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Well, my girl sure put me in my place

Last night, I was explaining to my girl the whole Duck Dynasty fiasco, since she doesn't follow politics or watch TV (God bless her). I then went on to explain to her how this was bringing out all these verbal attacks on gays and how I didn't like it.

"...and you know how 50 years ago, it was socially acceptable to say racist things about black people? And now it's not accepted by almost anyone. So I can't wait until the day when saying insulting things about gays is considered equally offensive in normal company. Then.."

"And fat people," she interrupts me.

"Huh?"

"People say really mean things about fat people."

"Yeah, ok, but that's totally different. You see, fat people are that way because they continue to make unhealthy choices and..."

"Some of them can't help it."

"Sure, I guess, some of them have genetic predispositions, but the majority.."

"It doesn't matter."

I was stymied. She was right. Who am I to judge why someone is fat? And does it matter why? Didn't we all learn, when we were five years old, not to be mean to others? May be that's the whole point.

In all the arguing about free speech, religion freedom, property rights, and collectivist ramblings, we forget that the whole point is not to be mean to each other.

This is easy to do in person face to face (most of the time). Even the homophobes are most likely nice and cordial to gay people in person. But somehow that gets lost when talking about groups of people. But hey, we are all individuals, right? You can't hurt a group's feelings. Yes, we are all individuals, but we all also identify with various groups. For example, the Christian gets offended when someone attacks Christianity, even though no one said anything about him/her personally.

And it's easy to do online. We don't see the person on the other end. We can't see their reaction. So the social feedback that would restrain us is not present. There is no exchange of empathy. We revert to being five-year-olds. What does this say? Are we assholes deep down, without the social feedback? I don't know. I don't have a solution. But I know I don't want to be an asshole.

Robert LaFevre was opposed to violence against others not because of what it would do to them, but because of what it would do to him. May be the solution is to be more selfish. Don't say mean things to others, not because of what it will do to them, but because of what it will do to you. Do that, and you don't need to be restrained by social feedback. Do that, and you'll be nice online as well.

We've all heard it said that the only way to change the world is one person at a time. Perhaps the only way to change a person is one action at a time. Instead of trying to change myself, to be a better person, perhaps I will try to change one action. Just one human action at a time.

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Compassion

If everyone could have compassion for others and valued life what a different world we would live in.
Now that I know what has been done to our food supply, I feel sorry for those over weight and/or unhealthy. They probably do not know what is really going on and their drs and MSM are not telling them.

eat healthier

Stop the fast food, and processed foods. Eat green leafy vegetables, fruits, and nuts. As for your thyroid, used himalayan salt, as it has natural iodine. (not too much cause it's really salty). Stop the ice cream and the secret eating. Take responsibility. ;)

When did common sense become a super power? –Patrick F. Holman

How do you know what misfit's

How do you know what misfit's eating habits are?

People become fat

because they make it happen. It is not genetic. Nice try though.

So you are saying that there

So you are saying that there is no medical condition in the world that would make a person retain weight, that it is all caused by a persons diet?

Stop eating garbage

and you won't get fat. It is simple as that!

I don't hate fat people, but don't go complaining about how fat you are.

Hmm, I am not fat and don't

Hmm, I am not fat and don't eat garbage. So how do south american indians that live off the rain forest and do not have access to "garbage" get fat?
You assume a lot. My turn, your young and don't have much life experience.

Swanson says...

"The whole point of this country is if you want to eat garbage, balloon up to 600 pounds and die of a heart attack at 43, you can! You are free to do so. To me, that's beautiful." - Ron Swanson

Educate and inform the whole mass of the people... They are the only sure reliance for the preservation of our liberty. -Thomas Jefferson
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I am pretty sure

that you are free to do that in any country.

“Although it was the middle of winter, I finally realized that, within me, summer was inextinguishable.” — Albert Camus

3,000 people die everyday

3,000 everyday from heart disease. That's called soft kill.

When did common sense become a super power? –Patrick F. Holman

Be nice to who you want, and

Be nice to who you want, and don't care who you offend.

Southern Agrarian

Because nothing is "true" -

There is no Golden Rule when the only rule is "me" - that is why these so-called individuals "attack" to begin with. The collective mindset is "end-justifies-means", and that "end" is the individual vindication of passion. "Groups" already "own" these passions, and the only recourse for the so-called individual who feels their individuality encumbered by the collective "ownership" is to make themselves the focal-point of the issue by "attacking" whatever group opposes it. There is little logic, seldom any regard for the truth behind the passion - which is easily considered moot when the means to the end is a lie.