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It's not how smart you are, it's synchronicity.

I've been watching a few blog meltdowns here on the Daily Paul (still the greatest website on the 3rd rock). I know many brothers and sisters are sitting on the sidelines watching an uprising of sorts among voluntary users of the blog feeds.

It's hit a point where a minority of people have made it uncomfortable for some to participate anymore because of a lack of decorum. It's even come down to a point where verbal (text) assults have been leveyed against the guy that made this whole thing possible. Anyone that disagrees with their opinions are labeled trolls and ganged up on.

It reminds me of an account in history that took place in 1534 in the German town of Münster. The Münster Rebellion was an attempt by radical Anabaptists to establish a communal sectarian government in the German city of Münster. The city became an Anabaptist center from 1534 to 1535, and fell under Anabaptist rule for 18 months. Its an unbelievable story that has a tragic ending and if you're interested in a detailed account download Dan Carlin's Hardcore History Podcast episode 48 Prophets of Doom.

With that story aside I recognize there are a lot of smart people here that place an enormous emphasis on their IQ (or self proclaimed IQ). Brow beating people to a point of sensless submision or division.

What have you accomplished? What are you motives? What is the expected outcome here?

What many lack is an emotional IQ better known as EQ.

What is it?

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. Emotional intelligence impacts many different aspects of your daily life, such as the way you behave and the way you interact with others.

If you have high emotional intelligence you are able to recognize your own emotional state and the emotional states of others, and engage with people in a way that draws them to you. You can use this understanding of emotions to relate better to other people, form healthier relationships, achieve greater success here on the Daily Paul, and lead a more fulfilling life.

Emotional intelligence consists of four attributes:

Self-awareness – You recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior, know your strengths and weaknesses, and have self-confidence.

Self-management – You’re able to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances.

Social awareness – You can understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people, pick up on emotional cues, feel comfortable socially, and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.

Relationship management – You know how to develop and maintain good relationships, communicate clearly, inspire and influence others, work well in a team, and manage conflict.

I suggest we all step back and consider this as we move to syncronize ourselves here going forward.

I really hope people can take this to heart and not come back in a cynical fasion. Its important we respect this site for what it is. If it's not what you feel it should be then be mature enough to part amicibly and seek what you are looking for elsewhere. There is no reason to reform what already is established here and you have nothing to gain unless its your intent to take it down. Thats why we have moderators and I appreciate what they do.

PEACE
DEX



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Thanks Dex

It needed to be said man. Well done.

If I disappear from a discussion please forgive me. My 24-7 business requires me to split mid-sentence to serve them. I am not ducking out, I will be back later to catch up.

Thanks for a thoughtful post.

Truth will always win in the end. Anger just alienates listeners.

EQ

The brilliant new product for those who lack IQ. EQ is perfectly safe for mass consumption and completely free of testable and measurable data.

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I know I shouldn't feed trolls but

you are either a CIA plant or the most cynically unhappy human being on this site and I find it absolutely hilarious! Maybe you should try some of these methods so you don't get perpetually down-voted with every comment you make? It actually works if you put your mind to it.

Thousand-year-old wisdom that is just being re-marketed today as "doo doo" is still thousand-year-old wisdom. Read a book or two from the late 1800s to early 1900s like The Kybalion, The Laws of Success or In Tune with the Infinite and you might see what I mean. However, judging by your typical predictable pattern of responses, I'm sure you'd rather try to have something clever to say. Have at it.

And have a wonderful day :)

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Lol

I am not one to suffer fools and this place is full of them.

You know what works in the world? Good connections and intelligence. Keep doing your 'self work', you clearly need it to feel importance. It is not my problem that you need delusions to buttress your sense of worth.

A grown man who thinks he's a ninja...for freedom. Just lol. I know your type, no good job, no good education, spouting pseudo intellectual bullshit so you can pretend to be important. Its ok, do what makes you happy. Being on the DP has raised my tolerance.

Oh, and yeah, against all odds, try to have a good day =D

You know my type? Oh, really???

I put myself through college, graduated at the top of my class with honors, have had a SUCCESSFUL Career in advertising for the past decade, I got married a few years ago and live downtown in a condo with my wife, I finally bought a motorcycle I wanted for many years and I love it all!

Coincidentally, all those realizations began to happen once I got control of my senses and got to know who I really am, which was NOT the angry and cynical person I used to cower behind and lash out like a victim against the world because I felt worthless. You may identify with that more than you realize.

Not sure how "delusional" you think becoming self aware is. Are you a robot unaware of your daily existence? Do you just react to all situations in your life with baseless mockery and weak attempts to put down those who know YOUR KIND very well?

If you feel that you aren't important enough in your life to make a positive change, then that is YOUR weakness! Your negativity is THE telling sign that you are so lost that it is tearing you apart and that some "Ninja" clearly knows YOUR BS better than you assumed you know me. The fact that you lash out at the thoughts and experiences of others just proves your own weakness of character, but, if that way of living is fulfilling everything you want in life, then keep it up. However, people like you have evidence beyond a website to show you that you are lost.

