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When Pride Should Stand Aside

Pride or self esteem is something we build as we learn to do for ourselves.

From our first steps as infants to learning to drive a car we realize we are capable of standing alone.

This important life lesson helps us grow into adulthood with confidence that we can tackle any problem that may arise on our own.

But sometimes our Pride needs to stand aside and we need to acknowledge that we are in over our heads and need help.

This is incredibly difficult for individuals who are accustomed to solving their own problems.

An inner war of conscious takes place, constant battle of negative berating by Pride can bring an individual to tears and great distress.

Pride finds it very difficult to stand aside and let Humility step forward and lead us to get the assistance we desperately need.

Unfortunately, Pride usually wins out and many of us have to learn life lessons the hard way.

Unfortunately, I am a slow learner and over the years my Pride has bought me great pain.

There were many loving people in my life who would have been happy to help me but my Pride would not stand down and let Humility lead me to them.

A well balanced individual has the ability to recognize what he or she needs, the inner dialogue needs to be a constructive conversation on how best to meet needs and problems that arise.

Pride and Humility should work as a team for the best interest of the Individual.

Just an observation on this journey called life.

Peace

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I wrote this in hopes of reaching
soldiers returning from fighting, to proud to get help for their depression. People are told to suck it up and move on or forget their trauma and sometimes suicide seems like the only way out.

When I was pregnant the first time I continued to work and the work required to lift heavy trays, I was suppose to ask my brothers to help but I was to proud to ask for help and didn't want to bother them. Consequently my foolish pride cause me to miscarry and to this day I could kick myself for not asking for help.

Sometimes it helps to humble ourselves and say it is ok not to have all the answers or not be strong enough to carry our load.

It is ok to ask for help because someday we may be asked to help them carry a load that they are not able to manage.

I guess I should have made that more clear in my post and I appreciate everyone's perspective.



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Just maybe?

We can take pride in our humility? There is nothing wrong with pride, pride in our accomplishments, our children, our skillsets, the way we treat others with respect. The problems set in when our pride begins to fuel our ego and we dare to think of ourselves as superior to others. That can't happen with out in turn thinking others are then superior to ourselves, that's not a healthy place to be. It fuels envy, racism, a feeling of entitlement, and causes class conflicts. In order to avoid this mental illness it's important to never put another's head higher than your own and never think of yourself as better or over another.

The person who exemplifies this best, in my estimation, is Dr Ron Paul. He taught us we are individuals and due the freedom and respect of such.

Cat's meow ;))

I think moderate pride in accomplisment is healthy.

I believe pride is a balancing act as life is peaks and valleys, which we hope to platue the peaks, and thus, pride here is what goes first when the drop to the valley comes along, something one wouldn't want to platue, and where pride is most needed and hardest to muster.

Moral: When peaking lose pride to platue. When bottoming out find pride to assend.

Example: Win a prize, remember when you lost. Lose a prize, remember when you won. Either way, learn from it.

I was thinking of the young

soldiers returning from fighting, to proud to get help for their depression. People are told to suck it up and move on or forget their trauma and sometimes suicide seems like the only way out.

When I was pregnant the first time I continued to work and the work required to lift heavy trays, I was suppose to ask my brothers to help but I was to proud to ask for help and didn't want to bother them. Consequently my foolish pride cause me to miscarry and to this day I could kick myself for not asking for help.

Sometimes it helps to humble ourselves and say it is ok not to have all the answers or strong enough to help carry our load.

It is ok to ask for help because someday we may be asked to help them carry a load that they are not able to manage.

I guess I should have made that more clear in my post and I appreciate your perspective.

"We can see with our eyes, hear with our ears and feel with our touch, but we understand with our hearts."

Interesting thoughts Q

I have always had a difficult time managing both pride and humility at the same time as well...
I always tried, but often failed - learning those hard lessons you mentioned. Knowing when to apply which is the trick...

Pride allows us to believe ourselves to be important beings... while
Humility reminds us that even though we are important, we are never MORE important than others. Combined, they are the great equalizer.

Two side to every coin.

Pride/ humility
Envy/ giving
Freedom/ slavery
Love/hate

But the common denominator it seems is found dead center in the word " pr I de ".

I, I, I.
Whe Jesus stands before you, will you say " I did this " or will you know " Jesus, you did this through me " .

I, yes I, steadfast, have heaps of pride, great globules that starve me of friendships, love and integrity.
There has been for me only one solution, though I've fought vainly against myself for decades before surrender.

You know this battle, to fight, fall, get back up and do it all over again, but in your heart being so very desperate to never do such and such again. The agony of failure, the hope of redemption, the battle we waged between our ears and heart daily, minute by minute.

