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I'm very happy

Im coming up on my 40th birthday and have been doing a lot of reflecting. Life hasn't turned out exactly how I had planned it. The past 4 years it has been turned upside down and inside out. Ive certainly grown a lot and learned a bit more.

I can honestly say I'm finally happy. Anyone that has ever been in a rut in life has to know where I'm coming from. I honestly didn't realize how unhappy I was until I was happy.

Being happy is a choice. Albeit, a difficult one for me at times. Had I gone to a doctor, I would probably be put on some kind of mind numbing pill. I believe I just got over it and grew up.

When I catch myself falling back into the emotional rut, I pull myself out of by thinking of something that makes me happy. Or a force a smile on my face. Ive noticed I laugh more, Im funnier, people want to be around me again.. my work has improved. My house keeps getting better and better.

It feels kinda like waking out of a dream or remembering where I put my keys. Regardless, I didn't know who else to share it with but feel right at home here on the DP.

We are part of a movement that is going to change the world for the better. Things may be bad, but we have our message and leadership that believes we can win.

I hope you are happy too.

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I can relate!

I am 42, and my life was also turned upside down! When it rains...it pours! You work hard in life and then like that it's all gone! I was like wtf? Then you think what a waste of time!! What was it all for? It also felt like a rut...and one day it just hit me, what am I doing!? Starting over is not easy, and how can you prepare for something like that? Feeling lost, losing hope, etc...truly not a fun place to be! I also didn't go to the doctor, just dealt with it day by day. Adversity is a good teacher! And the battle all takes place in your mind. Hope started to come back, the realization that you are still alive..lol! and to not stay in that mindset. Attitude is key, also forgiveness of others and yourself. Move on, day by day, Also believing your second half will be better than the first! You have to let it go, dust yourself off!....and yes it is easier said than done! Now I have some understanding as to why some people take their own lives. What helped me the most was my personal relationship with God. Just spending some quiet time...I didn't want to, but I had to...even though I didn't feel like it..I just knew I had to get out of that depressed, lost, hopeless state. And sure enough day by day it became better! Thanks for the post!!

Fear knocked on my door and Faith answered!

Your post reminded me of this

Your post reminded me of this poem that my dad kept hanging in our house and at his office. He would always reference it when I was feeling low about something, or had any kind of negative mindset. I think that he is the most successful, happy, and optimistic person that I know. Even after being told that he had only weeks to live, he still kept his positive mindset. He kicked cancer in the ass, and I don't think that he could have done it without his particular outlook on life. That was last year, and now he's cancer-free with an excellent prognosis. Now it has become my mantra:



Charles Swindoll


"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.  Attitude, to me, is more important than facts.  It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think, say or do.  It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill.  It will make or break a company... a church... a home.  The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we embrace for that day.  We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.  We cannot change the inevitable.  The only thing we can do is play the one string we have, and that is our attitude... I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes”

"The purpose of morality is to teach you, not to suffer and die, but to enjoy yourself and live." -Ayn Rand

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lol Great Post

I turn 28 in about a month and I don't have thing about life figured out, no clue as to what I want to do with the rest of my life, not much in savings, and I could be going through some sort of mid life crisis a bit early. All that being said I am also happy.

“I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living.”
― Dr. Seuss

Happy Birthday to you!

I'm turning 60 this year but I hear it is the new 50 so I'm happy. I hopscotch and blow bubbles with my grandson and seeing his smile makes me happy. I've learned to laugh more when some stupid little thing goes wrong, trying to not take things so seriously. And, like you said, I too feel at home here on the DP. It gives me hope and makes me happy.

Happy is a

Happy is a choice...maybe...to me it's choosing not to let my circumstances dictate how I feel. I'm coming up on my 30th birthday and I too have been doing lots of reflecting. The last few years have been awful if you wrote down everything that happened in my life. But I am probably more happy/truly at peace now than I have ever been in my life.
Taking walks, being in the sunshine and nature, spending time with loved ones, making connections with like-minded people, and remembering to free your mind from all the pointless BS that usually drags people down...Raise your vibration as an individual, and together we can all work for change.
Happy Birthday and many HAPPY returns. :)

I've had a pretty good

I've had a pretty good feeling of euphoria and happiness, even with my health issues, especially after the 91% said no to war with Syria and WW3 was called off. That's our third big win. No carbon dioxide cap & trade tax. No gun ban even with all the false flag mass shootings. What's not to like?

