Getting a Good Buzz From Your RelationshipsSubmitted by vinceableworld on Mon, 11/12/2012 - 11:50
This post is for the single men out there who are really looking to find their soul mate. Do you want to get a real good buzz from your next relationship?
In three days my roommate's girlfriend goes back to Europe. After that then it's just two guys on the town and look out! I myself am recovering from an intense relationship that lasted only about 3 months total. She just up and left 3 days ago due to the intensity of our relationship. It was just a little to hot for her and it was expectedly abnormal to be in that intense a relationship with someone she barely knew.
That’s how I like to do it though. I see no reason for love to take years to brew before it becomes intense. We only have so many hours, minutes and days in this form. It’s imperative that we squeeze as much love out of every moment that we possibly can. I’m convinced that is the most powerful force in the universe and to spread LOVE is our best defense against the evil powers that control the attention spans of most on our planet.
My roommate and I get along really good. This morning his girlfriend ditched him and we just hung out all morning and complained about women. I’m not in any way trying to talk him into breaking up with his girlfriend. On the contrary I think they are great together. Should have seen them Texas Two-Stepping, I was all smiling and living vicariously through them ;)
With respect to our vibrant discussion about women, I was just generally saying "yeah - that does really bite about women but they all do it,” to pretty much everything he was going through. Point is men, they are very simple creatures. In fact they may be just as simple as we are. Now am I a “relationship expert?” No definitely not. In fact this post could ruin all your relationships to come just by putting an idea of how things should be into your head so read on at your own risk...
Apparently my roommate’s girlfriend split from him once too. Three times actually. Just up and took off with no notice whatsoever. They’ve now been together for 5 years. True love takes real commitment, from a man. It is my assertion that women are by nature unable to commit and hence it is survival of the fittest. We men must prove ourselves on a daily basis. That can be looked on as a curse but it may also be the reason many successful men in this world can dedicate their success to someone they love.
You can expect nothing but conflict when you take two separate lives and thrust them together, especially in the form I am advocating for. 72 years of combined experiences to morph together overnight! Ker-POW! That’s a lot of data to compile! Things are bound to overheat occasionally. I would like to teach (if I thought I knew something) a course on "love creation." So basically treat love like a roller coaster. If you never get on it you'll never truly experience what it's like.
People in today’s society, largely in part due to the overly negative mass media, have to go through so many walls of fear in order to trust each other. Let’s put this into perspective:
For every event of someone being harmed which is the majority of what the LAME stream covers, there are literally billions of events where someone smiles. We are being generally defrauded that you cannot by and large trust people. We’re being conditioned to not trust each other as a result of the corporations' agendas that profit when we pay attention. That profit when we do not trust our neighbor.
When our goals are: Love, trust and security why not just start there? Trust is the eventual goal, yet we hold back our own trust from another even though we want their trust too. It's kind of insane when you think about it. Obviously real trust must be earned. The question is can we constantly be on guard for anything which may cause conflict, that has it’s source in our issues of trust? If we can bite our tongues in those cases for even just a couple of weeks, the resulting rewards are bound to give us the positive reinforcement to carry on.
God forbid you can't trust the individual. Of course they may steal your money and you should obviously not fly to Calcutta with someone you barely know but short of that why would you not go all-in from the get-go?
Call it a fairy tale! Every woman loves a lifetime special. Ask her on your first date if she would like to participate in one. Tell her your dream date would be with someone who is generally tired of dating and would like to put all her cards on the table from day one. If you are both good people, commit from day one. Trust from day one. These two things, trust and commitment, will give you both the security to be able to open up, from day one. You can be kids again :)
If you can and you start there, the result is MAGICAL!
I’m telling you we did it that way. I asked her if we could commit from the first moment we knew we really liked each other. I just wanted us to be able to trust each other, period. We could realize that if we are both good people we were done looking because we're both so tired of the search and all we had to do now was to work on a great relationship.
That is a very tough road to hoe. It takes a daily commitment to not fall back into old ways of thinking about relationships. It was one continuous moment in time for each of us. Now just imagine the kind of relationship we had. It was only possible because we allowed it to happen (any two people can do this). It was by definition a fairy tale. Will she be back? Only time will tell but I believe I have stumbled onto a very real way to help others find an intense love of their own. Like all new ideas there's bound to be a few false starts. It's all part of the scientific method. In this case it's about finding out how to create "better love."
All you need is two individuals who are ready to take that kind of leap.
With respect to women that just up and split for no good reason, some men may consider that those are girls that are just unstable. Yea blame them, maybe they just don't want to put up with our crap anymore, ever considered that?
I met a girl in a pizza place two days ago. She was very nice and was sitting there alone. I honestly just didn’t want to eat alone so I put myself out there and asked for an invitation to sit down. She smiled and said she would appreciate the company.
She apparently split on her fiance 3 times! Man, women can be torturous beings!
...so the girl I met at the pizza place who split 3 separate times from her fiance has been with him for 3 years straight now. She got tired of splitting and he was able to weather the storm. I guess if the woman up and leaves you with no notice that is a good thing?
So that is the goal men: Find a woman who will up and leave you. She'll make you feel like hell while she is gone because you have no idea when she may be back. She's just scared that's all. Hopefully she will return someday when that fear subsides.
...and perhaps put you through this hell multiple times.
BREAKING NEWS: That is the key to happiness :)