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Want to help someone? Shut up and listen!

When most well-intentioned aid workers hear of a problem they think they can fix, they go to work. This, Ernesto Sirolli suggests, is naïve. In this funny and impassioned talk, he proposes that the first step is to listen to the people you're trying to help, and tap into their own entrepreneurial spirit. His advice on what works will help any entrepreneur.

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Very good TED this one!

Very good TED this one!

Everyone! Stop what you're doing and listen! Listen!

Listen to this message! DO IT NOW!!!

9-11 was a panda job.

Listening, a trait lost among people who think they are doctors

What the speaker said concerns health too.

A word the speaker used is respect.

Re + spec(t)

re: go back to
spec(t): sight

Therefore,

Having sight that goes to what you're interacting with.

To the person whose activity is to improve health of people: Refrain from thinking yourself a doctor. Rather, place your mind on what it is you do, on what your function is: improve the health of someone whose words to you mold your recommendation to him and what you do to him.

To do this places you second in the relationship that is the patient and you. Yes, the patient is first. You are after your patient. His words are ontop of yours, they are in front of yours. They manage your thinking. To heal, listen, then act -- and continue listening so you can adapt if need be, adaptation being what you would do reflecting what the person you're treating says and does.

Why I recommend this refrain is because most people, especially those who live according to a document issued by a centrality functioning on force, let alone force increasingly, think therefore act to term rather than to definition, short (sighted) rather than long (sighted). In thinking and acting this way, sight for life being short, you are automated, and because you think that way, the person you interact with is a number, a nonlife form.

Automation from you, which shouldn't be so because you are a thinking being, when your interaction is with a thinking being, occurs when your response to him derives from something besides him. The externality can be anything, say, a book, someone else or class of people. The externality is a substitute for your patient rather being what it is to your patient, a guide to understanding what he says and does.

This thinking and acting -- short -- supplants opposites for each other, causing your assessments to be wrong and, consequently, your solutions to be exacerbations.

Remember: Don't grab for answers because it transforms them; rather, receive answers so they retain their form. Listen, then do and when you do, listen so that what you do is good.

School's fine. Just don't let it get in the way of thinking. -Me

Study nature, not books. -Walton Forest Dutton, MD, in his 1916 book whose subject is origin (therefore what all healing methods involve and count on), simple and powerful.

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