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The Battered Wife Syndrome Streak in the Liberty Movement

It's 3 am and keys are heard fumbling for the lock at the front door. In stumbles the drunken husband with that familiar look in his eye. The concerned wife literally paralyzed with fear, carefully chooses her words as she knows where it has led before. "Where have you been, I've been worried about you" she squeaks. The husband flies into a drunken rage, tearing up the house and spewing vile insults while smacking her across the face before he retires to their bedroom to pass out.

As the battered wife sits on the couch with ice on her face, she recalls the days when they dated, and how he was a good man with noble intentions and values. "If he could only stop drinking" she asks herself. "Maybe if I were a better wife, or tried a little harder things might be different." "Where did I go wrong," is the last thought that passes through her mind before she nods off from exhaustion.

The husband wakes in the afternoon, staggers into the kitchen still half drunk, and sees the wake of destruction he'd left the night before. His wife is at the stove cooking him breakfast and staring into the pan of bacon and eggs, trying not to reveal her black eye. He gently approaches her and slowly raises his hand to caress the side of her face.

"I'm sorry" he whispers.. "You know I've been having a rough time at work. I didn't mean to hurt you my love. Please forgive me. It won't happen again. I'm still learning and growing. I see the light now and new truths have been revealed to me." The wife breaks down crying and throws her arms around him, knowing deep down that the timer on the vicious cycle, has just been reset.

Some people (including myself) in our movement unfortunately have suffered from a lot of the same characteristics that were in the scenario above. Our movement is filled with good people who want to see the best in others, and want the best for themselves and everyone else. We want to believe that the media will some day come around and be that watchdog and whistle blower that they may have been in the past. We crave truth, transparency, accountability, and stability. We want our elected officials to stand on principle rather than for personal or monetary gain. We want them to honor the promises they made in the beginning when they were initially courting us.

The simple fact is that like alcohol, money, power, and control can be equally if not more addictive. The perpetrators in the corrupt media and Government will say or do whatever they have to, to keep that addiction fed and their jobs secure. In some cases they are like the battered wife, too scared to speak out for fear of losing their income or superficial status they've gained. In others it's just a case of being drunk on power and sick to begin with. They revel in the suffering of others and have no remorse. They feed off the innocence of children and laugh at the ignorance of the populace.

It is time for some in the liberty movement to wake up and look in the mirror. How many times are we going to be smacked in the face by these characters like Beck, Levin, and Limbaugh? Politicians and pundits alike, all try to slink up and caress our cheeks when they think it is safe, but will turn right back around and backhand us when the time comes to feed their addiction and feather their nests. They all have one thing in common, which is trying to maintain your trust so they can keep abusing you.

It is the age old fable of the scorpion and the frog. They sting you because it is in their nature. Absolute power corrupts absolutely. The problem now is that the house of cards along with trust in these individuals is crumbling. They are going to say whatever they can to try and keep or regain your trust.

I'm all for holding out a sliver of hope that some of these individuals will wake up, wander off the reservation and start blowing the whistle, but I am not going to automatically throw my arms around them because they are now claiming to "see the light" while holding out phony apologies. Especially after all of the warnings we have given them in the past. Ignorance is only an excuse for so long.

It's time to get out of this sick relationship IMO. It's time to find common ground with fellow Americans (battered wives)who have been taught to be pitted against us and expose the men behind the curtain, as well as the ones on stage doing their bidding. It's time to try and build bridges with the police and military so they know we are on the same side. It's either that, or they're going to have to pick a side.

We outnumber them. Right now, we have the power of the internet to spread information and plant seeds in so many places like never before. That is probably going to come to an end or be restricted heavily at some point. It's time to start focusing on yourselves and your loved ones and bracing for impact. I'm afraid that the cancer is too far advanced and it's only a matter of time.

You can write me off as cynical or uncaring, but I've become wise to the abuse. How many times are we going to reach out and touch the stove to realize once again that it's hot?

It's either time to bug out, or bunker down. There is a storm on the horizon, and all we can do is manage what is in our sphere of influence. We may not be able to stop the storm, but we can do what we can to try and survive it and rebuild afterward. Part of that preparation, is mustering the courage to stand against those who have been taking advantage of our good nature for far too long.

