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Personal Criticism

"Do you know someone you would like to change and regulate and improve? Good! That is fine. Why not begin on yourself? From a purely selfish standpoint, that is a lot more profitable than trying to improve others--and a lot less dangerous. It will probably take from now until Christmas to perfect yourself. You can then have a nice long rest over the holidays and devote the New Year to criticizing other people. But Perfect.......Yourself.........First. 'Don't complain about the snow on your neighbor's roof,' said Confucius, 'when your own doorstep is unclean.' Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain-- and most fools do. But it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving. 'A great man shows his greatness,' said Carlyle, 'by the way he treats little men.' When Mrs. Lincoln condemned the Southerners during the Civil War, Lincoln, with malice towards none and charity for all, said to her: 'Don't criticize them. They are just what we would be under similar circumstances.' Instead of condemning people, let's try to understand them. Let's try to figure out why they do what they do. That's a lot more profitable and far more intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance, and kindness. 'To know all is to forgive all.' The brilliant Dr. Johnson once remarked: 'God Himself, sir, does not propose to judge a man until the end of his days.' Why then should you and I?" - Dale Carnegie, How To Win Friends and Influence People

I criticize others around me and behind their backs much too often. I worry too much about what others are doing when I should be focused on myself. I can afford plenty of personal criticism so here goes nothing.

I am a slave to television, as well as caffeine, sugar, and wasting time on the internet watching pornography, facebook stalking, or spending a considerable amount of time calling other people dumb names here and elsewhere. I judge others and have a negatve attitude too often. I hold ignorant prejudices for no good or real reason. I have a dirty car and room right now and some homework I'm procrastinating as well. I haven't shaved in a few months. I have said mean things to others for no good reason. I try to believe in God and I say I believe in God in my head but my actions show actions of a man who does not believe in God. Even my punctuation shows a sign that I acknowledge God but my actions of slothery, gluttony, and adultery show otherwise. I sin when I know my sin is wrong, it seems I am a helpless sinner.

It is time for me begin anew working to change myself each day. The goal for tommorow will be to avoid drinking anything but water and to resist turning on the TV, getting on facebook, or watching porn. I will replace these habits with reading the copy of Ron Paul's End The Fed I recently purchased.

I encourage everyone to take a moment to criticize themselves before criticizing others. If I put my foot in my mouth please remind me how bad it tastes.




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I find that if I pray for guidance from my higher power, then the next indicated step becomes evident. If I am doing something that I am supposed to be doing, then it feels right. If not, then I can usually tell.

Moderation is important. In fact lately, I probably need to moderate how much time I am spending here on the DP. What I like about the DP is that it gives me an outlet to dig deeper than the surface while concurrently feeling a sense of community of those who view the world as I do. I am grateful for the DP.

We are defined by our habits. If you watch TV 90% of your free time and get outside 10%, you are probably thought of as a couch potato. Conversely, if you get home from being physically active and turn on the tube to wind down, you'd be defined as motivated. I'd prefer to be defined by healthy and positive habits, but we all have our guilty pleasures.

Lately I've been trying to bear in mind that this is a rEVOLution. I am trying to love those who are willfully ignorant. It is not easy, but there is freedom in detaching from a conflict. Besides, nobody is going to listen to someone who is deriding them or beating them down, even if it's with sound facts and logic. We have to love them until they wake up.

Thanks for the post. It gave me an opportunity to look at myself.

The founders would be ashamed at us for what we are putting up with.