Don't fault a cat for being a catSubmitted by Michael Nystrom on Wed, 04/09/2014 - 01:04
A friend of mine told me a story:
When he was about nine or ten years old, he really, really wanted a dog. But for whatever reason, his parents couldn't get him one, but they got him a cat instead.
Long story short, he didn't like the cat. Why? He wanted a dog, and short of that, he wanted the cat to act like a dog. He wanted to take it on walks. But he couldn't.
It wasn't a dog.
Of course this wasn't the cat's fault. Cat was just being true to his cat nature. He knew nothing of Todd's expectations.
Eventually, Todd realized that he hated the cat for reasons that had nothing to do with the cat. He just wanted it to be different.
Moral of the story, he said, was "Don't fault a cat for being a cat."
(My moral of the story: I think that's probably why Todd still hates me. He expected me to be different.)
Dig? Expectations warp reality. They prevent you from seeing clearly.
Don't fault a cat for being a cat.