I've never thought of being happy as a choice

I've always treated it as a state of mind.

I have a great job and make buckets of money - happy.
I come home watch news and have some chow - happy.
Puff a couple cigarettes browse the DP, etc - happy.
Watch a documentary, research stuff - happy.
Chess at the local coffee bar with some chums - happy.
I am a few years over forty, have nice retirement planned where I will sail down the pacific coast and spend 6 months of the year in South America; I review my progress once a week - happy.

It's not very often I am not happy to be honest. Life is good and I try to live it fully.

I'm probably not half as rich as some on the DP, but I'm quite happy with what I have.

nice post. I would say i'm

nice post. I would say i'm more at peace with the world now then i was a couple of years ago. by a lot. happiness is something that can be elusive but I feel that I'm getting closer and I'm on the right path now. There's still a lot of work to be done but I'm very optimistic about what the future holds. There could be a lot of chaos, though, in the near future. Humanity is about to break free of their chains and experience a new world freedom. I feel that we are all part of a great movement in history. Greater than civil rights, gender rights, and abolitionism. The complete destruction of systems of enslavement that will allow humanity to reach its full potential. Peace.

f___ all forms of govt.

I'll be unhappy enough for

I'll be unhappy enough for the both of us. :D

happy birthday

I'm with bcfast below. I miss being happy.

But I'm glad you're happy, and happy birthday to you.

There is a time to accept your circumstances and there is a time

to take charge of your life. Sometimes, a man has to seek acceptance and happiness in dire circumstances, while letting the spirit of defiance sustain him. Think Sisyphos, pushing his boulder up the hill, or Adam Kokesh, siting in jail.

At other times, a man has to take charge and strive for happiness. I believe that a man needs three things to feel happy: feeling successful, living in accordance with one's values, and a good woman. Which was missing?

“The welfare of the people in particular has always been the alibi of tyrants.” — Albert Camus

After your subject line I

After your subject line I thought you were gonna break out into Ecclesiastes, or Turn, Turn, Turn at any rate

oops, my apologies to the OP

Well, then just replace "man" with "woman," and I think most of it applies. Although, of course, I can't speak for a woman's needs. I don't know, for example, how strong the urge to have children can be in a woman.

“The welfare of the people in particular has always been the alibi of tyrants.” — Albert Camus

P. Nicholson

Happy birthday in advance!

Just so you know, life BEGINS at 40. You will see soon enough :-)

:-) :-) :-)

"What if the American people learn the truth" - Ron Paul

With 7 years of practice under my belt

it does seem to go faster.

The closer it gets to stopping.

Be brave, be brave, the Myan pilot needs no aeroplane.


that is a valid point, and one that I do not like to entertain.

For every positive, there is a negative, I guess :-(

"What if the American people learn the truth" - Ron Paul

mmmmmmm...mostly positives

I think it's important for the youngers to live now. Enjoy now. Be who you are now because we see things getting tougher in the future. And if you don't learn now, it won't get any easier later.

Laughter is part of what is gonna get you though. And happiness is something you will learn to take when you can.

Be brave, be brave, the Myan pilot needs no aeroplane.

"It's good to be the King!"

Glad you're happy, P. and Happy 40th!! Wanna trade? LOL
I miss being happy...it's been years.
(begin sarcasm): Perhaps in this "new Amerika", since YOU don't need ALL that happiness, you could spread the wealth around and redistribute some happiness my way...besides, YOU didn't make yourself happy anyway! (end sarcasm).

Silence isn't always golden....sometimes it's yellow.

"The liberties of a people never were, nor ever will be, secure, when the transactions of their rulers may be concealed from them." - Patrick Henry

Happy Birthday!

