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A friend of mine just quit his job yesterday

He finally got his fill.

He'd been complaining about his job for as long as I've known him, and he'd had the job for a total of 11 years.

In recent weeks, there were foreshocks. He started checking into health-insurance options without employment. The grousing about work had become more specific and intense. Not to mention the health issues that were (from my perspective) pretty obviously related to his work were also intensifying. I think he finally made the connection - something he'd been denying for a while.

Still it came as a shock - the fact that it finally happened. I texted Samantha as soon as I got off the phone with him.

D---- finally quit his job!!!

And that is what life is really about: Discontinuities. Personal black swans. Everything goes along, like normal, for weeks, months, years, and then there is a discontinuity.

He said most people told him not quit before finding a new job, for all the logical reasons. But like I said, he'd gotten his fill. There was no more room.

"I can't see myself getting dressed up in the monkey suit, peddling my resume around," he said.

I told him to go for it. Just don't come from a place of fear. Don't stay because of fear. Don't leave because of fear. Trust, have faith, look forward, never back and let the mesmerizing future pull you onward, right on out of that nightmare of a job and into the great blue yonder.

It takes guts to do something like that. Courage. Leave the past behind that's dragging you under. Set it down and don't look back.

Congratulations D, and a toast to everyone who's ever done it, and a nudge of encouragement to anyone contemplating it.




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Michael Nystrom's picture

Update - Yesterday was his last day

Fitting, as it was the first day of summer. We sat in the grass drinking iced chai & coffee yesterday from Area 4. I gave him a copy of Random Access Memories, and took him to the airport this morning.

He's flying out to the west coast with an open schedule to visit some friends. He doesn't have a return ticket booked! He just wants to stay open to the possibilities that present themselves.

I'm so happy for him!

I did the same thing when I was 29, and I can still trace back the thread that brought me from there - refusing to get locked in, and staying open to all possibilities - to where I am today.

What an incredible journey.

All art is only done by the individual. The individual is all you ever have, and all schools only serve to classify their members as failures. E.H.
jrd3820's picture

It is in my personal opinion

That one way tickets are the only way to go. It would be terrible to be chained to a specific schedule you have no idea what you might miss out on by doing that.

PS...3 Thomas Dolby albums downloaded and listened to. lol, time of my life....

Michael Nystrom's picture

you have no idea what you might miss out on by doing that.

Truer words were never spoken.

I'm glad you like Dolby. Here's a little live treat of The Flat Earth:


http://youtu.be/cNIQrIXlrNw

All art is only done by the individual. The individual is all you ever have, and all schools only serve to classify their members as failures. E.H.
jrd3820's picture

It wasn't just Dolby, but I did love Dolby

Working on the DP Jam Session 2013 year in review, where I am reviewing my top 20 played from that thread. You have 3 on there. HA/S once told me the jam session was an exercise in free markets, so is my itunes. One person has 4 on the top 20 list, you have 3. The DP playlist was my most listened to playlist throughout 2013 by a long long shot. You and that other guy are responsible for 35% of my most listened to music this year.

Glad you liked the book. It is one of my favorites, it is simple, but thoughtful also.

Scratched my const. history class. I have to take the journalism one, that the was the agreement with the professor who helped me get the scholarship. He also wanted me to take const history so I could write about....well....probably politics and the constitution. I asked him at the last min if I could take a music class instead and write about music. He seemed unconvinced, but told me to write something up for him and let him see.

I wrote this. Don't know if it is an original as it has a lot of links, but I submitted it exactly as is here with the exception of the personalized shout outs. Intro and exit included though. He didn't get back to me right away but when he did he all he said was 'Take the music class, but don't get any ideas in your head about writing for Rolling Stone or something because writing about music is like dancing about architecture' Apparently a Zappa quote about how hard it is to do well. I told him he has no idea what I can dance about.

I really think it gets better as the list goes on. The first few were just fun and light hearted, but as it got closer to the top and the songs became more personal and meaningful to me, I think the writing became stronger.

http://www.dailypaul.com/307358/2013-top-10-indie-picks-for-...

Off to Thailand in a bit when my friend finishes packing then back to the US. I'll get a hold of you with an updated address soon.

It was nice having a pen pal when I was in South Korea. I think it made me focus on getting thoughts down instead of letting them float in my head. I got a lot done.

Michael Nystrom's picture

You're a great dancer

Of that I am sure.

I applaud your choice of music.

I need to write something about decision vs. choice - a distinction that I learned at the Landmark Forum. (Yes, the one you found was the same one).

Basically, it boils down to this:

Look at the root of the word de-cide. Think of other words with that root: Suicide, homicide, genocide, pesticide... It is all about killing, and that is what you do when you de-cide something. You weigh each option against the other, then murder them off until you're left with one and then you say, ok, well, I guess this is the one. I've de-cided.

