Caregivers Helping CaregiversSubmitted by Nonna on Fri, 05/31/2013 - 18:51
This post is for all primary caregiver DPers for comments, suggestions, moral support, or to just vent, as the caregiver is under unimaginable stress 24/7.
Being the primary caregiver for a loved one takes a heavy toll on a person. Some people just can’t stand by and do nothing, even though other family members seem very happy to go on with their lives, quite undisturbed by the trauma and heartbreak of it all. But, to be fair, not everyone is cut out for the job. I dare say anyone who hasn’t been in that position doesn’t have a clue about the stress, drama, heartache, and frustrations of the seemingly never ending ordeal caregivers go through on a daily basis. Maybe some of those people will drop by and learn something that they'll remember down the road, should they ever have to take on the role of primary caregiver for their loved ones.
Being a primary caregiver is not a new role for me. I’ve had to do it a few times in the past. It was never easy but, this time is the absolute worst, because I know my beloved husband is slowly dying and it is so very, very, hard to stay calm about it. But, stay calm I must, as all caregivers must remain calm, especially in front of the loved one.
DPers who have been on the receiving end of such care, like our friends, bear and fishy, may have suggestions to help the caregivers tend to loved ones in ways that we haven't thought of yet. Anything that helps is most appreciated! Help is the one thing most of us don’t have… At least, nowhere near enough help to make things a little easier. We get tired and overwhelmed. But, we can make this post a place to recharge ourselves for the next round of problems, with the help from friends we haven't met yet.
I have always found that RP supporters, and DPers in particular, show themselves to be among the most caring and generous people on earth, always willing to help one another. That’s what this post is about. So, go ahead and vent. We understand! Heck, we will probably all take a turn at venting, too, when the stress becomes too overwhelming. I'm sorry I couldn't do this post before our friend, skippy d, burned out and I hope she is lurking here and that the Mods will reconsider and reinstate her membership, after learning about the kind of stress she is under.
Please don't hesitate to ask for help with a specific situation, because you never know... one of us may have "been there/done that" and might have the answer for you. Others of us maybe haven't had that particular problem YET, so those who have dealt with it can be of invaluable assistance for the rest of us. Just being aware of another's pain and supporting that person with warm thoughts and prayers can do wonders.
Caregivers, please visit this post often. You never know when you'll get the answer you didn't know you needed. Of course, prayers are going out to all caregivers from many DPers. May God help us all.