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I never married myself to the

I never married myself to the ideas of Beck or Limbaugh (who is Levin?) in the first place. I mean jeeze, I know Beck wants the Liberty demo for his audience, but who in the world equates Limbaugh with Liberty?

Very Good! And we do

Very Good!

And we do outnumber them. Never forget this folks, as TPTB are working 24/7 to demoralize us...

If my need to be RIGHT is greater than my desire for TRUTH, then I will not recognize it when it arrives ~ Libertybelle

Pretty good analogy.

This is EXACTLY why I give NO QUARTER to the disingenuous rats like Beck, Levin, Limbaugh, Hannity, Medved etc.

ESPECIALLY the A-HOLE Michael Medved who slammed Ron Paul for 2 weeks straight on his radio show after Ron came in 2nd in New Hampshire's primary.

Medved told lie after lie to hurt Dr. Paul's chances.

And his stupid establishment republicans followed these him right off the cliff like the lemming sheeples they are.

So THIS "battered wife" will NEVER let those rats hit me again.

I SAY NO QUARTER for any of them.

"We have allowed our nation to be over-taxed, over-regulated, and overrun by bureaucrats. The founders would be ashamed of us for what we are putting up with."
-Ron Paul

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well said, ps12...

I stand with you!

its 'cos I owe ya, my young friend...
Rockin' the FREE world in Tennessee since 1957!
9/11 Truth.

I'll admit

I skimmed over some of the wordier parts, but this right here is the strength of your post. Often, this very simple notion goes untapped:

"We outnumber them. Right now, we have the power of the internet to spread information and plant seeds in so many places like never before."

The other point I'd like to add-on is the "end of history biased money-bombers"

A common theme with those who have been living in the fringe is to shoot-down new ideas because by their standards: one else in the "liberty movement" can do anything quite as great as the money-bomb plan that "launched Ron Paul"...

This needs to stop. We all think it's bad to the bone, but it's not the last time something awesome will be done. Let it happen.

BMWJIM's picture

Bravo, Bravo, You are guilty

of reading my heart and mind my friend. You know that is why I do what I do. I help freely when I can but prepare as need be. You, Jefferson hopefully have opened a few eyes this day. Your words are truth.

My thoughts are always with you my friend. You know how to get in touch with me if needed. The garden is looking very promising this year. It now encompasses 14 states. Just pass the seed and a good time.

Jim

1976-1982 USMC, Having my hands in the soil keeps me from soiling my hands on useless politicians.

Your battered-wife analogy

Your battered-wife analogy may not be a bad one -- despite the rabbit-trail it's sent many here down -- but it goes off the rails for me.

Between the lines, however, I think it makes a very good point, and one, I'm assuming, you didn't mean to make.

The reasons a woman stays with a man who hits her have little to do with the flowers-sorry-after-the-fact stuff; they have to do with the woman's poor relationship skills and poor judgement. She's not wooed by the tender apology and promise of reform; she's wooed by her own fears of changing her patterns in relationships.

If you had used your analogy to deal with this aspect of the liberty movement, I'm thinking you would have made a more salient point.

Rather than advocate "bug out" or "bunker down," your point would have been to be more mature and discerning, to form relationships based on evidence and trust and benefit rather than on fear, weakness.

Blaming the perpetrators -- you mention Beck, Levin, and Limbaugh -- won't do you any good. Like the battered wife, who finally leaves her husband but maintains HE was only to blame, you'll just go back to another incarnation of your Becks and Limbaughs.

You do write that you're addressing only "some" in the liberty movement (by the passionate responses generated I'm assuming this "some" is at least well represented in this discussion), but that "some" would be better advised to change THEIR ways of assessing who they will trust and form relationships with. Don't blame the BLOWHARDS you choose to listen to and engage with and depend on for YOUR twisted relationship with them. The sick relationship isn't coming from THEM; it's coming from YOU.

In short, if you would have used your battered wife analogy to blame yourself -- and by extension the "some" in the liberty movement -- I think you would have been off to a great start and some apropos observations.

