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Church for Jerks

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Raised Christian - became

Raised Christian - became Atheist over time but, I'd seriously contemplate visiting this church. It sounds like fun.

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So sad

Honestly, this may be the saddest portion of thread I have ever read. It is obvious that this lady has been abused by someone. It honestly, breaks my heart for her! Ramicio, whoever you are, I am praying for you! God said, that he wanted nobody to perish in their sin! He sent his Son to make that possible! However, you are right in that he knew that some would reject him. If I had a million dollars in a suitcase, and I tried to hand it to you, you would have to take it to get the money. The same is true for God. He gave you a gift, but you have to receive it. Whoever hurt you so deeply that you have blocked out the world and God is a disgusting pig! Sometimes things hurt so bad that we choose to turn off the parts of us that were created to care for others and ourselves. It seems safer, however it is no life. Yes, we think we can't get hurt anymore that way, but the truth is we just become our own abuser. We continue and perpetuate the job that the evil person or people started in us long ago. We continue to give them power over us, and allow them to continue their evil in us. However, God is still there. He did not cause the evil that has befallen you! He does not want you to perish in your sin. He wants to heal your heart, and clean away all your anger, and bitterness, and shame, and make you into a new creature entirely. That is what he wants for you! God loves you, and though you cannot understand the depth of it right now, nor maybe even desire it. He does. I see that you blame him for what has happened to you, but God never intended for evil to proliferate in the world. He did not bring it into the world. We did. We chose it. The person or persons who have treated you in an evil way, also chose it. However, you do not have to continue it. You can choose to allow it to slowly roll out of your life, and you can heal in a shower of the love of God! That is what God wants for you! Just as a waterfall washes the land, God wants to wash you.

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I love it!

But, of course, I would.

Favorite quote from the article, (where the church "plans" things)

“Men’s breakfast at 7 a.m. on Saturday? No guy in our church would attend that,” he says. “I announce it just so they feel good about skipping something.”

True jerkdom. Halleluyah!

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Actually

This is the most incredible idea I've ever heard. I've done a lot of criticizing of the church, and this is the most honest I've ever seen it. Guy who loves them and cares about them, wants to share his vision
of God's love, and doesn't want all the BS to get in the way.

I'm not even a Christian really, but I get it. This is the most positive thing I've seen in a long time. I hope it catches on.

Eric Hoffer

Being a God fearing man

I NEVER had an inclination to lie about the almost overwhelming desire to be a jerk on this thread. But like some temptations, this one too I can gladly give over to my Lord Jesus without exampling.

God Bless
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Where do I sign up?????

Where do I sign up????? Sounds like a perfect place for a few of my acquaintances and I.

I went to church once

When I was a little kid, I was in church and I and my friend start laughing really hard. You laugh because you're not supposed to laugh. Then I start telling him all kind of jokes. The priest got mad, pointed, looked at us and said...

"DON'T YOU KNOW, WHEN YOU LAUGH, YOU'RE LAUGHING AT GOD!? YOU'RE LAUGHING IN HIS FACE!"

We shut up the whole time. We weren't embarrassed but we were scared.

That was super funny

Sounds like a good place for old codgers to find fellowship. Personally, I'd rather be riding my motorcycle thinking about God, than sitting in church thinking about my motorcycle.

When a true genius appears in the world, you may know him by this sign: that the dunces are all in confederacy against him. ~J. Swift

Benjamin Franklin on going to church - a letter

TO SARAH FRANKLIN
REEDY ISLAND, 7 at night, 8 November, 1764.

MY DEAR SALLY:—We got down here at sunset, having taken in more live stock at Newcastle, with some other things we wanted. Our good friends, Mr. Galloway, Mr. Wharton and Mr. James, came with me in the ship from Chester to Newcastle, and went ashore there. It was kind to favor me with their good company as far as they could. The affectionate leave taken of me by so many friends at Chester was very endearing. God bless them and all Pennsylvania.

