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Things NOT to do (Lessons for Younger DPers)

I m relatively young myself, so you truly older DPers please jump in with your own advice. I wonder how many young DPers (under 25) there are. Anyway... Some things you should never do.

Smoke a cigarette. Just not worth it. You learn nothing, risk 10, 20 years of misery.

Hard drugs, crack, heroine, don't try them.

Fear. Have no irrational fears. They are self reinforcing. If you surrender to them they grow in power. Ask yourself: what is worse, the thing feared or the fear? That is the measure of rationality. If the fear is worse than the thing feared, it is irrational. Face it down, you will win.

Relationships... I'm not a good guide here, ask someone in a successful long term relationship, or at any rate someone who has avoided a failed long term relationship. You have to figure out if you are suited to be a life time companion to another person or not. Not everyone is cut out for that.

Avoid physical fights when/if possible. Be smart, physical fights are expensive legally and physically. Be prepared, but avoid them if you can. Like with fear, you have to ask if the physical fight is better or worse than the alternative.

You can recover from embarrassment or insult. There is a line, you have to draw a line. But initiating a physical fight has such high risks today as to be only invoked rarely.

Don't bother fighting with the cops. Unless you are personally devoted to a life of challenging unjust laws, and are prepared for the legal battles and costs, just don't bother with these small fights.

In your professional life, don't avoid risks when the risk is small and the pay off potentially large. If you're at a job you can afford to lose, and where the risk of losing it is low, take risks, work hard, ask for more money, do the right thing and don't shy away from conflict if you're in the right and can win.

Be a comrade and a brother when you can, but don't let others define you. Be an individual, define yourself. Submit yourself to no man or group. If you can find a mentor or guide who you can truly trust, that is one thing, but never throw away your independence to be a cog in some clique or firm. Maintain your aloofness.

Don't let a woman rule you. You will end up neither with self respect nor the woman. She will lose respect for you, it's a losing game. It's like Jefferson's dictum about security and liberty, you will end up with neither. If you sacrifice your independence and self respect for a woman, you will end up with neither.

For you truly independent, intellectual, masculine(?) women, I can't much advise you, but I would venture that you should also pursue your own path and not submit to a man. If you have a burning desire for children, you might need to make some sacrifices for a healthy family, but if not, pursue your thought, art, goals, individuality, and don't worry about the consequences. You may be the weaker sex statistically, but the disparity is small, and vastly outstripped by the margin that constitutes 'extraordinary.'

Unless you know you can't handle alcohol, don't be afraid of moderate drink. It can be a stimulus for your creative power and an anesthetic to irrational fears.

Don't watch television or play videogames if you have a tendency to spend inordinate amounts of time doing so. Unless you are content to be a mindless drone, abstain from these pleasures except in extreme moderation, and focus on learning and experiencing real people and situations. I'd rather you drink and drive than waste your energies on virtual reality.

Don't make the all too common mistake of living online. Take the personality you may have only expressed in the full riskless freedom of anonymity, and make it the real personality you share in your life, because it is you, as you want to be, unafraid. That doesn't mean be the jerk you occasionally might be in anonymity, but the good things, the risk-taking self, transfer that to your real life. You found it, created it, run with it.

Have a few good real world friends, at least one or two, with whom you can share everything.

Try to live, whatever you do, as hard as it is.

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Don't tell me what to do.

The weaker sex

Things I have noticed

1. Learn to Cook your own food. Its cheaper, and you will usually get things the way you like it, and its fun to experiment.

2. Avoid debt. All debt makes you a slave.

3. Be a part of a church that is a community. There are many churches where everybody goes hears the preacher and then goes home, but there are also many churches where everybody shows up and becomes part of everyone elses lives. Humans need community.

4. If you are one of those people who always has to be in a dating relationship, take a year off, see what its like to just be single (assuming you are a single).

5. Dont kiss till you get married. I know this sounds weird in light of todays culture, but I know several couples that waited till they married to kiss and hands down they are the most calm people for me to be around (I would usually use the word peaceful but just being around any of these couples seems to calm the world down around them). I know at least one of these couples were not virgins before they met but the whole not kissing till marriage thing worked really well in their relationship.

Amen wraiththirteen

finding #3 most difficult at present.

"Hence, naturally enough, my symbol for Hell is something like the bureaucracy of a police state or the office of a thoroughly nasty business concern." ~~C.S. Lewis
Love won! Deliverance from Tyranny is on the way! Col. 2:13-15

I'm independent Baptist

believe me we come in a lot of flavors, some are very people oriented some are not, some are very liberty oriented (I believe chuck baldwin is independent baptist) some are not, some can preach great (check out kenny baldwin on sermon audio) some cant. Check out http://21tnt.com/roll/georgia.shtml for any church in your area.