As is, however, the thrust of your piece preaches a stance that leaves folks in danger of leaving one bad relationship for another. You seem caught up in the notion that because some of your trusted media personalities and/or politicians did you wrong, THEY are bad. If instead, you considered why YOU are drawn to such media personalities and politicians, you'd be on your way to be discerning and establishing exciting, provocative, beneficial relationship. You wouldn't feel your choices are boxed in by bunker or bug out. You wouldn't be restricted by a defensive reaction. You'd be free to be a nimble, engaging, demanding partner in the relationship.

Gosh, I read through that and am doubtful that it will make much sense to anyone. My thoughts anyway and I appreciate rancorous discussion that provokes me to try to write them down.

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Thanks

for the detailed response.
I didn't mean to infer that women SOLELY make bad relationship decisions. Men make equally bad decisions. I am living proof of that. I guess the reason I used the woman instead of "Battered Person Syndrome" is because they seem to be more forgiving, and more tolerant in attempts to try and stick it out hoping there will one day be change.

Anyway, I think focusing on gender kind of gets lost in the minutia and misses the overall point. I didn't think that I just "blamed the perpetrators." It's a mutual relationship that I tried to include myself in.
If I had a nickel for every time someone posted a rant during the campaign about "what Levin, O'reilly, Beck, Hannnity, etc. said," I'd be a rich man. I didn't find myself as affected by their antics as I did in the '08 campaign. There was a lot of misspent energy going and attacking their Amazon book ratings, or various articles. It just caused more blowback than good. It got to the point where these cretins would purposefully insult Dr. Paul just because they knew they could get a rise out of us. Just one mention of a "fake eyebrow" and thousands of people would swarm like killer bees.
The point I was really trying to make was to try and get "some" people to think about where energy is best focused at this stage of the game.

We are staring down the barrel of a possible financial collapse and major civil unrest. I just want people to take care of their health, their sustainability, and their sanity to try and endure whatever the uncertain future holds. I don't fault people for wanting to try and make changes in the GOP. I just want them to make sure their own essentials are met before they expend more energy in that direction. As my mom likes to say "Jesus blessed his own whiskers first."

(IDK if my response made any sense either, but I thought I would at least make an attempt to clarify)

I hear you. And using

I hear you. And using "battered women" was genius in getting folks discussing, even if it sideswiped your point a bit. I do believe that's called good marketing.

I guess the part I take issue with is that there's any such thing as making sure our own essentials are met before acting. Whether with the GOP or anywhere else. Conjure up all the classic heroic tales. It is rarely the guy who has it all together and wants for nothing who's called to engage. We all work from fragility, from inadequate resources and skills.

To wait and hold out for some sublime window when we're in full health, resource laden, and certifiably sane...well, wouldn't that be a tad boring? Wouldn't we be thrust into constantly assessing our health, resources, and sanity? Why not just proceed? Despite weakness, because of weakness, whatever.

One of my father's recent wisdom-isms kind of flies in the face of your mother's -- at least as I understand it; never heard that one. "You could spend years overcoming your weaknesses, or you could decide to pursue your strengths."

I like this idea: don't hide behind what you feel inadequate about; just go do what you're good at. Too much navel-gazing and trying to fix ourselves going on, I'm thinking. Who cares what you're bad at? Do what you're good at; the bad stuff will probably sort itself out along the pursuit.

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I agree

with you to an extent. As MN mentioned the other day, we had people donating blood to get money to donate to the campaign. Where did most of that money go? It went to feed the MSM and the very cretins who often times had us chasing our tails.
To me, it comes down to where is energy BEST focused at this stage in the game? I'm not advocating "navel-gazing." I'm advocating self sustainability, strength, and awareness of where energy is best focused.
Sometimes you have to get off the merry go round to get your bearings.

Thanks again for the thoughtful response.

It's because people are

It's because people are idiots and think others can change. They can't. When they do it's a temporary facade. An addict of any type will always relapse, and especially if they are ones using religious cults like AA, or even religion period, as a crutch. This is one reason I hate preachings of unconditional love towards everything and everyone. It blinds people to truth.

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really?

People can't change? Speak for yourself.

I'd rather be a hungry patriot than a satisfied slave.