My dear child, the natural prudence and goodness of heart God has blessed you with makes it less necessary for me to be particular in giving you advice. I shall therefore only say that the more attentively dutiful and tender you are towards your good mamma, the more you will recommend yourself to me. But why should I mention me when you have a so much higher promise in the commandments that such conduct will recommend you to the favor of God. You know I have many enemies, all indeed on the publick account (for I cannot recollect that I have in a private capacity given just cause of offence to any
voyage and the execution of the trust reposed in him should be provided for in the next bill prepared by the House for raising money to defray the public debts. On the strength of this pledge, the money was loaned by the merchants, although a party had made a considerable opposition to the appointment of an agent who was known to be hostile to the Proprietaries, and had been active in promoting petitions for a change of the Pennsylvania government one whatever), yet they are enemies, and very bitter ones, and you must expect their enmity will extend in some degree to you, so that your slightest indiscretions will be magnified into crimes in order the more sensibly to wound and afflict me. It is therefore the more necessary for you to be extremely circumspect in all your behaviour, that no advantage may be given to their malevolence.1

Go constantly to church, whoever preaches. The act of devotion in the Common Prayer Book is your principal business there, and if properly attended to will do more toward amending the heart than sermons generally can do. For they were composed by men of much greater piety and wisdom than our common composers of sermons can pretend to be, and therefore I wish you would never miss the prayer days; yet I do not mean you should despise sermons, even of the preachers you dislike, for the discourse is often much better than a man, as sweet and clear waters come through very dirty earth. I am the more particular on this head, as you seemed to express a little before I came away some inclination to leave our church, which I would not have you do.

For the rest, I would only recommend to you in my absence to acquire those useful accomplishments, arithmetic and book-keeping. This you might do with ease if you would resolve not to see company on the hours you set apart for those studies.

We expect to be at sea to-morrow if this wind holds, after which I shall have no opportunity of writing to you till I arrive (if it please God I do arrive) in England. I pray that his blessing may attend you, which is worth more than a thousand of mine, though they are never wanting. Give my love to your brother and sister,1 as I cannot write to them, and remember me affectionately to the young ladies, your friends, and to our good neighbors. I am, my dear child, your affectionate father,
B. FRANKLIN

And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of Divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our lives, our fortunes and our sacred honor.

Thank you for posting this!

I enjoyed reading Ben Franklin's words to his daughter. I read an edited version of his biography a couple of years ago. I wonder just what all was edited out as from that reading I would not have expected the words included in this letter to his daughter. It is nice to know he encouraged her in prayer and assembly/church attendance.

You'll notice that this

You'll notice that this letter completely blows apart the Marxist conception of Benjamin Franklin that has been propagated for the last 40 years. But it also says some good things about going to church and why.

Reading the actual historical sources, and not what someone claims without any actual sources at all, is much better, and the only way you will know truth here.

And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of Divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our lives, our fortunes and our sacred honor.

"Hanson fills the church

"Hanson fills the church schedule with events that don’t actually exist.

“Men’s breakfast at 7 a.m. on Saturday? No guy in our church would attend that,” he says. “I announce it just so they feel good about skipping something.”

Services often don’t end in prayer. Rather, Hanson just says, “I’m done. I’m not even praying for you guys today. Get out of here. Go on.”

Sign me the fuck up! Wait.. I don't want to go unless I'm being forced to.

Benediction, Postlude,

then spend the rest of the afternoon at the bar for jerks just around the corner.

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Church is stupid. When I was

Church is stupid. When I was forced to go as a kid I observed that it was just a popularity contest. Peers acted the same (mean) as the people at public school. I got nothing from it just as I got nothing from school.

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Going to church to get something out of it is the wrong idea.

Going to church to get something out of it is the wrong idea.
Church meetings are supposed to be about worshiping God, through praise, and through hearing the preaching of God's word, out of gratitude for salvation, and not as a means of attaining salvation. It's not supposed to be about you. Church is also about fellowship, which is supposed to be based on how you can be a service to others.
Once you find the perfect church, don't join it, because if you do, it won't be perfect anymore.

