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Gone in an instant


She is being kept on life support until they can harvest her organs. The driver of the truck that hit her was uninjured, and the driver of the car she was in suffered only a concussion, and a broken heart.

My nephew is a redhead and too smart, just a total geek. He did not find her until he was nearly 30; they worked together in a milkshake stand while he finished his Masters. They were just lovely together. The wedding was a beautiful summer day in an outdoor venue in downtown Salt Lake City, the two of them were clearly having the time of their lives.

Politics and SSRIs came between his mother and me - his mom is my sister. She has not spoken to me in a couple years now, until last night. It was really good to hear from her, and yet it is so incredibly sad.

I wish I had some really insightful thing to say about all this... All I can come up with is to remember to be good to those you love, they can be taken from you in an instant.

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I'm sorry fishy

Your family will be in my prayers.

When we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the Universe.
~ John Muir


Praying for a miracle. Come back to us when you are able and let us know what happens. We will be watching for you.

Your other family.

"Its easier to fool people than to convince them that they have been fooled."
Mark Twain

The peace and comfort of Christ to you

and your family.
There are no words--my prayers are with you.

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So true, sorry for your loss fishy.

I feel like God sent me a similar message last night. My father lost his breath and passed out for a few minutes right before the power went out in the superdome. While my family was spared death this time and got lucky, the timing was quite unlikely and I felt it was a message to me to spend more time with my dad, seeing as he could die just like that. Gone in an instant, just like the superbowl could go away with a mass power outage, gone in an instant.

I'm sorry for your loss and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

The individual who refuses to defend his rights when called by his Government, deserves to be a slave, and must be punished as an enemy of his country and friend to her foe. - Andrew Jackson

OMG ((((((((((((Fishy))))))))))))) :-((

What a tragic accident and tremendous loss on the physical plane for love.. and yet.. it amazes me how the spirit moves so quickly, that it reconnected you with your sister, and this was something you wanted, and your niece in law chose to be a doner, so her body is going to give a new lease on life to many people who desperatly need help, some who would have traded places with her.. but God, and yes, I believe in God, works in such strange ways,, as if this wonderful person, who had so much LOVE to give, is already expanding that LOVE to your family and the world. My heart goes out to your nephew and your family and her friends. I can not dare imagine the agony of losing someone who LOVED LOVED LOVED me and made me HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY.. it breaks my heart.

I read the article, and the comments, and the comments bother me because people are attacking the driver who doesn't remember anything leading up to the accident due to what he thinks is an epiletic seizure.. people are saying he shouldn't have the right to drive, and gettting political, wanting to take away rights as a solution.

I saw this before.

I was driving in Las Vegas, facing West, had the top off my Samurai and stopped at a red light with a Jeep, that had it's top off in front of me. As we sat waiting for the light to change, while a white pick up, with a trailer full of mended shopping carts, was passing through the intersection going about 10 miles below the speed limit, shinning in the sun, the chrome reflecting everywhere.

The light changed, and I followed the jeep making a left turn into the left hand lane as the pickup was taking the right. Like the Jeep, I began picking up speed when I saw what looked like an explosion of milk, and a little boy's body was on the hood of the jeep, who drove like he suddenly lost control until he stopped and the body fell onto the street, apparently dead from the impact. I pulled to the side and parked. The driver got out of the car. He was young, and went out of his mind. He totally lost it. He whailed and ran in circles just out of his mind. The wind blew the bag of groceries, the gallon of milk had become an empty jug, the bananas were smashed, and the box of frosted flakes blew like snow. The money and the prize in the package blew to me. So I opened my door and picked up the money and prize. I saw people amassing on the street as the pick up made a slow turn into the parking lot to drop off the repaired carts to the grocer.

As the driver continued to whail, I would have normally gone to the child and checked for vital signs, using my long years of life guard training.. but the little boy's body was so broken, so I didn't dare touch it to cause further injury. I walked over to the driver, and I told him, "I saw the whole thing; It's NOT your fault. It's NOT YOUR FAULT!!" ANd he grabbed me and hugged me so hard, as if I was his rock for the moment. He was devestated, afraid, filled with such utter sadness, as held him tight and said nothing to him, but asked God, to take this pain away from him.