People don't change and they

People don't change and they almost always lie. Change is a facade and the real person sneaks around behind the scenes.

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jaded much?

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Nope, I just don't get caught

Nope, I just don't get caught up in getting attached to anything, so I can be an unbiased observer. People don't change.

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If you're talking about

If you're talking about destructive behavior, well... people do change but there's no one left in their life to see it a lot of times. It's after they hit rock bottom.

As for you, I think you'll change. You'll accidentally fall in love.

Nah, I'm a nonviolent

Nah, I'm a nonviolent psychopath unable to experience good emotions other than anger.

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People can change

I'm proof.

Sometimes all it takes is 1/4 of a second of a trauma and they're a different person for the rest of their life.

There's other methods too.

You can change your own personality.

I should been more clear

I should been more clear stated that no one changes for the better. Trauma changes people, but for the worse. Any change toward the good relapses...always.

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Women good

men bad.... Really? this is liberty? Be careful which myth you're inadvertently perpetuating, however appropriate the analogy may be. These gender issues played a big role in knocking down Ron Paul so patronizing the Feminist movement here might not be where the payoff is.

Both have scum in their

Both have scum in their "group." Most females play mind games and put males through stupid gossip-magazine-written trials and most males just keep females around for sex. We're also not built to be mere friends with those we're attracted to. That's another instance of genders using another to make someone jealous. Mind games. Satanic voodoo. Men and women don't play these games, and it's time people are identified for what they are. I don't care if people have a family. If they trendy assholes who are always going out partying, they aren't men and women, they're just boys and girls raising people to be more boys and girls.

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nail on the head

both sides have sold freedom for a few more cream puffs. Kindness is so important in creating an inspirational environment yet the truth can emancipate a child. Listen, feel, model compassion, but stand resigned in the truth. our culture is a mess and it is no accident. Golden opps of growth

battered wife

Well Duh. I figured out, about 5 years ago, maybe 10, that the relationship of most people to government is the same as that of a child to their abusive family. As a matter of fact I wrote extensively on this. Enter the two words orwells boot into any search engine and the first non comercial item to come up is mine, usually under the name factotum666. (On yahoo,I am 1,2 & 3) It is a 6000 word article but pretty clearly shows that nature made us to be stupid, (unwilling or unable to learn from the physical world) and obedient to authoriy (authoritarian)

By us, I include YOU. Conspiracy theories are excellent examples of this. But I digress. If you have a few hours, read the article and its links, especially the one to xfoolnature.org

Be strong be resolute.

The push is on and they want the shove to come.

Regardless of who fires first it will be said we did.

Peaceful exercise of liberty strengthens it while violence causes atrophy.

When one tastes of liberty only then does one receive its gifts.

Be not the one to fire first.

Great injustice unknown prevails but in the light of day recedes.

Stand tall, we're the moral.

Again, 3 am.

Everything bad happens at 3 am.

The law cannot make a wicked person virtuous…God’s grace alone can accomplish such a thing.
Ron Paul - The Revolution

Setting a good example is a far better way to spread ideals than through force of arms. Ron Paul

Excellent Article.

Now I want to ask everyone in the liberty movement why they would bother to vote for ANYONE else except their local sheriff?

The sheriff is the only vote that counts (if of course they count it). A constitutional sheriff could then reform the system from scratch in his/her particular county.

Great parable.

Unfortunately true too many times for women...and for the liberty movement.

As for me, the year 2000 was the last year I was duped and will strive hard to not get duped again.

Bill of Rights flyers

I would love to just give one to every cop I see and remind them they work for the people to protect these rights they would be staring at on the flyer, not what your chief dictates, the oath you swore to

kind people rock

you got four more years of hell, suck it up ;)

this is not all directed at my man Jefferson but a combination of post where i see what i call a defeatist attitude....

we got 4 more years. if rand does not win then you can go hide in the spider hole but let's not just give up when we are so close.

doing nothing politically is not the answer but you're free to do nothing if you choose. just don't discourage others who want to do something to try and prevent a chaotic collapse. we may not prevent the collapse but we can try to wake as many people up through rand as we can. sure you can sit back and not vote for better politicians and let the bad ones pass more laws to arrest you with but remember Colorado legalized mj by "voting".