Perhaps I am just a weaker man than most, or more in need of help than most, but I have come to believe that only God can change my inner character. That once I surrender control of the fight to Him, in faith, believing in His written promise to sanctify me, that is to make within me a new man, in all ways resembling His example from His walk as a man, that I am changed in an instant. God didn't need mt help, He needed me to see I could not, and to trust that not only He could, but that He shall.

Funny, but being prIdeful means I get to weather this wonderful ( not ) internal struggle upon every skewed character trait I have so far, for carrying lengths of time before I surrender. I love to LIE and say each time it gets shorter and shorter between, but LIEing is one thing that was changed within ( after internal struggles ).

I love you, who YOU ? Does it matter who YOU is to be loved, for me to honestly desire that your life be blessed so hugely that you can't gather it all in, no matter who YOU are. That's my aspiration, I'm getting here, one surrender to God at a time.

God bless
Stēkō

Drew, by the very grace of GOD through the blood of Christ Jesus.
"there shall come after us men whom shall garner great wealth using our system, and having done so shall seek to slam the door of prosperity behind them." George Washington

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Ever wonder why virtues shuch as humility are not taught anymore

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Humility, as you point out is the antidote for pride. Humility is not a sign of weakness, but a builder of strength. Only a weak people can be conquered from within.

Undo what Wilson did

Maybe because it's so ethereal ?

When ever I think I'm being humble, I'm assured by all around that's untrue, lol.
That and it's connotation, that somehow to achieve humility we must first be humiliated, which I'm glad to report is an untruth.
How does one teach humility, good question ?

Stēkō

Drew, by the very grace of GOD through the blood of Christ Jesus.
"there shall come after us men whom shall garner great wealth using our system, and having done so shall seek to slam the door of prosperity behind them." George Washington

:)

Pride is a 10,000 ton anchor to hell.
Kill self daily to make room for God.

You sound like you get brotha :)

"You only live free if your willing to die free."

Yes sir,

Because without Him ( Jesus ) I have nothing that would recommend me to God that I've ever done myself.

Thanks brother. : )

Stēkō pharrēsia Iēsous ( koine Greek," steadfast telling of Jesus " )

Drew, by the very grace of GOD through the blood of Christ Jesus.
"there shall come after us men whom shall garner great wealth using our system, and having done so shall seek to slam the door of prosperity behind them." George Washington

"Perhaps I am just a weaker man than most"

You'll never know, my pride insures that.

But we are not the same and our struggles are unique.

Some are troubled by doubts, others by fear for me despair always lurking.

Jesus showed us how to deal with these issues.

He cared enough to share it with others.

Free includes debt-free!

I wonder?

I wonder, if we should share these things that beset us? Pride, covetousness, lust, envy, strife?

For what you state is truth, I can not know, nor the converse that is unless we open up an share. But here, though I hope to see us grow into it one day, are we ready to become vulnerable, open, naked as it were emotionaly with one another?

This calls for a new level of intimacy, not the standard fare at all will do.
For it is true, we here, are beyond " how do you do ", but not all care to say what ills them, nor would it be comfortable to think anyone should for membership sake to thusly share.

It is an intrinsically private thing, perhaps as a weapon formed against us?

Accountability, and more importantly empatheticaly speaking, a trusted ear is worth it's weight in gold, and wise counsel twice as much again. But trust is an earned commodity, and best awarded in measures.

God bless
Stēkō

Drew, by the very grace of GOD through the blood of Christ Jesus.
"there shall come after us men whom shall garner great wealth using our system, and having done so shall seek to slam the door of prosperity behind them." George Washington

Should a deck of the Ark be

Should a deck of the Ark be for complainers? Ugh.

I see many posts that are mature and constructive. Iv'e learned a lot.

Dr Paul praised the right to assemble where people talk with each other and trade with them.

A market needs a healthy velocity of ideas to prosper.

Their economy is intellectually bankrupt, backed with coercion.

The reason for liberty is prosperity.

Free includes debt-free!

I've been thinking about this also

Mr. DIY here.

Sometimes charity is needed. I pray for my daily bread and offer to forgive others how I wish to be forgiven.

Northern Exposure episodes about Ed and the Green Man made me laugh at my own foolishness. I've looked for a link, but no luck.

Being productive, producing for exchange makes the world go around. My grandma raised eggs for the market. My dad trades figs and walnuts to get his driveway plowed.

My sister collects and resells books on eBay.

Producing and finding markets can offer some insulation when their economy fails.

This takes teamwork. Hard for this DIY guy to accept.

Free includes debt-free!