To choose is a completely different operation. When you make a choice, you select freely, of your own free will. There is no murder involved. There is a selection based on no other factors, no weighting, no pros and no cons. You simply choose. This is what I want to do, and this is what I'm doing, because this is what I choose.

It was nice having a pen pal when I was in Taipei. I'm down at the southern tip of the island now, a place alled Kenting.

I'm looking forward to reading and listening, when I have the proper amount of time.

Safe travels, friendly friend!

All art is only done by the individual. The individual is all you ever have, and all schools only serve to classify their members as failures. E.H.

I did the same at 24

went on to make millions in real estate and lose it all and 600k more in the dotcom bubble. Still love real estate with the exception of banksters and appraisers(same ilk). Still buying and selling. Being your own boss is the way to go and once you learn the tax code which really sucks time and energy but there are huge advantages.

Love SoCal in spite of all the ridiculous regulations and high cost

Government is supposed to protect our freedom, our property, our privacy, not invade it. Ron Paul 2007

Perfect Timing

Thanks for the post, Michael! After long considering it, I recently quit my job as well. I have been in the banking industry for years. However, I have found myself growing increasingly opposed morally as I have studied the likes of fractional reserve banking, central banking, Austrian economics, etc from a viewpoint other than the typical mainstream. Although most people in our society would think one was on the road to success, when I would tell people that I was in the banking/lending industry, I felt a sense of embarassment/shame. Of course, there were other factors involved in my decision - as I am of a very analytical mindset and tend to weigh the different possibilities prior to committing to a serious decision. However, I felt that my situation similarly paralleled that of your friend's.

At the moment, I am not positive what I will be doing going forward. [Possibly, it will involve something with our movement - as the issue of liberty has a way of infecting the mind.] However, I just wanted to say thanks for the post and that I could not agree more with your recommendations!

My hubby enjoyed a well paying job. at first

Then he realized that he was violating his conscience in more ways than one. He was laid off shortly after this realization, and hasn't looked back. We are on shoestring budget, but sleep better at night.

"Hence, naturally enough, my symbol for Hell is something like the bureaucracy of a police state or the office of a thoroughly nasty business concern." ~~C.S. Lewis
Love won! Deliverance from Tyranny is on the way! Col. 2:13-15

Testimony

You may like this sharing about a part time job that will feed in your future http://relate4ever.wordpress.com/2012/09/06/seeking-second-j...

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This happened to me in reverse

I was miserable at a job, only there for 6 months. I figured I would "wait it out"...do the "smart thing",...slowly try to find a new job. Instead, I lost that job, but the void left me looking for different opportunities and thinking outside the box, which led to my current freelance career.

I don't know how long I would have stayed...I like to think I would have up and quit on my own eventually, but having it "happen" to me forced the void into creation, and forced the issue of me filling it.

Best thing that ever happened to me!

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i not only quit my job, i quit the country.

If you can, I suggest that you depart from the USA.

Don't believe the lies. My country? My arse.

"You left your country
for piece of mind

And something tells me
you've been doing alright."

go to Guatemala & Honduras - and "live with people of other

... other cultures" to heal. To learn Spanish. To stretch your unemployed $$ the way they have never been stretched before.

Twelve years ago my job made me very ill, I waited too long. After a year of poison-treatments I acquired a chronic illness which is still with me. But I continue to shake it off in G or H whenever I save some money or there is a natural break in my working process.

I bet you Paulites are much richer than me, so, man, I was escaping from 9/11, you've got so many reasons to go and stop paying horrendous prices for everything here. You will see how completely irrelevant the CNN entertainment is out there. But you will understand the Latino migrants much better.

ps. Islam is non-existent in Central America.

I will continue my well exercised escapist ideas in a while. get a guide book - best are 1$ used books in your local library. Start dreaming. Life is short and the world is big.

Ron Paul ... forever.

Freedom's just another word....

....for nothing left to lose....

Sweet!

What a day it would be if we all just quit our jobs and started doing what made us happy! Congrats D!

It's been 9 weeks since I resigned, and while it's certainly way different, I feel so free!

I'm a serial entrepreneur and liberty activist from Texas!

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If you are California it won't be easy

Myself and a few other friends have been looking for work for a year. A couple of them, it took a year and a half and another one of my friends was looking for 2 and a half years. Finally she got a job. Good luck!!! All of whom are in the younger age bracket too! Even have been turned down to work at Macys a cheese ball job I would never consider, and I got turned down.

I think I'm moving away from Calfornia, I think it's sinking. You have to BE BILINGUAL now in most jobs because of the mass influx of illegal aliens if you are in the hub of most big cities. Just wait until they try to SHOVE AN AMNESTY ? With all the millions of people out of work and can't find work??? THE MEDIA IS LYING! Even Ron Paul said when he was still in office the real numbers then were 21 %. I wonder what it is now.