i want to forge the most peaceful transition to a voluntary ancap society as possible. the most peaceful way this will happen is through rand 2016. if we can't make that happen (which i know we can) then yeah it's pretty much over from what i see now. for sure get your family squared away with food and protection but don't give up just yet, give it at least another 4 years. sure be agorist and work around the system as much as possible but that alone will not solve the problem. but yeah raise chickens and grow food etc etc.

if everyone goes into their spider-holes now it's as good as over. if you do then you've given up on the most peaceful solution and are embracing a bloody one. we may not be able to prevent a bloody battle but i for one am gonna try.

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Your analogy is offensive.

I think the best advice for writers is write about what you know, and in your case obviously abuse is not it. Let me help you.

It's 3 O'clock all right but not a.m., it's p.m. and you sit in your chair watching the clock tick off the last fifteen minutes before the buses will take you back, there. You miss the announcement the teacher just gave, and the sound of your rowdy, restless classmates only serves to heighten the mounting sense of dread.

What will happen today? Will your drunken father hurl you from your rooftop because you are eight and can't tell the difference between adjustable pliers and standard pliers? Will he drag your little brother out into the yard for no reason you can comprehend, tie him to the ground and beat him with a belt until he bleeds? Will he beat you again the way he did last week so long and so hard he has to send your siblings for a refreshing glass of tea to cool himself off?

Maybe he'll use some stupid excuse to banish you from your bed, sending you to sleep in the hayloft instead. Maybe he'll tell neighbors weeks before he does this that he has a coyote problem, and then maybe when it finally is 3am he'll sneak out the back door and fire into the side of your barn where you are sleeping at the imaginary coyotes no one else has ever seen?

Then again, maybe he's not home. I suppose you think that might be good, but you know otherwise. You know every minute he is not home he's out pouring a sixty thousand dollar a year paycheck into little brown bottles, and it won't be long before it occurs to him that it's all your fault.

Your fault he can't be a lawyer, your fault his daddy did not love him, your fault he's stuck with a family , a job and a life he never really wanted. It's your fault he's an alcoholic, it's your fault he beats you, and man are you going to pay. You are going to pay because no one is going to stop him, or even believe that such a great guy could ever do anything remotely like this. But mostly you are going to pay because he is a weak scared little man who needs to beat his family to feel like a man.

Key in the lock? Forget that man you better not lock his door! No surprise at the door for you, because you and everyone else in the house have been on high alert since early evening and everyone scrambles instantly to 'battle' positions the second his headlights come tearing down the driveway.

Then there is that eerie second of divination that seems to last a lifetime and hangs in the air like a eerie morning fog over the countryside. Will he be drunk? Will he be sober and mad anyway? Maybe, just maybe he'll come home take off his boots and sit down quietly before going to sleep, maybe. But it only lasts a second and then the door slams open, and all hell breaks loose!

He does not do a cinematic open handed slap, he grabs your mother, or your brother, or you and with his fists proceeds to beat you down where you stand. He straddles her on the kitchen floor and beats her like a school yard thug, pounding on her back in while she wails in pain. Then he leaves her on the floor, a beaten frightened mess, and now it's your turn.

You, because he knows you hate him, because you are smart enough to try and escape this wretched hellhole, and because he knows what you would do to him if you ever got the opportunity. And so with his boots he stomps you into the floor, "Run you piece of shit! you think you are smart?!, I'll kill you, you son of a bitch you fuck with me I'll kill you! Just try and run, go ahead I'll fucking bury you!"

Yeah, you are way off base my friend. But your inane 'Hollywood' depiction of abuse is not what pisses me off. What pisses me off is that you would liken me to a woman that allowed her children to experience this hell and never got the courage to leave.

Libertarians are not apathetic victims. They are not lamely hoping that despite the abuse things will get better, they are fighting back. Maybe they have been fooled in the past, perhaps that is true, but if it's true they quickly figure out who is real and who is not and they take steps to correct their voting habits to reflect what they have learned.

As for me, I left home when I was fifteen, and I sure as hell ain't nobody's victim, so save the drama for Hollywood.