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I find myself in a quandary and need some DP advice!

I've always loved movies. My parents gave me a video camera for an early birthday, and ever since then I've been fascinated with the idea of playing out whatever scenario I could dream of and showing it to as many as I could. With all the fear embedded in the TV/film industry, I could be a positive voice in the mix, a truth warrior and a non-conformist. That's why, after high school, I declined a full academic scholarship to my favorite state university and moved across the country to LA to pursue that dream.

Now, almost 9 years later, I find myself in a difficult situation.

I love living here. I found my wife and made a home with her here. I have an amazing full-time job editing a TV show, with two more confirmed to come after, employing me for the year at this foreseeable point (which in this town is REALLY good to know). My wife is an actress, and a really damn good one. She hasn't hit it big yet but she will and its in her heart. We have a group of close friends that have taken a really long time to make. Besides all this the weather is fantastic.

On the other hand, the taxes here are out of this world. It seems like every single person LOVES Obama and its heresy to say anything bad about him. I'm "that Ron Paul guy". My paycheck gets raped every week, even though a lot of it's federal. I have a suspended driver's license because of a couple tickets that exploded so fast in price I couldn't handle them from the get-go AND the city seized my car and auctioned it. That was almost four years ago and I'm still paying it off. With all I've learned about a possible economic collapse, any number of "terrorist attacks", etc, this city is not the one to be in. If I prepare myself right, I could possibly weather out some crazy @$%. But then again, I live in an apartment in a low income area of town, no yard to plant vegetables in or anything like that, and people could get really crazy around here in a worst-case scenario.

I don't know what to do. I love it here but there are some downsides. A job is really good to have right now, but could another emerging film town need my talents? And how recession-proof is my industry really? It might be better to stick around here with people I know will give me a job if they have one. And... I can remain a positive, non-conforming truth warrior in a shallow sea of adherents to the elite world of self-admiration and nepotism.

Any fellow DPer advice would be welcomed!

PS I just started buying gold, I know, a little late but better late than never!

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For the tickets & license suspension...

...contact Marc Stevens at marcstevens.net. The best way is to call in to his live podcast.

As for the rest, start asking questions around town about Laurel Canyon. You'll learn quick enough that being associated with an Isis/Aten cult is something to avoid.

The best advice is to forego Hollywood myths and produce stuff directly onto the internet. Use product placement for revenue.

The Carolinas

SC is freer than NC (I so need to move across the line)but we have Hollywood pop up around here a lot. Part of The Patriot,was filmed at Cowpens Battle Ground in SC. Radio, also SC. Last of the Mohican's and Dirty Dancing, part filmed in my area of western NC
Taxes are cheaper, we have loads of theater out here, housing cheaper, and loads of room...if your in the right area..for a garden.
You could maybe teach a film class at a local college, maybe be a scout for Hollywood in this area, hook up with other film makers, and your wife could be in some of your films, and do theater.
Just a thought..I have never been to the west coast myself..but my husband is from California. He left there about 25 years ago..and has no regrets.

I believe in Hope & Change..I Hope the government will Change
Spindale-Rutherford County-North Carolina

Your post reminds me of

Ron Paul spending so many years in congress. A place where he was the lone voice of reason. It must have been difficult but right.

My pastor would always say "God will use you no matter where you are"

We need liberty lovers in all parts.

Life is full of unexpected twists and turn as well as crossroads

Its your life follow your dreams, be fearless.


I will never live in a state where I have to pay an income tax.

I barely want to live in a country that has an income tax.

Income tax is pure theft.

Maybe you could live in a state without an income tax and invest that 10 to 13% you're paying in CA state tax into gold/silver.

"We have allowed our nation to be over-taxed, over-regulated, and overrun by bureaucrats. The founders would be ashamed of us for what we are putting up with."
-Ron Paul


Fred: "Is that you Hannah"

Hannah: "Oh Fred I missed you so. I feel so alone. It is like invasion of the body snatchers where everyone is under the control of a foriegn entity. I struggle at every turn to try to convince people that the signal coming across the TV is evil and brainwashing them but they just won't listen. None of the actors on TV, from movie actors to newscasters, seem to have any morals as they spew the propaganda of their masters, for FRNs, with a smile on their face. Everyone else around me just eats it up. I've been trying to master organic food production so that those in my immediate area can at least have a chance to survive such a collapse but my whole operation was raided and destroyed by armed federal soldiers even though that is not Constitutional. My dad is in prison for selling milk to people that wanted to buy his pure, untainted milk. My mother is in prison for refusing to keep my sister on untested psychotropic drugs that were making her violent and suicidal. My grandma had her home stolen from her because inflation did not leave her with enough resources to eat and pay her school taxes, even though she has no children in school. Can you help me?"

Fred: "Oh, I wish I could but I have an appointment to read for the lead role in a movie about a handsome bankster that falls in love with the daughter of a criminal farmer whose land was taken away after wild mutations of a chemical company's plant migrated into his fields; it's a love story"

I guess I'm not alone

Have you considered the 3rd Hollywood?

