The Platinum Rule: Do Unto Others...Submitted by chris cudnoski on Mon, 03/25/2013 - 03:07
...as they would be done unto.
(I believe I got this from Jim Rohn)
The Golden Rule - 'Do unto others as you would have done unto you' - is just fine as far as words to live by are concerned. But there's a rule above that - you can call it the Platinum Rule if you like - and it is this: 'Do unto others as they would be done unto'.
The Golden Rule has just two failings. First, it relies on a self-referential point of view to guide one's decisions. It forces you to think "what would I want in this situation"? The other person is nearly forgotten by the time a decision is made. This is the second failing.
The Platinum Rule is more complicated but of much greater value once it is mastered. It is the kindest rule of all. It forces you to really consider the other person's feelings, to learn their desires and motivations, and to forget about one's own desires in the service of the other.
A masochist can exercise the Golden Rule all day simply by going around beating on people. Only the Platinum Rule can lead them to offer kindness instead.