Happy, happy, happy! Spread it around!

Powerful stuff!

Many people live their lives with their happiness being conditional upon their life's circumstances not realizing that they're putting the "cart before the horse" so to speak.

Your "rant" is not just about conditional happiness. No, you have remembered that YOU are the Source of happiness in all conditions—of Love in all Conditions, really. Something doesn't feel good? No problem. Your Free Will to use your own power of thought to direct your attention to something else completely. You can take action and watch kitten videos or puppies falling on their faces (sorry for your loss carlsbaddj).

So to this Awareness, I say, Congratulations on taking the "bounce" from the contrast life provides us all and learning from it in a positive way. Where there is darkness, there is light. Yin Yang.

We can never "escape" the "waves" that crash on our life's shores but we can always learn how to surf.

This is indeed a Movement we are all a part of and its Momentum increases each day with the efforts of wonderful people who are "waking up" to their own inner intuitions and sharing their happiness with others and adding momentum to the Truth within us all we've been conditioned to forget.

Get ready for a beautiful life, my friend. You have only just begun.

I appreciate and thank you for this inspiring moment of happiness! :)

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

A nice post, Ninja...

I just wish it were so simple as "choice" to be happy.
I have tried to keep my chin up and stay positive for so long now, and trying different approaches to get a job, keeping up the house and keeping my spouse from having fits of anger and frustration, that I don't know what to try next. Now, we've got big medical bills on top of everything else as a result of recent health issues, no insurance, no work, etc. I just wish that simply choosing to be happy would make things better. An old saying of "when one door closes, another one opens", doesn't seem to fit my situations this year...or for the past decade, really. Sorry to bitch and rant, but it's pretty-much all I've got anymore...I do appreciate your words, though. It is a good post.

Silence isn't always golden....sometimes it's yellow.

"The liberties of a people never were, nor ever will be, secure, when the transactions of their rulers may be concealed from them." - Patrick Henry

Thank you, I appreciate that.

There's little comfort and ease in knowing that there is always someone in worse circumstances than the ones currently present in your direct life experience. Little, but any bit of relief counts. Our troubles in life are what build our character. We are always tested again and again until many of us just hit that bottom and have nothing left to loose and we often "surrender" to it all. It's in those moments, when we just say "F*** it All!" that we gain that first glimpse into something greater than ourselves.

What I have learned is that often staying positive about one's life issues is like seeing the gas light turn on and you just stick a happy face sticker over it and think that will solve your gas problem. This is where people often get tripped up about "being positive" relative to a subject that feels quite the opposite. In those cases, forget that issue or topic completely. Use anything around you or simply in your mind that has as little to do with anything of "negative" focus. Go for a walk and listen to the birds sing, watch a comedy, kitten videos, or anything else you resonate with on a happy emotional level. While doing so, pay attention to the feeling of "feeling happy". Sounds odd, I know, but it is very important that people reconnect and sync up with this emotional feedback we are gifted with. This is our "6th Sense" and it will take time, just like learning to ride a bike, to get familiar with the "practical" aspect of it, begin to apply it in experience until it becomes second nature.

My wife was not of the same thought or temperament as I strive to achieve daily. But as much as I am responsible for my emotional response to a situation, I must remember that, likewise, she is responsible for her own and it is none of my business no matter how hard she tries to convince me that it is. This is one of the main reasons couples experience troubles—because they hold the other person responsible for their own happiness. If each just focused on their own happiness, not dependant on anyone or anything outside of themselves, then both would reach their happiness and meet in the middle happy.

Back to my wife. So, she was not "on the same page", so what to do? You may have heard the saying "Lead by Example" and THIS was my greatest lesson in how to make my wife "see the way" which was for me to BE THE WAY... "Be the change you want to see [in your partner]..." and over the last couple of years I have decided to take full responsibility for what my emotional "output" is in any given situation. It was very hard at first to not yell back and fall back into old, negative habits of getting angry and frustrated but it got easier and you eventually reach a "tipping point" where you are more positively than negatively focused. She has, by no effort of my own, picked up on my new habits and has applied some of those habits to her own life and is seeing a change in people's attitudes and perceptions of her, which also, she cares less and less about as she sees that HER own view of HERSELF is what's important.

