Love & Marriage - Get The State Out Of 'Em!Submitted by Marc Clair on Tue, 03/26/2013 - 13:04
I wrote this article a little over a year ago, but it seems appropriate today so I thought I would repost.
Love is passion. When you have true passion, whether it’s towards another person or a craft, hobby, pet, or anything else at all, you are practicing the highest form of freedom. To fully embrace someone or something as part of yourself is something that cannot be defined or codified by any other entity or group of people. It is something deeply personal and deeply unique to every individual. It’s certainly not about special holidays, fancy dinners, jewelry or hallmark cards, though those may be very legitimate ways to express one’s love towards another. To have true love is to have true passion, and to have true passion in life is the ultimate expression of individual freedom.
You’ll often hear me say that the State (for these purposes defined as any level of government be it local, State, or Federal) is anathema to freedom. When the State gets involved in something, even with the best intentions, you can bet that someone’s freedom will be infringed upon. The same holds true when the State tries to get involved with love. Why we associate the two is something I’ve long been baffled by. But for whatever variety of reasons we have largely come to accept the State’s role in our love lives through the licensing of marriage. For many, marriage is the ultimate expression of love. For some, it is a personal symbol confirming mutual love for one another. For others, marriage carries a more religious or spiritual meaning. But regardless of the motive, most would agree that that the decisions to marry is a deeply personal one.