Not for a child. Parents

Not for a child. Parents take their children there for education. Children should not be worshiping anyone. They should only choose who/what/if to worship when they are old enough to. Church is a flawed idea and unless it's run by Christ himself, it's never going to be anything good. Are you saying that it's wrong to attend church to work on one's self? Sorry, but a person needs to be in the right mind before they start preaching to and helping others.

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I knew this girl

whose father was Catholic and Mother Jewish. Subsequently, she was raised nothing. She was getting married and her fiance was Catholic. She decided to become Catholic and raise whatever children they had as Catholic. She said she didn't like it that she was raised with no faith and admired her fiance for the faith he had. She said it added a dimension to him that she lacked, that his beliefs caused him to assess his actions - how he treated people, his work ethics, his ideas of family. She thought it was terrible that parents DIDN'T teach some kind of faith in their children because she felt it would have helped her throughout her teen years had she had God to turn to.

I don't agree with your argument. You teach a child your faith and then if the child wants to, he/she can look elsewhere. It's almost like saying you shouldn't teach your child about individual liberty and should let them decide for themselves when they get older. The tyrants out there believe individual liberty to be a flawed concept that will hurt the collective. How many children, ignorant of the works of Patrick Henry, Thomas Jefferson, etc have fallen prey to such collectivist ideology?

If Tyranny and Oppression come to this land, it will be in the guise of fighting a foreign enemy.
James Madison

And your point is what? You

And your point is what?

You teach a child the lessons of your religion (rights and wrongs), you don't force them into thinking that any of it exists. That's being a tyrant. That kind of stuff is for them to discover as an adult. Children should not be going around taking communion or speaking in tongues, or having to do with anything in the spiritual realm. If a kid doesn't like church, he/she should not be forced to go. This is not a simple case of some tough love BS. All you can do is share it, and if it's not for them, forcing them to be there, making them uncomfortable, is going to turn them off even more.

Individual liberty isn't even in the same realm as religion, and if it remotely was, it would be the opposite of church (collective).

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Re: "You teach a child the lessons of your religion (rights and wrongs),"

Teaching lessons of a religion includes teaching the history of it as well as the philosophical foundations, and reasons for faith.

Re:" you don't force them into thinking that any of it exists. That's being a tyrant. That kind of stuff is for them to discover as an adult."

'Forcing' someone to profess agreement would not really result in faith but rather nominalism. So I think most churches would agree with you on that point. But Jesus taught not to hinder the children from coming to him, so it is not wrong for someone to find faith as a child.

Re:"Children should not be going around taking communion or speaking in tongues, or having to do with anything in the spiritual realm."

I don't know of any churches that 'allow' kids to take communion unless they make their own profession of faith and demonstrate that they understand what they are doing. I have no experience with the tongues thing, but as far as I'm concerned, that is more of a fringe concept distinctive only to charismatic and pentecostal churches so it's not representative of churches in general.

Re: "If a kid doesn't like church, he/she should not be forced to go. This is not a simple case of some tough love BS. All you can do is share it, and if it's not for them, forcing them to be there, making them uncomfortable, is going to turn them off even more."

One of the problems with your thinking here is in denial of the family unit. If the parents are going on vacation somewhere, it's up to the parents if they want to entrust their children to a babysitter or bring them along. It doesn't matter if the child doesn't want to go, they are a family unit and not part of a familyless collective. I think you also have a false sense of neutrality, where you view it as neutral to let the kid decide what they want to do and where they want to go, but there is nothing neutral about it. You emphasize the choice of the children above the parents where others emphasize the choice of their parents. It's a worldview principle that children are subordinate to their parents based on the ten commandments, just as it is a worldview principle that they are not subordinate to their parents. You've provided no reason to think that your worldview takes precedence over someone else's while yours is not neutral. Religious parents in general at least attempt to provide reasons for their worldview to their kids, it seems you would just have everyone opt for your worldview by default.

