Setting the abortion discussion straight!Submitted by The Pen on Tue, 12/17/2013 - 20:57
As always I thank you all in advance for the opportunity to post my view on the topic of abortion. As of late there has been any number of threads so related to abortion or anti-abortion persuasions and I feel as though it is important to interject some personal experience herein.
I may have views and opinions that “classify” me as libertarian, however in coming to this way of thought I am not so blind as to common sense and empathy. For those who have never had the misfortune of being directly involved with an abortion or directly involved with almost carrying out an abortion due to any number of circumstances, I find it difficult to understand the blindness of positions thereto absolutisms. The argument for or against abortion is by its context not only haphazard but lazy and trivial.
The argument for abortion and the argument against abortion is really the argument for human abortion and against human abortion, rather pro human-life and pro human-choice.
I’m not implying or suggesting that I have answers that appease, rather that when it comes to such a heavy social issue as abortion, we really need to take a hard, deep look in the mirror at the personal experiences behind the person staring back before we take such an absolute stand on an issue we may not have had any vested experience with or in. It was always easy for me to be the pro-choice advocate, the liberal and progressive thinker when it came to someone else’s body, someone else’s conscience, someone else’s life. When I “woke up” in 2011 it became glaringly obvious to me that my liberal stance on many issues while well-intentioned, were well-intentioned ultimately at the expense of others.
The argument for abortion is one that many make from distant waters without understanding that being for abortion also encompasses the aborting of fetuses diagnosed as deceased in-utero. If you’ve ever had the misfortune of having to choose a method of abortion due to diagnosis of a deceased fetus, let me share with you the incomprehensibility you feel when you actually discover the diagnosis was faulted and would have ended the life of your own child at your own hand without ever having knowledge of such.
To be able to now reflect on the incident and understand that we could have carried out the very act I was so adamantly aligned with as it pertained to others; knowing that our choice in self-administered abortion procedure would have ended the life of our own child without our knowledge is unsettling. Our “choice” was at the mercy of another and was ultimately a choice of limitation based on malpractice. If it wasn’t for the innate feeling that our child was still with us, we would have never opted for a follow up ultrasound and we would’ve never been the wiser to the irreprehensible destruction caused by the “choice” we were given.
The issue of abortion is still an uncertain one for me. I know that I am personally pro-life now, but I understand that even the greatest traumas may never sway the hearts of those afflicted. It is not position to impose my views upon others as the path to one’s view regarding abortion is a personal and devastatingly poignant one. The argument for legislating abortion is ridiculous. At what point are we all supposed to be persuaded by the opposition as it directly relates to our individual and personal experiences regarding abortion?
The issue is not one you can simply take a side on as your conscience will attest. The fools that stand up on the public pulpit and claim they know when life begins are by their very declaration claiming their position on abortion as fundamental and superior. If you acknowledge that life doesn’t begin or end then the whole argument as to such becomes the ultimate hindrance to the progress of the abortion discussion. Does anyone truly believe that when a woman makes the choice to abort her child she has received the “out of jail free ticket”? As a man I cannot and could not fathom the emotional aftermath a woman may experience in ridding herself of the life she bore. As a man I cannot understand the frustration, self-loathing, embarrassment, debasement and remorse a woman would feel in ridding the beat of her own heart of the blood she once shared and kept for another in that the synchronicity of two beating hearts would create an unparalleled symbiosis and attachment.
And as a man I have had to share the experience of choosing which way would be less invasive and detrimental in order to abort the dead child I would never meet. The choice was no less paramount whether the child was deceased in utero or not. When the choice has been made to abort a live child it begets the life that is by the shadows of the life to be taken. And if the discussion concerning pro-life and pro-choice is to continue with ANY genuineness and integrity there must be common appreciation and acknowledgment that pro-life cannot exclude all non-human life and cannot conclude it does; pro-choice cannot exclude the vitality and brilliance of the unborn and cannot conclude that is it secondary to the vitality and brilliance of the bearer.
We need to learn to speak with gentle voices and rather than crushing opposing ideals for vainglorious quest and conquer and righteousness, try to listen to the suffering of those involved and those who have walked in shoes of despair while struggling with the notion that they will never see the tiny ones in the closet filled. Because it really is not enough to proclaim that you are pro-life or pro-choice; actions have and always will speak louder than words. I find it ironic that those who would state they are pro-life so adamantly are quite possibly those who would turn a cheek to the animal feeding operations (CAFO’s) of big agriculture, the displacement of young from their mothers for slaughter and lifelong forced servitude, forced insemination (rape), physical abuse, dismemberment, abhorrent living conditions and the indifference to the very words used to identify the foods consumed.
The integrity of the entire advertisement of animal products does not fall within the scope of information consumers need to know. To say you are pro-life while disregarding or remaining purposely ignorant to the cruelty of the animals/death of the animals you consume or the fact that their sacrifice is unwilling and perpetuated by lack of education and apathy is quite marvelous. But to say you are pro-choice while disregarding or remaining purposely ignorant to the same is also inevitably implied that pro-choice is only pro-human choice. The whole debate over abortion is genuinely about the morality and underpinnings of humanity and no other species we exist amongst.
And why is it that we care so much about the choice of another human being to abort or not abort? Why is it that we are so concerned with the stance of every other person on the issue of abortion to the point of finding fault or disavowing as blasphemous, yet when it comes to our own stance we stand and speak as if we have any authority or permission to speak for those we have never met? I speak for no person but myself and my conclusions are only as conclusive as the next trauma or awakening may allow.
There is talk of peace, yet there is tantamount suffering perpetuated by the hands of those discussing peace. Whether or not we agree that life is precious regardless of specie or the contribution to mankind made, we cannot state absolutes on the issue of abortion and those who do claim such absolutes are possibly absolute in much of their views or are absolute as far as the support of such absolute garners force or control of the opposition.
Peace and Love always.