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How to Deal with a Bully According to a Nebraska Elementary School

Fifth grade students at Zeman Elementary School in Lincoln, Neb., were recently sent home with a “flyer” outlining how they should handle bullies. The instructions were apparently deemed so ridiculous by parents that the school district quickly issued an apology and the “inaccurate information” was pulled.

That was after the nine “rules” for dealing with bullies went viral, of course.

Here are some of the more questionable ones:

• Rule #3 Do not be afraid.
• Rule #4: Do not verbally defend yourself.
• Rule #7: Do not tell on bullies.
• Rule #8: Don’t be a sore loser
• Rule #9: Learn to laugh at yourself and not get “hooked” by put-downs.

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It just hit me.

I find it ironic on a site based on non-violence. SO many here are more than willing to speak the language of the state and use violence.

Yet so many here want to be friends with the government bullies so they can bully. Rather than just not being involved with the like when you grow up into an adult.

Sounds a lot like cowardice and welfare mentality. Why send your kid to a 3rd rate school so he can be a fighter? Let me guess becuase it's free and staying home with the kid you love is just too much of your time. Am I right?

I don't think this site is based on non-violence

but overall there seems to be great support for not initiating violence.

LOL

So ron paul believes in using violence to solve problems? Is there free crack being handed out here, and I missed it ?

"Legitimate use of violence can only be that which is required

in self-defense." – Ron Paul

Site based on Non-Violence?

HUH? Let's try that again using the word "Initiation".

Wha? .....hey....who stole my country?

Rules for dealing with bullies

1. Hit them first and hit them hard.
2. Repeat #1 if necessary

Most, if not all, bullies are cowards. They pick on those they perceive as weak. If you inflict any pain they will normally leave you alone and pick on someone who is weaker. Groin shots are the king of bully takedowns. No need to fight fair, that's for the other guy.

Hey...

...that's what we hope the rest of the world will do as our military industrial complex rolls all over them. Shut up and suck it up.

My experience...5 years old...bullied every day by the neighborhood tomboy...finally fought back...bingo...no more bullying.

It's a sad reality. But my kids were taught, don't pick fights but if someone dishes, you're going to need to dish back. This usually resolves it for good.

"WTF" is right. Whoever came up with this shite should be sent down to work on the Bundy ranch for a while.

How about just ending public schools.

Are you people tired of mixing your kids with the uneducated masses ?

Seriously telling a kid that is some times no match for a bully to hit them is the worst thing they could ever do.

You will never beat up the bully -- you will only beat up that bully. Most people that are bullied are usually bullied at home. Like me, my dad beat me daily and when I went to school I was fucked with daily.

I beat up my bully -- and for the next three years just about ever one of his friends at some point were trying to fight me. A week after I actually beat him up I was jumped by 3 guys. I was tough right, I beat up the bully. YAY -- now instead of one I have 3. Fuck yeah.

I dropped out of high school after 3 years of torture. (You have to be 16 by law to escape. Yay)

Don't send someone you love into a lions den. My dad was pos who hit me so I wasn't surprised when he gave me the same advice and then pushed me out the door. After all he was hitting me to make me stronger -- so was the bully.

FYI I'm the same size I was in HS 5'8 140lbs.

Also the school never did anything they didn't care. This same kissed pissed in some guys mouth at one point and was suspended for 3 days. Although I'm almost positive he works at walmart now -- I wished he were actually just dead.

That's awful.

If you would have followed your dad's advice you would have kicked his a--.
Good for you to leave the situation.

You are critical of the advice here to fight back, but what is your advice other than getting out of school? As you demonstrate, bullies can be at home also.

I did.

Kick the guys ass. And in front of his entire school right before his homecoming game. How much more could you want. I gave him a public beating... Or are you thinking that I could of beat up all the other people too. In which case I have to ask at which point if you were my father would you of stepped in to help me go to a different school. Or maybe too just not beat me before they did. Maybe just not beat me at all so I'm scarred and people pick on my dually.

Did you at least think about what you said before you said it ?

Would you tell your son the same thing. Basically, too bad, too sad. If so I might have to question your ability to show compassion.

That's not what I meant.

Sorry.

I was insinuating that if your dad thought the solution to bullies was beating them, maybe he should have gotten a bit of his own medicine. Glad you didn't give it to him. I do not know your situation, but it sounds like he was a bully himself…

I think you are perfectly right to expect a father to protect and defend you when he is able. Maybe you can do that for your sons.

My wife and i

live below our potential in a home that I can pay for on one salary alone (and I don't make much) in order for her to stay home with our children and homeschool them.

I'm not advocating that the woman always stay home, i'd be fine if my wife wanted to work, but I feel the greatest cause of societies ills, are the abandonment of children to day cares and public schools. If you have both parents working and you ship your kids away, then whoever you entrust your child to during those hours has far more control over the person they become than you do.

I tell the kids

that if they are bullied and have no other choice - then cut loose and hit them right in the nose as hard and as fast as they can. Don't worry about getting in trouble with me - and I'll handle the school principle. The next day we'll bring the bully some candy or some sort of peace offering.

"It does not take a majority to prevail but rather an irate, tireless minority keen on setting brushfires of freedom in the minds of men."