Here's my go:1) Always try

Here's my go:
1) Always try to leave things better than when you found them if possible.
2) The World doesn't care about you or me, it's impersonal. On the whole, the World will give you back what you give it to begin with.
3) People like to laugh. A good attitude is foundational.
4) Forever is a long time. Think twice before you do something stupid.
5) Goals work.
6) Health like air and money are valued to the extent which you lack.
7) You don't have to catch a every ball tossed your way.

Advice to all: Don't you eat that yellow snow.

Great advice from Frank Zappa.

i smoke, and it is what is!

i am computer guy...extremely wired, but agree with the rest.


my view, as long as ur not hurting anyone else, Do what u want and ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE CONSEQUECES. So have fun with you're "hard drugs" whatever that means, only drugs that have almost killed me were perscription autoimmune ones. So whatever. Don't preach.

Here's another lesson for the youngsters don't pretend you're morality is correct and needs to be adopted by everyone we ALREADY have enough Republicans and democrats in the world

Also "heroine" is not a drug. Its feminin form of the masculine "hero"


That was priceless, thank

That was priceless, thank you.


I prefer able to hang with the guys, mechanically inclined, good with her hands and/or just plain capable. ;)

Daughter of 1776 American Revolutionists


"I'm sick and tired of the anti-smoking culture that has taken over the entire world. I have had enough of hearing "don't smoke, it's bad for you!!" The ignorance that betrays such remarks is utterly abysmal, especially coming from people who should know better."


I'd humbly suggest trying to avoid industrially manufactured


Big tobacco companies use a concoction of about 50% tobacco and 50% filler (See video below for more info). They artificially add nearly 600 different chemicals to their tobacco. At least 50 are known to be carcinogenic and many more are poisonous. Some of these chemicals, whether intentional or not, serve to increase the potency and addictiveness of the nicotine in the tobacco as well. New regulations in the US have also required that all manufactured cigarettes be fire safe (aka FSC). The chemical used to make the cigarettes fire safe (ethylene vinyl acetate) is also used as carpet glue which I think is disgusting.

Consider rolling your own (much cheaper by the way) with natural tobacco. Better yet, smoke cigars!

As always though, as long as your not hurting anyone else, do whatever you like. =)


Been rolling

my own for more than a decade. About $1.20 a pack.

Thanks for the clip.

"smoke" stinks

Yes, very much. Don't smoke I a good advice! It is up to you to receive it or not. Either way it doesn't bother me, unles... I have to smel it :-)


get over it

VR - this article should have it's own post

I warn you.... you will see people's heads explode, but sometimes it's nice to see truth where all around us are lies.

Thomas Jefferson: “Indeed, I tremble for my country when I reflect that God is just, that His justice cannot sleep forever."

Viva La Revolucion!

I'll be 65 in March.

I've got only one piece of advice.

Don't trust anyone who thinks/claims they know better than you do what's right for you.
And for GAWD's sakes, don't follow their advice! <pause> Okay, two.

The most fundamental axiom of introductory Metaphysics is, everything you know is wrong.

So do write in Richard McCally Grise, Radical Libertarian Loon, for president in 2016!

Freedom is my Worship Word!

I like it, great thoughts.


kind people rock

This is all really great advice for any age group

Very well done, thanks

advise to young-uns

“He remembers his fathers last words: “Stay out of churches, son. All they got a key to is the shit house. And swear to me you’ll never wear a lawman’s badge.”
― William S. Burroughs, The Place of Dead Roads

Take care of your health

I'm 63 years old, and while I am in fairly good health, I could have done better.

As far as being in a relationship, I think it is worth the effort. But it needs to be with the right person. I have been with my husband since 1976. We decided not to have children, and do not regret that decision. But that is a very personal choice.

And speaking of children, take responsibility for your choice. Do not let someone force you into parenthood against your will. Take responsibility for your own birth control.

gosh yeah!

I was a bold one and I'm starting to pay for it now.. and too bad you can't choose your parents for good genes.. If mine were dogs I would never have bred them together o.0 Potential parents should give that some thought.

Daughter of 1776 American Revolutionists

For a long term relationship...

Pick someone with basic, core values like your own. Generosity, honesty, forbearance. Be prepared to change yourself and realize that this person too will change with time. That keeps life interesting. Commitment is essential if you begin a family, but it is a reward in itself especially as one grows older. Children always give more than they require. If you decide to start a family build your life around it and you will not be disappointed.

