My New Year's Resolution: To Treat Others with KindnessSubmitted by Denise B on Mon, 12/31/2012 - 15:26
I had a somewhat profound experience here on the DP the other day and I wanted to share it with all of you. I had a conversation with another person on this site that resulted in me taking a hard look at how I had spoken and treated a fellow DP member, and I did not like what I saw. I had disrespected and made cruel accusation against this person that, quite frankly, were unfair, inappropriate and worst of all, unkind. The unusual aspect of it was that it was not so much the person I had made the accusations against that had gotten so disturbed about my comments, as the person who pointed it out to me, who apparently had cared a lot about and respected this individual I had offended.
The whole incident really got me thinking and served as a needed reminder to me that the words we use DO matter and how we interact and treat each other DOES matter. In fact, I don’t think that there are many things that matter more in life than how we treat and respond to each other. It is easy to forget, in this world of i-phones and computer screens that there is an actual human being on the other end, with the same desire for kindness, love and respect that we also have.
There is so much uncertainty going on in this world right now and so many of us are experiencing feelings of dread, anger and fear about what the future holds for us and our families. I know that I, myself, am angry a lot of the time about what has happened to my country and that anger has started to filter itself into my attitudes and actions towards other people and if I allow that to happen, the enemy has already won. The people that have worked so hard to destroy this country want nothing more right now than for us to turn our anger towards each other...that way we are too distracted arguing and fighting with each other to ever turn a focused eye on them.
We are all fellow human beings on the same journey together and mutual kindness, love and compassion are the only things that are going to keep us united on anything. In fact, they are really the only things that truly matter. I realize that it would be next to impossible for all of us to agree on every subject, every time., but, I would like to think that the one thing we can all agree on is that we are all in the same boat right now...facing the same future together.... and if there is any way we are going to find a way to turn this ship around we are only going to do so by working together, truly caring about one another and building each other up, not tearing each other down. I think a good way to start is by remembering that the words we use towards each other do matter.
So that is my New Year’s Resolution. I resolve to go out of my way to treat others, even those that do not agree with me, with kindness, love and respect (whether or not they have treated me in kind) and I invite any of you, so inclined, to join me. Love and kindness truly do have a domino affect. Just imagine what could happen if everyone committed to going out of their way to do one act of kindness, each day, for another person and vowed, to the best of their ability, to always speak kindly to others...even those we don’t agree with.
I wish all of you at the DP a very Happy New Year! I love each and every one of you! Let’s make 2013 the year that we reclaim our country together!