Where at in Cali?

BNSF is hiring in Barstow - 4 positions, San Bernardino - 2 positions, Bakersfield, Fresno, Richmond, and Stockton. www.bnsf.com, careers and search.

Sage

hey I am in California

... awfully expensive here. I am 63 and ill. I still work - in my second carrier which can be tricky for my ever surprising body. In my free time I do research for pleasure and live in Central America.

If you have some money saved go South and learn some Spanish. See my comment above.

Apple will hire more in Cupertino.

Ron Paul ... forever.

Folks...you don't need much

Folks...you don't need much money to live like a free man. Here's a great book over on Amazon...

www.amazon.com/Dirt-Cheap-Survival-Retreat-Mans-Solution/dp/...

(Michael, feel free to drop a DP Amazon affiliate link in here)

Here's another great resource...

http://www.simplesolarhomesteading.com/


http://youtu.be/63EKjssviTs

You can also live in places like Costa Rica and Ecuador for $15,000 or so a year...or less.

Get out of the consumerism mindset and you'll be amazed how cheaply you can live.

“Let it not be said that no one cared, that no one objected once it’s realized that our liberties and wealth are in jeopardy.”
― Ron Paul

And...You can absolutely make a

You can absolutely make a living doing nothing but running Craigslist ads. Buying and reselling antiques, appliances, etc. Mowing lawns, cleaning gutters, painting, etc. Grow and sell plants and vegetables. Work a couple days a week and take the rest of the week off.

Become a Mexican fisherman...

http://www.inspirationpeak.com/shortstories/mexicanfisherman...

I can't imagine EVER working for someone else again.

“Let it not be said that no one cared, that no one objected once it’s realized that our liberties and wealth are in jeopardy.”
― Ron Paul

I wish your pal all the best!!

I understand how he feels...I've had a couple jobs like that...my dentist had noticed cracks in some of my teeth and asked, "Do you have a lot of stress at work?" Geee...ya think?
Now, I can't seem to buy a job. It's been about 6 months of being "on the other side" and my job has been to look for a job. Things are pretty tough out there and not getting any better. It's getting harder and harder to stay optimistic but, I keep carrying on!! I hope that his luck is better than mine.

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BC
Silence isn't always golden....sometimes it's yellow.

"The liberties of a people never were, nor ever will be, secure, when the transactions of their rulers may be concealed from them." - Patrick Henry

"Cast off your bow lines... Discover!"

Mississippi Riverboat ~ Needs work.

Gambling is a strange business on the banks of the Mississippi. gambling licenses are only permitted if your casino is floating. It's a throwback to days gone by when riverboats chugged up and down the Big Muddy. Large flat bottomed barges were adorned with a stack of casino ornate decks. These floating casinos may be every bit as gilded as any other casino. Perhaps unusable away from land. Most are permanently moored to a dock or section of river bank. What legally constitutes ‘floating?’ Recently an operator had a duck pond dug so that a casino could be ‘floated’ out on the prairie.

Disclaimer: Mark Twain (1835-1910-To be continued) is unlicensed. His river pilot's license went delinquent in 1862. Caution advised. Daily Paul

Tell him to look at it like I did when I lost my job...

I poted this here after losing my job of 27 years:

I quit murdering people on November 17, 2012.

I lost my job (outsourced) on November 16th.

Since I no longer pay taxes (since I'm unemployed - and no I'm not collecting unemployment), my tax dollars are no longer going to a government intent on killing people who look (or think) a little different than us.

That is the one thing I take comfort in since losing my job of 27 years.

I'm no longer drone bombing wedding parties in Pakistan.

I'm no longer killing the Afghani people.

I quit pointing guns at Iran.

I no longer give out $55 billion in foreign aid which goes to rogue
governments who torture, imprison and murder their people.

I no longer sell or give military weapons to foreign nations who in turn suppress their people for U.S. weapons manufacture's financial gain.

I have quit sanctioning Iran and causing untold harm to innocent Iranians who never did a thing to me.

I no longer send Israel 3.2 billion dollars to kill Palestinians.

The killing no longer has my name on it.

I'm sorry I killed so many people with the money I sent this government all the decades I did.

I apologize to the countries of Iraq, Afghanistan, Pakistan, Lybia etc.

I may end up killing again when I get another job.

But for now I can sleep soundly knowing I quit killing people through the actions of the immoral representatives in my immoral government.

For now.

