When Pride Should Stand AsideSubmitted by quiltingsando on Thu, 02/20/2014 - 13:58
Pride or self esteem is something we build as we learn to do for ourselves.
From our first steps as infants to learning to drive a car we realize we are capable of standing alone.
This important life lesson helps us grow into adulthood with confidence that we can tackle any problem that may arise on our own.
But sometimes our Pride needs to stand aside and we need to acknowledge that we are in over our heads and need help.
This is incredibly difficult for individuals who are accustomed to solving their own problems.
An inner war of conscious takes place, constant battle of negative berating by Pride can bring an individual to tears and great distress.
Pride finds it very difficult to stand aside and let Humility step forward and lead us to get the assistance we desperately need.
Unfortunately, Pride usually wins out and many of us have to learn life lessons the hard way.
Unfortunately, I am a slow learner and over the years my Pride has bought me great pain.
There were many loving people in my life who would have been happy to help me but my Pride would not stand down and let Humility lead me to them.
A well balanced individual has the ability to recognize what he or she needs, the inner dialogue needs to be a constructive conversation on how best to meet needs and problems that arise.
Pride and Humility should work as a team for the best interest of the Individual.
Just an observation on this journey called life.
I wrote this in hopes of reaching
soldiers returning from fighting, to proud to get help for their depression. People are told to suck it up and move on or forget their trauma and sometimes suicide seems like the only way out.
When I was pregnant the first time I continued to work and the work required to lift heavy trays, I was suppose to ask my brothers to help but I was to proud to ask for help and didn't want to bother them. Consequently my foolish pride cause me to miscarry and to this day I could kick myself for not asking for help.
Sometimes it helps to humble ourselves and say it is ok not to have all the answers or not be strong enough to carry our load.
It is ok to ask for help because someday we may be asked to help them carry a load that they are not able to manage.
I guess I should have made that more clear in my post and I appreciate everyone's perspective.