A child is not capable of

A child is not capable of understanding such things in life, so it shouldn't be crammed down their throats. Why do you think people say that children don't go to hell? Because they are incapable of understanding such things. It's called innocence. Kids who do this public profession of faith thing and take communion really have no idea what is going on. Their parents pushed them into it. I'd seriously question someone younger than 15 being capable of understanding what they are getting into. They have no life experience. I laugh at even high school aged kids who are dating.

We're not talking about vacation, we're talking about someone's beliefs. A child should not be forced to go to church if they profess that they want nothing to do with it. The commandment does not give parents a right to force children into a religion. It's insulting to the church to have someone there who doesn't want to be.

I don't deny the family unit, it's just not for me. It's a great thing for those who are into it, but I want no part of it. I am an individual and I will never share anything with anyone. I will not share my taste in forms of entertainment with anyone, and I will not share my income with anyone. I actually get pissed when someone who is so far on the opposite spectrum in terms of taste in music listens to something I love. Like a trendy hipster listening to Led Zeppelin. It ruins Led Zeppelin for me.

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Your word against Jesus.

Re: "A child is not capable of understanding such things in life"

It's your word against Jesus:

Matthew 19:14 "But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven."

Luke 18:17 "Truly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it."

Matthew 18:4 "Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven."

2nd Timothy 3:14-15 "But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus."

Re:"We're not talking about vacation, we're talking about someone's beliefs. A child should not be forced to go to church if they profess that they want nothing to do with it. The commandment does not give parents a right to force children into a religion. It's insulting to the church to have someone there who doesn't want to be."

What you are missing is that there is a difference between a child being forced to go somewhere and being forced to believe something. Going on a vacation in the Bahamas and going to church are both dealing with locations. Parents have a right to bring their kids where they want to. But this idea that their beliefs are forced is a straw man argument. You can't really force anyone to believe anything, you can only force them to profess agreement to something, and that would say nothing about their actual beliefs. A mere 'said faith' is looked down upon in Christianity, and making a kid go with their family to church is about education and behavior, not forcing beliefs. If the worldview of the parent says that protecting the child from harm includes teaching them theology, why should your worldview (which says that protecting kids is letting them follow their own way early on) trump the parents? It's as if you are trying to take the role of parent away from parents and give it to yourself by forcing your view upon them and telling them what to do with their kids, which sounds kind of like 1984.

Re: " I am an individual and I will never share anything with anyone. "

I suppose you'd never get married if you were consistent. What a sad and miserly worldview. I think people were made for community, and even God's nature exemplifies community in the Trinity.

Where does that read that

Where does that read that children can understand adult matters and must be saved?

Being forced to go to church as a child is basically being forced to believe in something. You're cramming a message down their throat. how do kids act when they are forced to do something they don't want to? They act out. Actually anyone does...adults are just excused for it and children and punished for it.

No, I will not get married, nor will I ever be involved with any form of relationship. In my world view, no one can meet the standards I set, I will not compromise, and so it's better I just stay to myself. I also do not feel comfortable being touched, and affection is unnatural to me, and I quite frankly think sex is filthy.

I don't believe in anything relating to being social with people, and I pretty much hate life. I really would love to live on this earth alone, or at least far enough away from any contact. What people describe as some general love, I do not understand, like that portion of my brain is missing, and no matter how much I seek things out, I don't feel any kind of presence. This makes sense, as God said he deliberately does create some people to just be damned to hell no matter how hard they try to seek him.

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hmm.

Re:"Where does that read that children can understand adult matters and must be saved?"

You are inserting the idea that theology is an adult matter, but Jesus did not teach that. He teaches that faith is something a child can have (in the verses I've quoted earlier). Luke 18:17 "Truly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it." This verse implies that the kingdom of God can be received by a child when it says one is to receive it in the same manner as a child. And the following verse shows how it is appropriate for children to be acquainted with scripture:
2nd Timothy 3:14-15 "....how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus."

