of that sort (like History).

Amazing trait, we condition ourselves our whole lives to deal with adversity. Yet, a man's true pupose is to provide stability. He prevents difficulty and hardship. The most amazing leaders are not Napolean or Mcarthu but rather the silent leader who provided stability.

Man should be stable, that is our role and it is rarely appreciated.