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Doctor Says I Have Tumor- Chemo Only Answer (final update)

Hello Friends,

I am writing a final update because I know that Dean would want me to. You were all kind enough to offer suggestions and prayers in September and we meant to respond with thanks, but Dean had gotten worse and voluntarily went to the hospital a few days later. He was diagnosed with severe hypercalcemia, which is a complication of the late stages of cancer. He was treated and released when his blood calcium levels were brought back to normal. He was given hospice care at that point. In a week the levels went back up again and he was readmitted ten days later. This time the levels went down, but not to normal. His health continued to deteriorate and he passed on October 19.

By the time Dean was diagnosed in June, it was already way too late for minerals, diet, alternative medicine, or even the oil he had such faith in. His blood calcium levels were already rising in July. That was the reason he was vomiting, losing his appetite and energy. We thought the vomiting was a reaction to the oil, but he was in fact dying.

I cry daily and am so angry. The cancer didn’t suddenly appear in June when Dean was diagnosed. He’d been going to follow-up visits to his head and neck oncology surgeon, who happens to be the chief surgeon of a prestigious teaching hospital in NYC. He’d had a pinhole which discharged for more than six months before it opened up into a hole, and his doctors just said it was from the side effects of radiation and to cover it with gauze. We trusted them. And though we had no idea that this pinhole could suddenly open up, rapidly enlarge, that the arteries inside the hole could begin to deteriorate and bleed so that he’d need a blood transfusion, or that a huge mass of a tumor could develop around it; I’m sure that this world renowned surgeon who’s written countless books and articles, and has an entourage of interns following him all day, had some idea months before it happened.

The head and neck surgeon had told Dean two years before that if the cancer came back, he wouldn’t be able to help him. It can’t be proven, but I believe that since there was nothing he could do, he didn’t feel he needed to bother to tell us of the possibility or send Dean for tests to see if the cancer had spread. The surgeon may not have been able to help Dean and Dean certainly couldn’t have any more radiation, but maybe alternative medicine or the oil could have helped him if started six months earlier, before he was in the end stages of cancer. He didn’t give us a chance!

I’m sorry to to share such a horrible event. I’m still debating as to whether or not to post this.......I believe Dean would want you to know. He loved this site and valued everything that was shared and posted here. Peace to all of you. I hope the new year finds you all healthy and happy.

Sincerely, Susan



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I'm so sad to learn of this,

I'm so sad to learn of this, but I am glad you posted and will continue to check in here. Thank you for sharing the details. I completely agree with your suspicions and skepticism about the way things played out with his medical people. What you describe MUST be rampant with oncology because the efficacy rate of chemo and radiation is so incredibly low...how can any oncologist recommend any of these treatments when they already know that only 5% live more than 5 years? In their world and viewpoint it is enough to prolong life by a couple years, a few months, or even mere weeks....yes, they will put patients through painful and debilitating treatments to extend life for only a short time. If they do otherwise they are sabotaging their profession. By the time they have gotten to where they are they are thoroughly indoctrinated with the chemo koolaide. The other doctors just take it for granted that these interventions are worthwhile.

My dad was diagnosed with colon cancer about a year ago. They found a polyp about 2mm during a colonoscopy. They scheduled him immediately for colon resection. I advised him not to get the surgery for several reasons. First of all, they could not provide any data/statistics on the survival rate for patients w/ his condition who opted to do nothing or use an alternative treatment. They could only cite statistics among those who got the treatment...so how can you compare? Secondly, a resection is pretty radical and if for some reason my dad ended up with a colostomy...I think that would be the end of him anyway...because I don't think he would cope well with that. This whole time the medical people have acted with such authority, and the whole thing has been treated as a very regimented program...and they were quite shocked to see my dad opt out. He seems to be doing really well now and is still showing no signs of illness. He's been doing alternative treatments and feels that he may have reversed things, but has no way of knowing as they won't give him another colonoscopy.

I don't think many people question the oncologists and cancer industry when they are faced with this illness because they trust these 'respected' professionals to know what they are doing and have been having success or these 'experts' wouldn't be where they are. To me it is smoke and mirrors...maybe the experts are where they are because they went along with the program despite poor recovery statistics. To me that makes them a sanitized form of Auschwitz. It is a disgrace that for all the billions of dollars and all the stupid pink ribbons, they have made absolutely no progress against cancer after all these years. Yet, they are so unwilling to examine or implement other promising alternatives. It is really despicable and I am so sorry your family went through such a tragedy. There just has to be a better way.

Best of luck to your dad.