Re:"Being forced to go to church as a child is basically being forced to believe in something. You're cramming a message down their throat."

Exposing someone to information is not forcing them to believe something. By your logic you are forcing people to believe as you by exposing people to your thoughts. Good parents will encourage their children to ask questions which they can then answer, rather than imposing things without explanation.

Re: "how do kids act when they are forced to do something they don't want to? They act out. Actually anyone does...adults are just excused for it and children and punished for it."

Children also act out when they need to go poop. They need to learn how to behave, and it's a parents duty to teach them that. Why should you even be concerned about this if you aren't going to have kids?

Re: "No, I will not get married, nor will I ever be involved with any form of relationship. In my world view, no one can meet the standards I set, I will not compromise, and so it's better I just stay to myself. I also do not feel comfortable being touched, and affection is unnatural to me, and I quite frankly think sex is filthy."

It sounds like some counseling might benefit you. I don't mean that as an insult, or to discredit your argumentation, but seriously, that sounds like an unnecessary aversion to affection, and you may find something you are missing by confronting it.

Re:"I don't believe in anything relating to being social with people, and I pretty much hate life. I really would love to live on this earth alone, or at least far enough away from any contact. What people describe as some general love, I do not understand, like that portion of my brain is missing, and no matter how much I seek things out, I don't feel any kind of presence."

I wonder if that is because you might have negative feelings towards yourself. I don't know if that's the case, but Christianity teaches forgiveness, and if you harbor guilt or shame, you can give it to God and trust in his promises.

Matthew 11:28-30 "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."

Re:"This makes sense, as God said he deliberately does create some people to just be damned to hell no matter how hard they try to seek him."

That is a distortion of Christian theology. It's a particular distortion known as the 'error of equal ultimacy'. You can learn more about what is wrong with that view here: http://www.ligonier.org/learn/articles/double-predestination/

Forcing a child to go to

Forcing a child to go to church is not mere exposure. They have no choice to leave. My thoughts can be simply ignored. No one is forced to read them.

I am not missing anything but parts section of my brain that make a person well-adjusted. Nothing can cure me, just like a person with no kidneys will always need dialysis. Psychology is BS anyway. Everyone is different and I am a solitary person. I do have negative feelings towards myself, and in my opinion it's called being humble. I don't want to be an asset to the world and don't want to live in a world with other people. Anyone I've ever met who has a shred of confidence is an utter jerk and just goes around making people feel like crap to make themselves feel better.

God puts people in the world who are damned as their destiny to scare those who he chose to not be damned. I am one of those people. Even if I were to feel the opposite, I really would not want to live like your common, happy, well-adjusted, social church-goer. I don't people like that and I don't want to be that. I want to be the grumpy jerk who people hate and leave alone.

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most don't pay attention.

Re: "Forcing a child to go to church is not mere exposure. They have no choice to leave. My thoughts can be simply ignored. No one is forced to read them."

Again, attending church does not force anyone to believe anything. I was forced to go to public school, but I didn't end up believing everything I was told. People are able to go to church and ignore it. My brother took his daughter to church and she said she wasn't paying attention to the sermon, so how was she forced to believe anything by being there?

Re:"I am not missing anything but parts section of my brain that make a person well-adjusted. Nothing can cure me, just like a person with no kidneys will always need dialysis. Psychology is BS anyway. Everyone is different and I am a solitary person."

I agree that people are different. Everyone is a unique individual.
I don't think there's anything wrong with being introverted or enjoying solitude. I think you are missing out when you say you don't want to share anything with anyone though, and I think you're not being entirely honest with yourself, because you seem to like to share your opinion, and that is something.

Re:"I do have negative feelings towards myself, and in my opinion it's called being humble. I don't want to be an asset to the world and don't want to live in a world with other people. Anyone I've ever met who has a shred of confidence is an utter jerk and just goes around making people feel like crap to make themselves feel better."