"We have allowed our nation to be over-taxed, over-regulated, and overrun by bureaucrats. The founders would be ashamed of us for what we are putting up with."
-Ron Paul

They Don't Need Your Tax Money For Any Of That

Though taxes are used for the stuff you describe, keep in mind that TPTB can print as much money as they want. Though taxing people makes them poorer and thus more reliant on government.

tasmlab's picture

Personal freedom

We like to complain about state oppression, but most of us can be pretty handy at causing our own oppression, like having a job that you despise.

Congrats to your friend!

Currently consuming: Harry Browne, Free Domain Radio; JT Gatto and Holt; Wii U

Wow! It's like I logged in and found Michael

talking about my husband. My husband did the very same yesterday under almost identical conditions. Except he didn't always hate his job, in the beginning he loved it and I would often complain about how much time he put in each day. But the last 4 - 5 years each day grew more and more agonizing.

My husband has no back up plan either and I can say if he had done this 8 years ago (before I found the liberty movement) I would be in the hospital right now from a stroke or heart attack - the stress would have taken me out. But my eyes are open and I realize so much of what we take as sense of security (staying in a bad job "relationship" at the expense of your health - or even the security of lining up the next job before you leave) is just another false sense of security --- there are NO guarantees!

I'm proud of my husband and I know great things lie ahead in the future for us. I'm not sure what the big picture is, but like your friend - the next couple of months will just be sit back and let it unfold, take time to breath, decompress and dream. Maybe some yard work and some honey-do proects. Maybe a short cruise.

Thank you for posting Michael.

" Single acts of tyranny may be ascribed to the accidental opinion of they day; but a series of oppresssions...pursued unalterably, through every change of ministers, too plainly proove delibrate, systematical plan of reducing us to slavery..."
Tho

bigmikedude's picture

Heh heh

Well, I know I've never been afraid to walk away from an idiot employer, and there's plenty of them.

I'm still on break at quite a few places.

Will he start his own

Will he start his own business? I'm all for it, but it's not for the weak of heart or stomach. A thriving business can take a solid year of work to get up and running if one doesn't have a bevy if clients already clamoring for services. Again, a step I encourage as it tests the mettle and personal resolve.

Michael Nystrom's picture

He doesn't know yet.

First he wants to do some things that he's been wanting to do for a long time, one of them being to travel.

I think I encouraged him with tales of my vacation.

His work was so busy & frantic that he said it was impossible for him to really enjoy a true vacation because of the mountain of work that would be waiting for him when he returned.

So that is step one. And then he'll figure it out from there.

When I was in my late 20's I took a fairly spontaneous trip though Europe, as a first leg to the rest of the world. Spontaneous in that I flew into Berlin, and I had a flight out of Athens three months later. I didn't know how I was going to get there, only that I knew I had to be at the Athens airport on a certain day, at a certain time, to catch a flight to Cairo.

Things unfolded. It was such a beautiful thing to experience, to wake up in the morning with nothing to do but go where the day would take me. I learned so much on that trip, through insight.

I decided that when I got back I was going to continue with that spontaneity. I didn't have a job, and I went back home to live with my dad. I decided I was going to wait until someone knocked on my door with a job. After a few weeks of that not happening, I decided that I was going to have to go back to temping - which is what I was doing before I left.

So I got dressed up in my monkey suit, and made my way to the bus stop, and I just really started to feel sick. With each step closer to the bus stop, I could feel myself losing energy. Before I even got there, I turned around to go back.

And it was that day that my next door neighbor, a retired Marien, came knocking at my door with a job: The US Census. It was the summer of '98.

The Census wasn't exactly what I was expecting, but hey - beggars can't be choosers. I asked for a job to knock on my door, so I had to take it.

I picked up the thread, and continued to follow it. I could see the thread. I was the thread, and I saw holes opening up, and I went through them. It was through that experience that I ended up in school for web design, which ultimately led me here, to the doing the Daily Paul. Looking back, I can see the unbroken path of that thread, all the way back to the day that Mario knocked on my door, with a job for the US Census.

- - - - -

Not everyone is cut out for being in business for themselves. Not for the weak of heart, or stomach, that is true. But lots of fun. Like being in your own little spaceship, making your way through the minefield of the global economy.

All art is only done by the individual. The individual is all you ever have, and all schools only serve to classify their members as failures. E.H.

That is great

In my late '20s I did something similar and just bought a ticket to Guatemala, travelled for 6 weeks, came back to the States and still had the bug, so went to Mexico and travelled some more. All in all I travelled for about 3 months and it was a life-changing experience.

For anyone that hasn't truly cut the chord and taken a trip without a definitive end, I can't recommend it highly enough. If for nothing else than to recharge batteries and gain some perspective in life.

http://lionsofliberty.com/
*Advancing the Ideas of Liberty Daily*

Life gives us a choice of

Life gives us a choice of unusual paths, doesn't it?