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I Wrote a Christian E-Book

I wrote a Christian E-book. Its called "What the Bible Says About Dating". http://www.amazon.com/What-Bible-About-Dating-ebook/dp/B00EP...

I wrote the book for several reasons. First of all because I am single and wanted to study what the Bible had to say about the subject (note I define dating as finding a spouse). Second because I really love the Bible. Third because everyone kept saying the Bible didn't say anything about dating, and it ticked me off cause finding a spouse is pretty important. Fourth because I have questions, and not only is no one answering some of the questions that I had they were confused when I asked them. Finally because several of the people who talked about the subject ticked me off, cause they said it was a Bible discussion and then contradicted the Bible.

I do not know if this is a Bible study just for me or others but if you are a Christian single and you read it I trust you will get some meat from it. If you are a Christian parent I trust you will appreciate the perspective of a christian single who just wants to honor God. What I wrote is not shallow. If you put it on microsoft word its about 92 pages long at 14 single space font (should I have made it double space, and yes I just thought about that). For those who have been in the dp community for a while and have pointed out that I normally have poor grammer worry not I had someone else fix my grammar. Especially after a sixth grader made fun of my run on sentences.

I dont know if posting this is considered spamming or not if it is go ahead and delete this post. The only reason why I started a new forum topic is I used my E-book in another thread and noticed that it popped up on the front page with a link to both the book and the post where I listed it, and I want to explain what and why I did to those in the DP community who are also Christians.

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Congratulations !!. I just

Congratulations !!. I just want to point out that many other religions would share Christian values on dating/marriage. Case in point Islam. Another example - Ghandi who stressed the value of Chastity and was opposed to birth control. The values of Chastity and Purity are universal. Judaism may also fall into this category.

I agree with those concepts

but the Bible goes a lot deeper than that. For instance the two greatest commandments is to Love God, and to love your neighbor, the Bible defines what love is in a very long definition in I Corinthians 13, and I make the argument that if you can love your neighbor and learn to love your enemy (another concept the Bible promotes) as a single person then one day when you get married you will be practiced in love. Heck if you can love your enemy you should have no problem loving your wife.

Good for you.

Nice to hear of a young person who (presumably)understands what his/her Creator's plans are for marriage and family.

I have taught my kids similarly.

PS. There are two publications I read monthly that may be interested in what you have put together. Both of these publications care greatly about the youth today and their eternal salvation.

Here are the links:

The Berean Call: http://www.thebereancall.org/

Acts & Facts - The Institute for Creation Research: http://www.icr.org/aaf/

The law cannot make a wicked person virtuous…God’s grace alone can accomplish such a thing.
Ron Paul - The Revolution

Setting a good example is a far better way to spread ideals than through force of arms. Ron Paul

Big fan of ICR

will look into the berean call website, already have the book what love is this.

I dont know if I would say I understand Gods plan. A lot of what I wrote is intended for singles who are like me older, and completly single, and how the Bible clearly shows how basic Christianity prepares us for marriage. You could say I believe to find the one you have to be the one, cant remember if that phrase is in the book but the concept is.

Chapter one (which you can read for free) deals with the fact that Biblical love is not romance, and how we are to practice it, and how that clearly leads to a good marriage one day. Chapter 3 deals with the basic will of God (things God's word always says is God's will). From faith to meekness, to honor, to a slightly different thought on bitterness (Didnt deal with the bitter people but the object of their bitterness and what the Bible shows), and how Genesis 24 deals with how this leads to finding "the one". Again the Bible does a really neat job of this, I personally think this book is for any unmarried person not in a relationship, but its focus is older singles.

9 chapters are clear teaching directly from genisis 24, and 3 of the chapters more or less deal with my critisism of some "christian" ideas that contradict the Bible, or are said to be the Bible but are not.

I wrote what I wrote because every other book that I know of on the subject talked like you were already in a relationship, and my attitude on that is when someone is in a relationship their eyes gloss over and they listen to no one, best deal with building god biblical foundations. if you let me compare it to a boxing match, its like everyone tells you your whole life that you will be in a boxing match sometime, and you dont know when, but its going to happen, so you watch other boxing matches to prepare, and all you do is watch, and when the day comes for you to finally box lets just say its ugly. If you know you got a boxing match coming up you should be hitting the bags, and learning to move, and jumping rope. Sure none of these things are boxing per se but it gets you ready for the match. I see Christian dating as such, we spend all our lives looking at how everybody else does their relationships, and when we get into the relationship we have no real practice, at love, or faith, or meekness, or temperance, especially this generation, we have little concept of how we are supposed to treat people, and we are marrying somebody just like us. We know about sex though, that is so important we have classes in school about it.

note my grammar was thoroughly checked by a relative of mine who is a teacher so it is fixed in the book.

Not for me, but I admire your

Not for me, but I admire your entrepreneurial style. More people should take a chance and do the same (if they are so inclined).

One thing you might consider

It may be well, to just give this e-book away with no cost, to anyone seeking more of what you wrote.

"Freely ye have received, freely give"


" In Thee O Lord do I put my trust " ~ Psalm 31:1~

Why give it away if the

Why give it away if the author can make money on it? Because it involves a religious point of view? Perhaps this person will eventually be able to make a living writing. That would be great for them.

I remember reading a survey that showed the results of stolen MP3 music files over downloading networks and one of the larger types stolen was religious music! Deadbeats! :)

In all honesty

the easiest way for me to distribute this book was kindle and kindle charges. If I was running a website I probably would have left it free but I dont, so I leave it up to kindle.


May many be blessed by the truth that was given you!


