Straight Talk On The 'Gay' ThingSubmitted by Menschken on Mon, 12/23/2013 - 00:22
The Perversity of Forcing People Into the 'Gay' Label
Its sad to see people who think they're aiming for tolerance and liberty falling into the trap of groupthink and collectivism.
Homosexuality is not the cut and dried thing it is portrayed as in the popular culture. In fact just talking about it in honest terms, not merely toeing the prescribed PC line, is such a sensitive and uncomfortable issue. Political correctness has made the subject a modern taboo and shibboleth of social acceptability.
But truth has to come out ahead here as elsewhere.
The truth is for some it is a hardwired thing, for others not. It is not a scientific fact to say that every person is born either gay or straight and that's that. There are many shades of grey, and many sexual proclivities and desires that don't fit into either category.
The real debate is between the ideology of sexual license - the indulgence of any and every sexual appetite - and sexual propriety, the idea that it is appropriate to choose and live by a standard of proper behavior regardless of impulses, natural or otherwise. That is every individual's free choice, and it should not be the subject of morality plays and brainwashing campaigns, indoctrination of children or the public, to determine which is right.
How anyone handles their sexual appetites and desires, or any appetite and impulse for that matter, is their business. It is not the domain of state ideology, media brainwashing, school curriculum.
Nor should intolerant "tolerance" campaigns be a battering ram in tearing down cherished and socially valuable beliefs, traditions, cultural institutions and systems of morality and religion that not only serve society, but which are possibly true. They have a right to be in the argument and be heard and not be silenced and cowed and bullied and misrepresented.
If someone has homosexual desires, how they choose to handle it is up to them. It shouldn't mean they are forced either to hide it or to conform to the straightjacket of group-identity. They shouldn't be automatically forced into or pressured into a groupthink mentality and collectivist identity bloc because of it, set with precooked political and (anti)religious beliefs.
No more than ethnic minorities should be forced and pressured into political beliefs and groupthink and bullied around by their own lobbies and self appointed representatives and Pharisees.
Nor should they be told they ought to indulge every impulse rather than taking a different path to be "true" to themselves as "gays" or "[minority group]." That is the true intolerance and dehumanization going on; stripping people of their individuality.
For some, it is not necessarily a hard wired thing, they might just be unsure or on the fence or have competing impulses. Especially as developing young people.
There's no shortage of bisexuals and it is largely a cultural thing, there's way more self avowed bisexual young girls than men, and the girls are often pressured into it, often by young males taking advantage of their impressionability, vulnerability and desire to fit in. To get social approval. Culture plays a big role.
It is the same with young women having a choice as to whether they want to be sexually modest or be sluts. There are lots of pressures on them pulling in different directions, and it is wrong for an organized effort to be imposed to force them to indulge in every sexual desire, proposition or curiosity they might have. To shame them into dropping their beliefs because of their "natural impulses."
I have all kinds of natural impulses I might choose to put on a leash, limit or control, to subordinate to other priorities. You are promoting an ideology of sexual license and indulgence and sexual supremacy over every other consideration under the guise of "tolerance."
Homosexuals have existed forever. Identity politics and promoting it as an ideology, political agenda, curriculum for 7 year olds, and as a weapon against the beliefs of millions of people is new. That's what this comes down to and why people are rallying around this controversy. It is a difference in belief about the role of sexuality and what constitutes proper behavior.
Lots of sexual and other behavior impulses are natural. The range of sexual proclivities is huge and the spectrum of masculinity/femininity in any individual varies. Not everyone who ever has a thought, impulse or ambivalence about their sexuality should be encouraged or bullied automatically into adopting a label and lifestyle they might regret, like some rite of passage and gay bar mitzvah.
Some homosexuals might want to walk in and find their own path, some might want to live in celibacy, some might want to keep their sexuality private, some might want to uphold a lifestyle that doesn't advertise its sexuality and parade it around obnoxiously. Some might want to uphold the traditions and beliefs they were raised in despite their impulses, and see it is a test in their lives.
Some might want to find a mate and helper in life, and father children and have a nuclear family, despite having homosexual impulses. That is something individuals need to discover on their own and shouldn't be force fed one way of thinking or being.
Do you think their weren't homosexuals all through history and prevalent especially in the ancient world, who also had families did not indulge every passion? There have been homosexuals without their being a gay subculture, lifestyle and identity bloc.
Its not just about promoting tolerance, its about promoting and enforcing a lifestyle of sexual license that not everyone would want to or would adopt otherwise if it wasn't being forced on them as the only acceptable choice.
People might have all kinds of sexual appetites which they would choose not to indulge for other reasons, be they religion, moral considerations, discretion, modesty, or desire to have fidelity in marriage with a woman and rear children.
This isn't about tolerance its about an organized, politicized attack on any other lifestyle which recruits everyone who isn't plain vanilla straight into its lifestyle and subculture in a frankly bullying and overbearing way, and leaves them no freedom to find their own way and be individuals. It's just as bad as an enforced closet.
When you want to accuse others, look in the mirror. The tolerance crusader is often the biggest fool and the least tolerant of the liberty of others. Gay people are not objects for your morality posturing nor are they members of a collective for you to define. They are individuals with the full freedom and humanity to define themselves and make their own path in life.