--Samuel Adams

Is this a WTF moment or what

If they hurt you show you are hurt but don't get mad? My daughter is going to be taught three things:

1) Self esteme - if it is only verbal then they don't exist
2) Self defense - if they so much as touch you put em down hard
3) Daddy rocks - I will back her up if she's forced to step 2 and God help the principal

Maybe it was just my experiences as a bullied kid but I did learn that once I put the first bully on his ass the rest backed off. Sure, I still got it verbally, but they never touched me again.

I'm more worried about the

I'm more worried about the parents who took all of the rules seriously and told their kids to follow them.

Southern Agrarian

#7 and #8

This is indoctrination.
When/if our country is invaded - just roll over and submit.

Why are the schools promoting bullying? If I were a bully at heart I would be thrilled with these rules.

Again, indoctrination.

[Just had a thought...Columbine...weren't those boys bullied and wasn't their actions supposedly a response to that bullying? Why would a school encourage such rage? And in kids that could possibly be taking some sort of mood altering medications? Sounds diabolical and purposeful to me.]

The law cannot make a wicked person virtuous…God’s grace alone can accomplish such a thing.
Ron Paul - The Revolution

Setting a good example is a far better way to spread ideals than through force of arms. Ron Paul

Oh my God

I had to laugh at this Dumb A** stuff because it was so bad.. I can't imagine some parent reading this and thinking.. "well, this all makes sense "..I think I'll go have a talk with Billy"..

Laurelai

Rule No. 10

If you're going to get in only one shot, make it a good one.

Pick the leader of the pack, the one who is either the biggest, the mouthiest or (most likely) both. Administer a good punch in the nose, well timed and well placed. Practice at home. This will to send the right message, with minimal effort.

What's the worst that could happen? You may end up getting your a** kicked - which you knew was inevitable, right? But hey, you will have made your point, and others will refrain from picking on you in the future.

Now you have faced your fears - and they will now stop haunting you.

No. 8

Refusing to let yourself be bullied is not being a 'sore loser'.

lol

the whole sheet is absurd... you're right though, that's hilarious...

i'm think i'm going to start stealing stuff from people and tell them "don't be a sore loser" when they try to get mad. if the police show up, i'll say the same thing. "stop crying, you sore loser. nobody likes a sore loser."

lol

I use Blue Wave, but don't expect one of THEIR silly taglines.

This is the advice that damaged my son

I'm partially to blame. I've never been subject to bullies. But bullies were a part of my son's everyday life. I just thought he was a whiner, but given the rules and the culture around him, whining was the only defense he had left.

Until one day he punched one of his tormentors. He, my wife, and me were hauled into the principal's office. She went on and on about how this would go in his permanent file. The lightbulb finally went on, and I told the principal she had it all wrong. She should be congratulating my son, not punishing him, because for the first time in his life, he stood up for himself. Deaf ears.

Afterwards, no matter how much I tried to build him up, he could not forget how he got in trouble. He internalized the school's lessons, and over the next couple of years things got real bad. We ended up taking him out of public school and putting him in a private school that tapped us of every dime we had to spare. While that move probably saved his life, it was years and years before the damage done by the grade school principal and her stupid rules finally wore off.

I did not find out until years later that he had become so despondent with feelings of helplessness and worthlessness as a teen that he seriously considered taking his life. I shudder to think how close we came to the ultimate disaster.

Today, he is a young adult and is doing fine. When I look at what he is doing today I tend to forget how difficult those early years were.

Reading the 'rules' for dealing with bullies brought it all back.

Sometimes I hate 'experts.' They have no common sense.

I stood up to a bully once.

I stood up to a bully once. He was the head of some big motorcycle gang and had his "boys" with him (but it was a public place). He hit me. I stood there, straight up, and said, "Awwww..BIG man..you can hit a girl.." He did not know what to do after that.
I think the key to the whole thing is to be brave and not back down. I was hit by a huge girl once. I stood straight up and said, "The Bible says to turn the other cheek if you are hit. Here, hit me again Rosalie", and I turned my head. She did not know what to do after that, either.

sick, didn't think the

sick, didn't think the schools could get any lower...but they have surpassed all expectations with this one

just proves public schools are prison camps

#11 - Quit hitting yourself,

#11 - Quit hitting yourself, quit hitting yourself

#12 - Defending yourself is racist. Curl up in a ball to protect your face and scream until a teacher arrives.

#13 - Beat the bully to the punch. Give yourself a wedgie, break your glasses and jump in the trash can. You will develop self-respect.

You made me laugh and laugh

even though I think you may have been serious..your scenes of self abuse were pretty funny but thought provoking... Thanks for the pictures in my mind.

Laurelai

#9

If you think I'm ugly, you should see my sister.
If you think I'm a nerd, you should see my dad.

I'm a serial entrepreneur and liberty activist from Texas!

www.RevolutionCarBadges.com
www.NonNetwork.com

Yeah. What's up with that?

If a bully insults you, learn to insult your family.

#10 ask yourself: which do you value more, your lunch or your

Teeth?

I saw the best minds of my generation, destroyed by pandas starving hysterical naked

-Allen Ginsberg