Dean opted against chemo twice because the statistics were not favorable. I wish he hadn't done the radiation either, but who knows, maybe he wouldn't have made it to 53 without it......or maybe without it, he would have been strong enough to fight the cancer using alternative methods?????? I do know that the radiation, which he had twice, resulted in the loss of his jaw. We were lead to believe that without it, the cancer would spread. Well, it did anyway. And as a result, his jaw became so brittle that it fractured and he had to have the left side of his jaw removed. What teeth he had left, didn't align and were filled with holes anyway. Needless to say, his diet was limited. I'd make soups, mostly cancer fighting vegetables, and put them through the blender. He'd have fruit smoothies and juices, but he lost weight and was weakened. As the weight came off, he'd have ice cream shakes to put it back on, ignorant of the fact that the sugar is not good for cancer. Maybe all the radiation caused the cancer to spread. It IS a disgrace. All the money and for all those years and still nothing......meanwhile look at the advances we've made in technology.
Lots of health and happiness to you and your family...esp. Dad!

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Very heartbreaking. I

Very heartbreaking. I remember reading his posts and it is just so sad - I'm so sorry you two faced this. You seem so strong and together. I don't know that I could handle it so well as you. Hugs.

Victoria,

(hugs) back!

9/11 was an inside job .....time to get some answers..RP 2012

Thankyou, Thankyou, Thankyou. I was worried so much

about you both. I'd even posted about a month ago asking anyone if they had any info on your situation. I am so very sorry you've lost your wonderful husband! Will be praying for you.

Christians should not be warmongers! http://www.lewrockwell.com/vance/vance87.html

Thank you

for your concern and prayers. I did feel bad about not updating, but things got to be so awful ...and then..

9/11 was an inside job .....time to get some answers..RP 2012

Poem from Rumi for you Susan

Please read it -- it will help remove the stress/pain.

http://www.dailypaul.com/267884/rumi-poem-on-death-dying-and...

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Love won! Deliverance from Tyranny is on the way! Col. 2:13-15

Thank you

for Rumi.

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Rumi

said his death should be celebrated as true birth.

Love vibes.

LL on Twitter: http://twitter.com/LibertyPoet
sometimes LL can suck & sometimes LL rocks!
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Love won! Deliverance from Tyranny is on the way! Col. 2:13-15

Thank you

I remember your post.

LL on Twitter: http://twitter.com/LibertyPoet
sometimes LL can suck & sometimes LL rocks!
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Love won! Deliverance from Tyranny is on the way! Col. 2:13-15

Dear Susan,

I've had some similar experience. Basically having my own version but it's moving so SLOW. Lost my dad the day before you lost your Dean. Watched my brother die in Sloan Kettering when he was just 30.

It's such an unnatural thing to get older then your older brother.

And I remember those holes in his flesh too. And the pain he suffered. And how at the end an autopsy was performed and they couldn't find any cancer in him. Which led some of us to believe they basically chemoed him to death. And how that early treatment window was lost in mis-diagnosis. And how every medical treatment they offered, we THREW it at him and all it did was unnecessarily prolong his suffering. That and it broke our family's financial back.

Dean's process of life and death is complete but now you are in a grieving and mourning process. It takes as long as it does and not hardly a second less. And anger is a natural part of it. Anger at doctors, at family (when treatment options are disputed), anger at ALMIGHTY GOD HIMSELF.

Try to go easy on yourself. It's not about Dean's life anymore. Now it's about your life, how you keep going and eventually get through this and create a new life. It ain't the one you asked for and it ain't the one you wanted but now it's the one you have.

May Dean rest in peace and may you find it. PM me any time.

Be brave, be brave, the Myan pilot needs no aeroplane.

Thank you.

My heart goes out to you. I hope you too can find peace as well.

9/11 was an inside job .....time to get some answers..RP 2012

Wow, that is so

Wow, that is so awful...chemoed to death. I think you are on to something there...and I think it is happening to AIDS patients as well. Sorry your family went through that.

<3

I'm so sad about this!

Please, everyone, learn about "alternative" cancer therapies, and take it seriously, before crisis hits. Most people have *no idea* how effective natural approaches can be, and they ridicule what they don't understand.

Hugs to you, Susan.

Thanks

for the hugs. Yes, it needs to be before crisis hits. It needs to be a way of life for everyone. It seems to be rampant.

9/11 was an inside job .....time to get some answers..RP 2012

A heartbreak is helped by having

friends around who truly care. We do care, Susan. Know that you are not alone. Please stay with us and post or comment from time to time. RP supporters are the most caring people I've ever known. We are "there" for you and Dean is truly missed here. May God give you peace in the New Year.