Austin, Texas

Pretty city with a small town feel, cheap real estate, good weather, good food, culturally liberal in a very conservative state, lots of good music, and much more!

EDIT: I see many have already suggested Austin!

"All our words are but crumbs that fall down from the feast of the mind." - Khalil Gibran
"The Perfect Man has no self; the Holy Man has no merit; the Sage has no fame." - Chuang Tzu

Beg your pardon, Sir. May I borrow....?

... "your lost footage?" 2 minute film.

Disclaimer: Mark Twain (1835-1910-To be continued) is unlicensed. His river pilot's license went delinquent in 1862. Caution advised. Daily Paul

The entertainment industry

usually does well during recessions because people need escape, although living with the hypocrisy of the Hollywood liberals must be difficult. In business, it is usually best to keep your politics to yourself and like minded people. I was born in San Diego and now live in Temecula so I know how onerous the economic suitutation is for our state. I recommend taking day trips out of town whenever you can. Sounds like you want to garden so try to find a cooperative in your area. Safety can be an issue in a crowded city so make sure you and your wife have your earthquake backpacks packed and ready to go for whatever situtation. Try to be pragmatic without letting fear hold you back from your dreams.

Stay put and remain positive

Shit happens. Remember that even in a world without tyrannical government, shit will still happen.

Keep doing what you love!

Imagine if Ron Paul said "gee, nobody in Washington DC seems to agree with me... maybe I should just leave this place..."

Take some time, think about all options and follow your Heart.

You seem to have the answer within you already so all I can affirm is that do what FEELS best to you. As Michael already said, and I agree, do not act out of fear. And especially don't even try to think about what you fear if you are in a state of fear [you talk'n crazy, Ninja!] What I mean is, if you are anxious about needing to make a decision, that is NOT the right moment to make that decision. Clear your mind, relax and take a moment to reflect about what matters and what you appreciate the most. Make decisions with those feelings in mind rather than ones of fear anything less.

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

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I think

I think you've answered your own questions.

"I love living here." and "....here with people I know will give me a job if they have one." Those are two very strong points to stay just where you are.

I can't really add more as I think that Michael Nystroms post really says it all.

Two shorten the road.

You are happy

There's no reason to move if you're happy.... plus, you can be like Kfed when your wife gets famous.

But thats just what I think because there's snow on the ground and it may be worth a few extra taxes to not deal with 25 degree weather anymore. lol

Hard choices man

Stay put and start pushing on doors in other places ... when one opens you will know it.

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Strive to be happy

Live you life to the fullest everyday. Tell your wife you love her. Work to excell at your work.

Since you are both artists, it used to cost $13.00, but I found Julia Cameron's (Miami Vice TV) "The Artist's Way", very helpful for my life as an artist to advance with me in control.


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The Artist's Way is down to $9.30

Amazing what efficiency and distribution has done for (some) book prices.


A great book.

Michael - I used to have that book but I loaned it out and you..

...know how that goes.

Thanks for the reminder of "The Artist's Way"

It is a great book!

"We have allowed our nation to be over-taxed, over-regulated, and overrun by bureaucrats. The founders would be ashamed of us for what we are putting up with."
-Ron Paul

Move to Texas!

Alex Jones is having a contest right now worth $115,000.00 dollars. He is looking for people to produce a liberty minded video. If you win, he'll offer you a job.

Look into it. There are no state taxes in Texas.

Good Luck!

Austin move to Austin

They have a film industry there I think.
But don't move out of fear, move out of opportunity.
Do you think Your wife will only make it big out in Cali? Then who cares what things cost now?
Otoh, my bud moved from San Diego out of his 800 soft condo that he paid $400k and moved to Houston and bought a 2500sqft house in the nice neighborhood for $250k.
The biggest question you have to ask yourself is, "are you happy?"


Get out as fast as you can

Buy a piece of land and grow your own food.

I grew up in Southern CA

and I won't move back.

I now live in VA. My reasons aren't all political or economical BUT
The economy is in the toilet out in that state, every year they pass new ridiculous laws, the environment morally is poor (in my opinion), and its too crowded there.

"Once you become knowledgeable, you have an obligation to do something about it."- Ron Paul

Stay put.

There is no dream libertarian utopian state...or even anything close to it.

We tried a move a few years back to a state that was supposedly conservative and constitutional. There were, on average, more conservative and/or libertarian people there, but not so much as to do a dent even in the GOP central committee for that particular county.

So before you get up and go, just know it isn't really all that greener anywhere else.

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Live the life in front of you

People have been fearing a dollar collapse and mayhem and pandemonium for decades, at least since the early 70's when Nixon took us off the gold standard. There is an entire industry devoted to fearmongering.