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Good, with a few that leaped out at me

First off, "don't smoke a cigarette" -- I just finished reading http://www.dailypaul.com/311543/the-sniper-bowl-and-smoking-... which has some statistics on smoking and health (smoking organic cigarettes, that is). I agree that what is generally sold in packs of cigarettes should be avoided.

And towards the end, this doesn't seem reasonable: "I'd rather you drink and drive than waste your energies on virtual reality." Instead of harming nobody but themselves in their own homes, you would prefer them to risk the lives of themselves and others by operating a several-ton death machine while impaired?

Perhaps you put that in there to get a rise out of me. If so, good job, young'n! :)

I resonate with a lot of the others, though. Especially the "living online" -- I used to have a sort of double life, being "too shy" to express the views that I expressed online, in real life. Now (and thanks very much to this site!), I am more and more saying things I write here, and writing things here that I've said, it's really neat. I don't have anyone (yet) who I converse with here and in real life (and the chances of that went way down when the Ark doors closed), but I relish the time that I spend here and I'm so glad that I am able to speak truth. Not yell truth, as I've done in the past, but speak it calmly and rationally, even when the guy next to me at lunch says "I think we need to raise taxes. By a lot." Previously I would squirm and attack; now, I try to understand their position, and point out how it doesn't quite seem to work, and here's why. I get a lot further this way. I suppose this would be "temper your passion" -- but don't extinguish it!

One I would add that others mentioned is avoid debt. Not quite at all costs, as there is some usefulness to leverage (real estate), but avoid the "flashy" things, like fast cars, expensive meals eating out, etc -- if you intend to purchase them on credit, that is; if you have no issue paying cash for them, then you have done well and might want to show it.

Although I would also caution about "showing wealth" because that tends to attract people one might not want to associate with.

Buy things that improve your situation, rather than diminish it. So in the above, a house would be good to buy with credit, but a car should be bought with cash (get one a few years old; that saves a lot of money and it's still got several years in it). A computer will help connect with others of like mind (e.g., here), so it's worth spending a bit more. [Got a new laptop for Christmas, a $1300 HP Envy, and while I'm typing this the characters are stuttering coming out, sometimes I'll have typed for 10 seconds before anything appears on-screen. Very annoying, using Firefox with a bunch of windows open, it's behaving the same as my old $350 laptop! So I still need to do more research and figure this out, it might be Windows 8.1, the other laptop runs Ubuntu so I think I'll switch this one over as well. Then again, it might be Firefox, even though this machine has eight times as many cores, four times the RAM, etc...]

Anyway, there's some advice back. Good luck to you!

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Walk the Middle Path

Be patient and calm. Try not to drink too much alcohol and try to have adventures in situations you have never been in before. Eat healthy foods and be creative with making your own meals. Don't worry about money. Get involved in liberty actions and try to be a positive in the lives of the people around you.

Whoever said that woman were

Whoever said that woman were the "weaker" sex never had to fight one for the blanket at night !

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LOL! So true...

LOL! So true...


"Cyril" pronounced "see real". I code stuff.


"To study and not think is a waste. To think and not study is dangerous." -- Confucius

That is bumper sticker

That is bumper sticker material. Too funny.


Don't let a woman rule you? ROFL Have you had a terrible experience with a woman that you single out that fairer sex?
You should not allow ANYONE to rule you. Why is it ok for a man to rule you but not a woman? I see nowhere that you wrote 'don't let another man rule you' so wonder why you didn't specify that?
And what did you mean by 'masculine' woman?
I was raised in a matriarchal household but my father was no wimp. He looked at it this way: she didn't interfere in his workplace and he wouldn't interfere in hers. She ran a tight ship and maintained a healthy household economy - no debt. I never saw her use a credit card and don't think she ever even had one. Both my parents warned against their use. She taught us to save for what we wanted and that instant gratification meant nothing if we'd be paying for it for years to come - she wasn't just talking monetarily.
As for relationships - some last, some don't. I wouldn't sweat it.
The only time you really err is when you don't fix your mistake.
Sometimes it's best to just walk away.
Nothing lasts forever so enjoy every moment NOW. You only ever have now.
You don't have to be a leader, but never be a follower.
Learn to listen to your gut/your first thought/your intuition - it will never let you down.
You will go through hard times - allow yourself to feel it. You are here to experience all things. You wouldn't deny yourself the joys of life, don't deny yourself its pain. It builds compassion. But don't become obsessed by either joy or pain - watch both knowing you are neither.
You are not who you think you are.

If Tyranny and Oppression come to this land, it will be in the guise of fighting a foreign enemy.
James Madison