“It is the food which you furnish to your mind that determines the whole character of your life.”
―Emmet Fox

Yes!

Dean knew this about RP supporters. He loved RP. When I figure out how, I'll post a photo of his car. The rear window is covered in stickers. The main ones are RP stickers. He put one on my car that covered the entire rear window. And we had a five foot "ReLOVEution" banner on our house . He brought our then 3 year old grandson to see RP at a book signing. Wheeled him in a stroller and took him on the ferry to Manhattan and introduced him to RP as his "youngest supporter". He was passionate about RP! Peace to you too!

9/11 was an inside job .....time to get some answers..RP 2012

What a terrific story to remember and pass on to the grandkids!

Love the ferry rides to Ellis Island and the Statue of Liberty. Susan, do you live in NJ, too?

“It is the food which you furnish to your mind that determines the whole character of your life.”
―Emmet Fox

rEVOLution!

Nonna, we live in Staten Island. I feel so sad that the future grandchildren won't have the pleasure of knowing Dean. I am thankful, though we were taken by surprise when it happened, that Dean did get to be grandfather at least once. He was awesome at it!

9/11 was an inside job .....time to get some answers..RP 2012

So Sorry to Hear of your loss.

Our condolences and prayers are with you. I hope you also have a network of friends whom you can get together with to remember good times with, and to cry with. It really helps.

((hugs)) We understand the hesitancy to post, it took courage to do it and we are thankful. Thank you for sharing the enjoyment Dean took in being on DP. I hope you will find comfort in posting and viewing DP as well. You may PM or reply to me if you like. My father died of cancer as well, and it was a hard road for all.

"Hence, naturally enough, my symbol for Hell is something like the bureaucracy of a police state or the office of a thoroughly nasty business concern." ~~C.S. Lewis
Love won! Deliverance from Tyranny is on the way! Col. 2:13-15

Thank you.

He was on DP religiously until the disease took his energy . That's when he asked me to post back in Sept.
I will continue to at least view for punkskaguy.

9/11 was an inside job .....time to get some answers..RP 2012

Rest in Peace Dean

I will pray for Dean and for you today.
Thank you Susan for this final update.

Visualizing Aaron Russo talking with Dean right now in heaven.

LL on Twitter: http://twitter.com/LibertyPoet
sometimes LL can suck & sometimes LL rocks!
http://www.dailypaul.com/203008/south-carolina-battle-of-cow...
Love won! Deliverance from Tyranny is on the way! Col. 2:13-15

Thanks for the prayer and the

giggle....I needed that! I'm sure you're right!

9/11 was an inside job .....time to get some answers..RP 2012

I was thinking about your husband at Christmas time

Good thing you posted this update.

My best friend is in stage IV of cancer the final stage.
He surprised many doctors who a year ago were giving him only 2-3 months to live.

Glad to hear my comment cheered you up.
I have a feeling Dean is still reading the Daily Paul.
That is another image I visualize while I type these words.

Peace to you Sister in Liberty!

LL on Twitter: http://twitter.com/LibertyPoet
sometimes LL can suck & sometimes LL rocks!
http://www.dailypaul.com/203008/south-carolina-battle-of-cow...
Love won! Deliverance from Tyranny is on the way! Col. 2:13-15

World without Cancer by Edward Griffin

Please search 'World without Cancer' on YouTube and watch it. Edward Griffin also wrote 'The Creature From Jekyll Island'.

Thank you.

We watched a few months ago, but I wish we had seen it years ago. I will search "The Creature From Jekyll Island" though.

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Watch this with an open mind

Please watch this video with an open mind. When hope seems lost you can be open to other alternatives that may help. Just turn off from all of the typical false propaganda about this issue and remember about pharmaceutical dominance over medicine for profit.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rzUGuuXWr8

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Thank you for posting that

Thank you for posting that link. I'm watching it now :)

It is easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled. – Mark Twain

Thank you.

We did see this and Dean tried, but it was already too late...

9/11 was an inside job .....time to get some answers..RP 2012

Oh Gawd ((((((((Susan)))))))

Having dyslexia is bad enough, when you add tears.. well, please forgive me for I can't really see the screen right now, but I am so moved.. sad.. so very sad.. so many ways.. funny,, I hate the cumputer right now because I can't reach out and hug and hold and and express how sad and sorry I am.

We have lost a great patriot and friend on the DP. Wow.. October.. it was so crazy at that time.

Thank you for the update (((Susan))) God Bless you contantly and abundantly. This news is crushing to me.. I can't imagine how it has been for you.. I'm so very sorry for yours and our loss. Huge.