I don't think it's necessary to elaborate on the effects of stress and unhappiness on one's health (I got TB a few years ago that was triggered by stress from my last breakup). What is important is that this too will improve. It's all based on the "energy" you put out or better said, it's like tuning to a certain frequency on a radio. If you put in on a Hardcore Rap station but you want to listen to some Country Music, there is no amount of focus that will change the contents of that station to what you want unless you change the station—the frequency.

Your emotions are just that. They are "signals" being broadcast into the environment around you and that's all that matters. You don't need to twist and bend your "negative antennas", you simply need to find ANY station that feels good at the time. Think of Emotions like this: E-motion = Energy Motion. How you feel in the PRESENT moment is THE Key. When you think of mistakes in the PAST you are activating those emotions in the PRESENT and when you worry about the future, you are having those thoughts in the PRESENT. It's all about what you are doing NOW. And now. And now. etc.

Do anything you can and use any excuse you can to feel any degree of happiness. And also, keep it to yourself. After all, it has nothing to do with anyone else and they probably won't get it anyway. Being called a damn hippie is counter productive :) Once you get a little glimpse of your own emotional self control, it won't feel foreign to you but like something you've forgotten. Slowly those around you will notice that something is different about you and they may even ask what you're doing differently. Some will even change their attitudes so that they can resonate with you on this new "station" and there way be those who just can't stand your new "taste in music". That's okay. We all have the same freedoms to like and to not. Have Faith in yourself.

And if you have never tried it, Meditation (of any kind) helps ease the old emotional habits. But the method doesn't have to be rigid in some tradition, simply getting lost in thought looking at a flower in a garden is itself a meditation. You probably do it several times a day but don't even know it.

I know you, and ONLY YOU, can do it! It'll take some practice but we know that no one learns to ride a bike by just looking at a picture of one or reading about it. You have to get on and ride that thing. You will stumble and maybe get a few scrapes along the way, but those "scars" will one day have a story to share with someone who was just like you once were :)

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

I just want to like this post

I just want to like this post a million times!! I hope your wife can find a path that brings her peace and happiness. Your advice is spot on! I have been the wife in this situation...and I can tell you that living by example is so much more powerful and effective and my husband changed my life by doing just that.

It just gives me so much joy to read posts like this and feel that somehow despite the crap going on in the world, people are coming to the Light. :-)

I just went over and gave my wife a hug and kiss :)

Thank you for that inspiration.

It's hard to sometimes contain the emotions when connecting with another human being on such a beautiful level, be it your spouse or even a "stranger" on a website. But we really all know one another deep down, don't we? If it wasn't for all this crap we would never be drawn to seek the Light and feel the warmth of its Truth.

Do me a favour—high five your husband for me :)

"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin


that was a powerful comment. Thank you for the insight and your words.

'Peace is a powerful message.' Ron Paul

CO-mmunication Inspired entirely by your Happiness!

The Gratitude is Mutual.

I wish you the Happiest of Birthdays! Are you sure it is your 40th, or could it really be your 1st? It's almost like a "newborn" feeling seeing the world through completely new eyes. Yet, you know this place and deep down you've always known and FELT these things to be true.

It's a gift that keeps on giving, not only to you but the world.

Sorry, no refunds.


"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience"—Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

I'm glad you're happy

and oh look: made me happy this morning, too.D

damn that happiness contagion .o)

Predictions in due Time...

"Let it not be said that no one cared, that no one objected once it's realized that our liberties and wealth are in jeopardy." - Dr. Ronald Ernest Paul

Happiness is contagious...

thanks for sharing yours with all of us :)...My dog passed last night and I needed a little happiness... 1 look at the DP and there it was. Thanks P


That must hurt terribly and I hope all your good memories together help ease your pain.