The police and fire engines showed up, and as they advanced on the scene, I went to the cheif and told him I was a witness, gave them the money, explained that I was behind the driver, and being neither of us had our tops on our vehicles, the little boy, having left the store, saw the slow moving truck and not us. The little boy thought he could beat the truck, so he ran across the street, not the intersection, and ran into the Jeep.

The accident became a political issue. The people who lived in a low income project across the street, friends of the family, protested the speed limit, demanded the city reduce the speed limit, and used the little boy as their "poster boy". He was 10 years old, the oldest brother and his mother had sent him to the store to buy dinner, for the family.

As the trials began, the people had no heatrt for the young man that drove the Jeep. They harrassed him merciless. He was 19, and had returned from his two year long Mormon mission in Japan only two weeks before the accident. His family was dumbstruck. He was so sad and broken, I imagined he would need therepy and tons of prayer to recover.. I don't think anyone ever really recovers is that kind of accident. The judge wound up ruling that the accident was "an act of God". I had never heard of such a ruling, but honestly, I was glad for it. I was not practicing Catholic at the time, but a hard core Objectivist.. still.. from my position, it was an accident. The people got the speed limit reduced to 15 miles an hour. I don't see how that was a solution, afterall, to me, the soilution would have been using the pedrestrian's crossing at the intersection.

The accident, which has touched you and your family, reminds me of that, because I see that the comments are saying the person who hit and killed your neice in law should not have the right to drive. But I am sure, that the driver is suffering tremendously from waking from his seizure and discovering he has taken a life and seriously injured another's. I know if I had been that driver, I would NEVER get over that moment. NEVER!

I believe your family now has an Angel who will continue to multiply the LOVE within and around each of you, and everyone her body touches. It seems an act of God, as God many times takes the best among us far too soon, and in an instant, changes the lives of many.

I still have the prize from the package of frosted flakes. It was a orange plastic lock. I have thought long and hard on the symbol of that, and it blowing to my car door. Really it was amazing, as if God was handing the money and prize to me.

Well.. very tragic.. I am sorry for what happened to you and your family, and hope that you and your sister rebond with LOVE that holds you forever and ever. LOVE, BBG


I read the comments below, and could not figure out what you meant... then realized you mean the paper, and went and read those. I was very glad I read your story first. Here is what I posted there:
"Any one of us can drop dead while driving, heart attack, stroke... This young man was diagnosed as epileptic, but what if this had been his first seizure? This is a terrible, terrible tragedy. "NancyJoW" is my sister, this is also my nephew and his wife. God's Law is that life is precious, and this ought to remind us all to be good to those we love. There is absolutely nothing that men's laws can do to change the nature of God's laws. Rather than demand more laws, please search your heart for more compassion. Please pray for our beloved nephew, these two were truly special. And then please throw in a prayer for the young man who hit them, this will change his life in ways even he does not yet understand. But please, do not expect the government to be able to prevent tragedy."

I sure do love you, you old Randbot.

Love or fear? Choose again with every breath.


What you wrote was absolutely WONDERFUL.. I am torn up over this.. so very sad.. I'm not supposed to cry, but it's hard not to.. and it's not just tears of saddness, but more of tears of how God works... You, in your post are so AMAZING, and I'm sure you not only AWED people in your words of LOVE, true compassion, at such a time, whoen YOU are suffering from tragic loss, but are teaching people how to be better people because of LOVE.

How blessed I am to have YOU for my friend.. I THANK GOD and I THANK YOU, and I THANK your family for showing me what LOVE is.

God's greatest blssings upon you and yours and everyone you touch, forever and ever! AMEN BBG

aahhhhh. =( so sorry for your family.

heartfelt condolences.

So very sorry fishy.

Been there.

Bless you and your entire family.

So sorry.

So very sorry, fishy. Prayers

So very sorry, fishy. Prayers for you and family.

thank you

I hardly slept, keep praying for a miracle. Maybe she will come out of it before... I'm going to try to go back to bed.

Love or fear? Choose again with every breath.