I think there is a kind of humbleness where you can be humble enough to accept forgiveness where it is given. It takes a certain kind of humbleness to accept unwanted gifts and compliments as well. Accepting those sorts of things doesn't always have to be about confidence, but rather it could be about charity towards others and yourself.

Re:"God puts people in the world who are damned as their destiny to scare those who he chose to not be damned."

The fact that God has purpose behind everything does not mean that he damns people against their will. People choose to sin and reject God, and sometimes he gives them what they want, even when it's damnation(which is basically to be apart from God for eternity, which is not a pleasant thing since all good comes from God).

Re: "I really would not want to live like your common, happy, well-adjusted, social church-goer. I don't people like that and I don't want to be that. I want to be the grumpy jerk who people hate and leave alone."

A lot of times being social is just being unselfish, and thinking of others before yourself; listening instead of talking, etc. I can understand how a lot of social interaction seems superficial and fake, but not all of it is. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

I tell people my opinion

I tell people my opinion because I am one of these jerks who is always right. I don't see how that relates to sharing something with someone. That kind of sharing is a two way street. I like to say my opinion and dismiss others'. I would divorce someone for having the opposite preference of which way the roll of toilet paper should go on the holder.

I absolutely believe that he chooses certain people to be damned and there is nothing they can do.

I don't like any social interaction because no one meets my standards and I don't want to meet any of society's standards. If I have no one, no one can do anything to me, and I don't have to forgive people, because I wouldn't anyway. My whole life is selfish, and it will never be anything different. I don't want to be tied down and told how I can spend the money I earn, be obligated to be at some kid's play, or even be there for someone else, period. I am just waiting to die and I am trying to impact the world as little as possible and have it impact me as little as possible. It really just comes down to money. 28 years has been too long on this earth. I really just go around the internet hoping to piss off someone enough so they come find me and kill me.

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Again, that is the 'error of equal ultimacy'.

Re: "I tell people my opinion because I am one of these jerks who is always right. I don't see how that relates to sharing something with someone."

Well you could always keep it to yourself and think to yourself that you are right. I don't see how communicating is not sharing something of yourself.

Re:"I absolutely believe that he chooses certain people to be damned and there is nothing they can do."

Again, that is the 'error of equal ultimacy'. People are not damned for an arbitrary whim, they are damned because of their sin. Jesus provides salvation to those who accept him.

Re: "I am just waiting to die and I am trying to impact the world as little as possible and have it impact me as little as possible."

Do you think it's possible that you might be wrong about life, God, social interaction, etc.? If you were wrong, would you want to know?

Again, people are chosen a

Again, people are chosen a destiny. They are put here on purpose. They are your staunch atheists and such. They are either not people to begin with, and just mere robots, or life is without free will for the rest of us.

I wouldn't want to know. I want to be what I want to be, and if I burn for it (which is likely), oh well. I see people, and there are people I just don't want to be like. It would be your good husband whose testicles were removed at marriage. It would be the guy always being social and making people laugh (just filling a pathetic void). It would be your common give-the-shirt-off-your-back person who just gets crapped on despite doing good unto others. It would be the person at church singing hymns. I don't operate that way. I operate logically. If I give, I expect something back from this world. I tried treating others how I want to be treated. It doesn't work. I am not going to purposely put myself in situations where someone is going to let me down either because they can't meet my standards or because they did it to directly try to hurt me. I have no heart anymore, and every day I'm finding less use for this life and world.

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If someone presented a logical argument contrary to your beliefs

Re: "I wouldn't want to know."

If someone presented a logical argument contrary to your beliefs, would it change your mind?

Re: "Again, people are chosen a destiny."

Their destiny is based on either the penalty for the sins they've chosen to do, or based on the mercy of God who steps in and saves some despite what they've chosen to do. Romans 9:15 "For he says to Moses, "I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion."
Yes God has purpose for having mercy on some and not having mercy on others both of whom deserve damnation for their own choices. But to say that people's choosing of their sins is not their own fault is illogical, and is a well documented error: http://www.ligonier.org/learn/articles/double-predestination/