Thanks for giving me EXACTLY the response I expected from you. I hope you learn something from this and actually stop being a self-righteous dick and get a hold of yourself.

No matter the conditions of ANY day, for me, it is ALWAYS a GREAT ONE!

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Well congratulations. Now

Well congratulations. Now please stop with the pseudo scientific mumbo jumbo and we'll be all cool.

And saying you expected exactly what I wrote AFTER I wrote it is just a big 'Why is he acting like a 2 year old?' *facepalm* moment. Of course I have an obligation to be snarky if you are being stupid.

God told me in a dream to persecute the stupid and the moronic =)

Hahahaha!

Ok there buddy.

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

youre right

We all know we shouldn't feed trolls but it's so tempting sometimes. I can have a rational conversation with someone I disagree with all day respectfully with no ill will toward them at all. This troll just waits to hurl insults kind of kike a monkey flinging their own poo at the zoo. Thanks for your post.

I've encountered so many of "those kinds" of people

It's so typical they don't even know how laughable it is. I'll just go on living my pseudo mumbo-jumbo life that is bringing me all my life's desires which must clearly only be a result of me being stupid LMFAO!

"This troll just waits to hurl insults kind of [like] a monkey flinging their own poo at the zoo."

Evolution clearly skips some people!

Have a great one!!!

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Some times you feel like a nut

sometimes you don't...as they say in the Mounds, Almond Joy jingle...

I really appreciated your bio and serves as an inspiration.

Lifes to short to allow for an infected heart.

Peace
DEX

For Freedom!
The World is my country, all mankind is my brethren, to do good is my religion.

Hey Dex

I posted the free audiobook for The Kybalion here if you're interested in what it's about:

http://www.dailypaul.com/288267/the-kybalion-a-study-of-the-...

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Thanks,

Ill upload it and listen on my way to the office

DEX

For Freedom!
The World is my country, all mankind is my brethren, to do good is my religion.

Thank you, Dex.

That's very true, you do feel nuts sometimes when most of those around you are clueless to the beautiful Truth underneath this conditioned life of hatred and fear. But those people serve as great lessons and we all have our purpose here. We are all teachers and students but some of us stop learning and get stuck in old belief systems while the world continues to expand and evolve. "The only constant is change itself" they say, and the more open one is to this flow of change the better their experience on this rock will be.

The Truth is simple and subjective. It is to be learned and mastered by the individual and taught by example. "Words don't teach, only experience teaches." This, I've learned to be very true. I can read countless books and watch countless seminars and presentations on these subjects, but all that information isn't "knowing" until you put it into practice and live it.

And you find those of like mind who got there through their own experiences and lessons of life. I very much appreciate your kind words and posts on the DP, brother. We're all in this together, 'godsfavson' included, whether they like it or not ;)

... & Love
F.N.

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

I have done this kind of "Self Work" for a few years now

and it has completely changed my life, way of living, my interactions and relationships with others, I have become more intuitive, more aware of situations I'm in, more self-aware, more present in the moment, more at peace, more in love with everything, I find I have more clarity and can discern between what is true and what is not, etc., etc.

I used to look at people, like I am now, cynically before as I thought, "well, good for them. I guess they're just sooooo special." I had a lot to be unhappy with in my life and I began to go into a downward spiral. I hit rock bottom I suppose and having "nothing to lose" woke me up to these methods and ways of Being.

It's a lot of "down the rabbit hole" work and a lot of cognitive dissonance to work through but Knowing what I know now was worth it and I'd live my "hell" all over again just to taste those first "Aha" moments again.

Thanks for this post. It made me remember those special moments :)

Much appreciated!

+ Infinity

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Did a lack of Emotional Intelligence (EQ) cause...

the Revolutionary and Civil Wars? That's what this post seems to suggest, i.e., if people would just be more tolerant of tyrants and anarcho-barbarians, we could defuse all these unnecessary conflicts. Let's remember, the Boston Marathon bombers spent 10 years in one of the most diverse, tolerant, emotionally intelligent communities in America, Cambridge Massachusetts. The lesson to be learned is, ideological fascists of all persuasions feed on those who believe EQ can resolve all conflicts.

However, civility is very important, this was demonstrated by Thomas Jefferson in the Declaration of Independence. The Declaration was a criminal indictment of King George the III, but it was expressed with civility. The use of civility is important because it enables those who practice it to retain the moral high ground. That's why clever tyrants and anarcho-barbarians attempt to hide their brutality behind a cloak of civility. But in reality, they're nothing more than hypocritical criminals who must be defeated by force, if necessary.

http://www.standupforyourrights.me/?p=1314 (Was Saudi funding behind the Boston Marathon Bombing?)

http://www.dailypaul.com/277342 (Rand Paul: One person can make a difference)
http://www.StandUpForYourRights.me/?p=1264 (Fast and Furious hearing)

I suppose...

They say IQ is, more or less, genetically fixed, i.e., you can't raise it much. EQ is a new one on me. Do you suppose it can be raised? Your post seems to suggest that.