I don't have advice for your specific situation but what I would say is this: Don't make your decision out of fear. Fear-based decisions are nearly always bad. I've yet to meet a good one. In fact, focusing on the fear tends to help manifest what you most fear.

For example, I know a guy who sold his triple-decker (that's what they call a triplex out here in Boston) in 1987, after the stock market crashed. He was convinced that the whole market was going to hell, and he wanted to get out before it did, because he was afraid of losing.

Fast forward to 2005 when I met him, and the house he sold for $100K was worth well over half a million. Not only does he not have that asset, he's missed out on all the rental income (probably 5-6K per month today for 3 units) he would have had. The mortgage payments would be minuscule today, and/or the house would have been completely paid off.

In a way, he attracted what he feared: poverty.

There is that old saying: "Sometimes you meet your fate on the road you took to avoid it."

Obviously your situation is different. No one here on the DP can make your decision for you. That is yours and yours alone.

My advice is this: Instead of focusing on the fear, focus on the love: The love for your wife, for your friends in LA, for your job, and above all, the very miracle that is your life and everything that led you to where you are. Get reconnected with how happy you were when you first got your job. Focus on the love. Let it grow. Feel how blessed you are.

When you do this, new vistas will open up for you - new ways of seeing your world and your situation. The world will change for you in mysterious ways.

You are what you think about. Or, as Pink Floyd put it, All you touch and all you see, is all your life will ever be.... Take care as to where you put your focus.


I would give the same advice: Do Not Make Your Decision from a Place of Fear.

As Tony Robbins says in his book "Awaken the Giant Within", one of the first things they teach race-car drivers is to LOOK (i.e. to FOCUS) where they want the car (YOUR LIFE) to go.

Watch SharkTank and see how many people are chasing their dreams.
Search for the Mark Cuban interview on Howard Stern and listen to how his passion made him.
Listen to the Joe Rogan podcast (http://blog.joerogan.net/) and listen to the stories the guests bring - they are people who don't pay attention to all the fear - they're too busy chasing their dreams.

You think Ron & Rand are preparing for disaster? Absolutely not. Don't buy into the End of the World crap.

3 Steps I would Take:

1) Put down whatever source material is preaching fear.
2) Get back to what you love doing - get lost in the process, never mind trying to "make it happen"
3) When you're doing what you love - follow your impulses. They may not be logical - but they get you where you want to be if you follow them ONLY WHEN YOU FEEL THAT PASSION COURSING THROUGH YOU. (If you're filled with FEAR and you follow Impulses, they lead you to more FEAER-based scenarios)

Dana White, head of the UFC says in his interview with Joe Rogan that at 19 years old, after being a bell-hop at a hotel in Boston for a few years - he couldn't take it anymore. He quit that job thinking "F* this - I gotta be in the fight game." The draw to his passion was too much to bear anymore. And by some "lucky" happenstance, he ended up becoming a part of this new "fight scene" at the ground level.

Forget about logically thinking "they're all fear-based directors, so i'll be the voice of positivity." Stop focusing on them.

Why do you want to be a director?
What kinds of movies do you LOVE?
What kinds of ideas would YOU want to see in a movie?

Keep the focus 100% on making movies YOU WOULD LOVE TO SEE, leave other people out of it.

That's what Quentin Tarrantino did.
Same with Spielberg. (at least in the beginning of his career)

Here's the litmus test for your movies: Do they give YOU goosebumps?

It's like a comedian who thinks about his act too logically - it's not INSPIRED.
Write a set that makes YOU LAUGH YOUR ASS OFF - that's the formula for a Great Set.

Give yourself GOOSEBUMPS; they are contagious.

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Look where you want the car to go!

Thanks for the reminder! I remember seeing him tell that story. Here is the video:

"Focus on what you don't want to hit, and you'll drive right into it."

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worth watching!

worth watching!

Two shorten the road.

Extra income:

Do good and you could win.


"What if the American people learn the truth" - Ron Paul


1.) Dallas has an emerging film/music production scene
2.) Austin has a well established but still penetrable scene
3.) Your wife should look at Acclaim Agency, they do work in Texas & Louisiana (maybe LA too, can't remember.) Also, Clutts (which might only be modeling, but they could certainly recommend something.)

4.) Yes, move.
5.) If you're looking for the right niche, Dallas you'd move to Oak Cliff or Bishop Arts District (Rent: $400/month - $1200/month) or Austin SE off Oltorf would probably be good ($700/month - $1400/month.)

6.) Move. Suck it up and do it for your family. It sucks, I know.
7.) I'm assuming SoCal is where you are, whether in or outside of LA; if anything goes haywire---not the right place to be if you're out of dough my friend. (My family is from California, cost of living is insane!)

Dallas sucks

Austin all the way! Just stay west of I-35.

"All our words are but crumbs that fall down from the feast of the mind." - Khalil Gibran
"The Perfect Man has no self; the Holy Man has no merit; the Sage has no fame." - Chuang Tzu