" In Thee O Lord do I put my trust " ~ Psalm 31:1~

one more thing

kindle allows you to loan the book to other people electronically.

I'm looking into eBooks as well

is there any cost in publishing it? I was looking at Lulu.com today and it seems to be "free" to publish while they make 20% off of each sale.

Would love some insight :)

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

no cost

but amazon makes a percentage of every sale. Although now I would suggest you go through createspace.com first cause they have better tools than the kindle direct publishing. And they allow people to buy your book in printed format with out any upfront cost.

Thank you!

So how do these ePub services, like createspace, make money? Does Amazon kick back some of that percentage?

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

amazon owns createspace.

I personally think amazon is trying to put the old established companies out of business by making it a lot easier for new authors to get published independently. If they get all the new talent the old publishing companies are going to have to rethink the way they have been doing business the last century. It will be interesting to see how the free market works this out.

Ahhh ok.

Seems that there are many things that focus on the SELF part these days. So many resources at your disposal.

Thank you for your insights and best of success with your book as well.

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

There are a lot of "instant"

There are a lot of "instant" book publishers. Recent advances in digital printing and manufacturing have enabled this.

Here are a few other options for on-demand published books:

- www.Lulu.com

- www.ondemandbooks.com/self_publishing.php

- www.cafepress.com/cp/info/sell/books.aspx

...and this just scratches the surface.

Thank you for the links


"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin



Wish all the best to you and your book!

Although, it's not really my cup of tea.

How can I get a hard copy?

I would like to reward you for your effort and other things I like about your book. Would you please contact me so it can be arranged.
I don't do "cloud" anything.

I especially appreciate that (as far as I could tell from what I saw on Amazon) you use the Authorized version in all your Scripture quotes. I never buy books that quote other (per)versions.

I also like your approach to the subject, that it is based on the idea of loving and pleasing God first.

I look forward to reading the rest of the book.

Freedom is the ability to do what you want to do.
Liberty is the ability to do what you ought to do.
"Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty." 2 Corinthians 3:17

thanks to betamale

I now have hard copies, through createspace. http://www.amazon.com/What-Bible-Says-about-Dating-ebook/dp/...

Thanks, Wraith,

I followed the link and was in the process of placing an order when I noticed that they were charging me sales tax. So I cancelled the order until I could find out where the book is originating from. (The Constitution prohibits sales taxes on products shipped across state lines.)

So what state are you from and also what state is createspace headquartered in?

I will re-order once I ensure no unlawful taxes are being extorted from me by Amazon.

Freedom is the ability to do what you want to do.
Liberty is the ability to do what you ought to do.
"Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty." 2 Corinthians 3:17


I ordered 10 and I had to pay sales tax off of createspace.com irritated me. But thems the brakes. Actually I am suprised that amazon is asking for sales tax.

Are you familiar with the

Are you familiar with the pressures the states put on Amazon to record taxes not so long ago? The states, in as rough shape as they've ever been, put the screws to Amazon to charge taxes to their customers in all the states since people typically will not report their purchases on their tax forms. Amazon was given some kind of deal with the IRS and they in turn are building out fulfillment centers in many states now.

Amazon's Fulfillment Centers

Hi, VU, would you mind explaining why Amazon is building fulfillment centers in states? It has something to do with taxes, I see, but what about taxes I don't understand.

Some day I might write a book or two, and I want to understand publishing far better than I do. So, on the way to publishing I pick up what information I can to choose what I should do when the time comes to publish.

Thanks, VU.

School's fine. Just don't let it get in the way of thinking. -Me

Study nature, not books. -Walton Forest Dutton, MD, in his 1916 book whose subject is origin (therefore what all healing methods involve and count on), simple and powerful.

oh yes

I think it shows how bad sales tax is for business.


One would think that the author would not even be charged, and especially not taxed for his own book!

This is why I am a big proponent of writing your own contracts and agreements, or at least modifying the ones presented to you by others.

When we accept, sign and endorse a contract that has points with which we do not agree, we perpetuate that point or practice. Though small in its immediate impact, the principle that we acquiesce to something to which we do not agree leads to a habit of capitulating. That is the essence of how we got to the point we now find ourselves in this country. One hundred and fifty years of consent to little infringements against our wishes leads to no respect whatever for the will of the people.

"It's a Republic, Ma'am, if you can keep it," comes to mind. We have not kept it.

Well, there I go again...

Wish you well in your sales.

If we could connect somehow, I would be glad to send you a money order for the full asking price on Amazon of a hard copy, in exchange for a .pdf file.
That way you the author could reap the benefits of your labor instead of sharing it with some corporate spin-off.

I work at not enlarging the purses of corporations.

Freedom is the ability to do what you want to do.
Liberty is the ability to do what you ought to do.
"Where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty." 2 Corinthians 3:17

We're talking about a digital

We're talking about a digital product until it is printed, so it would make sense to use the printers nearest you to save on fuel costs. I'd assume the product is printed and bound in your state. As I've learned from the IRS, a digital file delivered is not taxable, while a physical object delivered is.

at this time

I cant afford to print in a hard copy other wise I would have. I have a few buddies that have expressed this too. its just right now unless a publisher decides they like it I can not afford the few thousand dollars it would take to print a few thousand prints of the book.

Use Createspace

Use Amazon's on demand self-publishing company, createspace.

That's how my brother and I self-published our book: America's Youth vs Big Government http://www.amazon.com/Americas-Youth-vs-Big-Government/dp/09...

They print on demand and take the cut on the sale, so there is really very little out of pocket on your behalf.