Some believe its possible

There are a lot of studies on this subject and some believe you can increase EQ

For Freedom!
The World is my country, all mankind is my brethren, to do good is my religion.

Yet another post

where the author knows best how everyone else should be. Why not just live and let live? Mr Nystrom can ban anyone he chooses. I am very glad a few people told me things I disagreed with, things that changed my paradigm.

Please re-read the post

No where does it suggest that I know best. There is another message here about how to relate to people. It's not about disagreeing at all, it's about realizing there's more to the dynamic than who's wrong or right, and that my friend is the very point of the post.

For Freedom!
The World is my country, all mankind is my brethren, to do good is my religion.

I read the post

Full of crud about how others "lack decorum" and "attack" people with opposing opinions. That is all a matter of opinion. You do not complain about people not supporting their arguments, you complain about feelings being hurt. Who cares if others don't like your opinions if you can support them? Truth is the important thing, not "synchronicity", seeing how many up votes you can get, or not rocking the boat. If you don't think righteousness is important, then your house is built on sand.

You are still missing the point

It has nothing to do with disagreeing or hurting feelings. It has everything to do with relating to people and communicating effectivly. For example, I disagree with you but know I can be more effective when I state my argument and debate with civility. I also detect a bit of hostility ( not much but its there) based on key words you chose to refute me with like " Full of crud" or a tone of sarcasm by asserting "how many up votes I can get".

You might be more covincing, effective and engaging if you rephrased your comments. We don't have to agree and you cant hurt my feelings. I keep this in context for what it is, an internet blog. But if I want to have a healthy debate or discussion, I don't resort to hostilities as we have seen in other posts. Futhermore, there is moderation to how these forums are conducted, thus the reason for moderators. Its not a total free for all here.

Take Ron Paul for example when he debates, he happens to have the attributes of a high EQ. He possesses the qualities that are stated above. He is principled in his beliefs and resolute yet have you ever heard him insult someone? Have you ever heard him attack someones character? Of course not and that is not IQ that is his EQ.

;-)

For Freedom!
The World is my country, all mankind is my brethren, to do good is my religion.

You are assuming

I want to "engage" you. I do not. You prefer niceties, I am blunt. I don't whine about people "attacking" me, "lacking decorum", "browbeating", etc. You simply prefer sneakier, less in your face rhetoric. I am not debating you in a formal forum. I am stating an opinion on a relatively libertarian site. Mr Nystrom has not banned me yet, probably because even though he may not agree with me, he values free speech more, and free speech is not to be denigrated as a "free for all" unless it meets with your criteria of "EQ". Your concept has validity when speaking to ignorant people guided by their feelings, not their brains. Then you have to make nice, not hurt their feelings, couch opinions so they don't "offend" someones "EQ". I give folks on the DP more credit than that. I am not Ron Paul, obviously. Why would you expect me to talk like him? I suggest you stop being such a precious namby girlie and pay more attention to the ideas. You'd never survive at anti-state.com

+1 for the valid argument -1

+1 for the valid argument

-1 for the
"I suggest you stop being such a precious namby girlie"

Your capable of making a valid point, but what are you here for, to state your opinion, or bash others for having theirs......im not saying for you to like them, hell no, but you make the consious effort to put your bash on "paper" where alot of us here have learned to supress that urge, yes suggesting that we are the same, so maybe we have been where you are, maybe we lapse, and i dont discredit it, if something so heinous occurs, but to do it when having a discussion, on a site that people gravitate too, to be with like minded people, to have their say, and hear others have their say in hopes of growing.......we are not learning new things, we are learning about ourselves that we've never put thoughts too, untill someone says something and you realise, wait, that describes exactly how i feel about it........just as ron paul has done to many, just as people will do to people

Now if you have the urge to bash me, go right ahead, as long as i have my say, you have a right to yours

You are equating

bluntness with "bashing", just as Dex does. Heaven forbid anyones precious self esteem be threatened. Better to censor, if not outright, then by denigrating people as "attacking", not having a high "EQ", causing "divisiveness", etc., etc.
Now let's all give each other "Turtle Hugs" like we learned in the govskools.

I appreciate/ concur with the vantage points made

but for some reason I'm inclined to see it as statist troglidytes on the gov teat. These psyop masters whole inclination - sow discord of various degree and color. I feel in the realms of anonymity this will(has) become standard fare ,specially on alt. news sites. This will not stop
Hell, draw a paycheck, typing away with sneers and wonderlust.My, what a life.
May be the new norm. I see it in other sites.
beware the predator mindset lurking

LOve the R3volution

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I don't want to distract from the post.

So I'll just say, "Good Post".

..and, this should be an elective in your locally determined (and optionally attended) public school system.

(Couldn't resist)

Purity police

It has been shown that the best way to win an argument is to shout louder.
SO USE ALL CAPS

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YOU'RE COMPLETELY WRONG!!

:)

What a coincidence....

I was just thinking about emotional intelligence this morning.

good post! :)