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How to Deal with a Bully According to a Nebraska Elementary School

Fifth grade students at Zeman Elementary School in Lincoln, Neb., were recently sent home with a “flyer” outlining how they should handle bullies. The instructions were apparently deemed so ridiculous by parents that the school district quickly issued an apology and the “inaccurate information” was pulled.

That was after the nine “rules” for dealing with bullies went viral, of course.

Here are some of the more questionable ones:

• Rule #3 Do not be afraid.
• Rule #4: Do not verbally defend yourself.
• Rule #7: Do not tell on bullies.
• Rule #8: Don’t be a sore loser
• Rule #9: Learn to laugh at yourself and not get “hooked” by put-downs.

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And when

His friends beat your ass? What? Pretend it isn't happening. Do you not realize violence begets violence.

Sorry my friend

but there is a time for everything, even and especially violence. I learned to deal with bullies at an early age. The first time a supposed bully came up and picked on me it was either a kick in the nuts or a punch in the throat, followed by the proper beating, depending on how the initial kick or punch affected them. If they bent down after the kick in the nuts, it was an instant hark kick to the face. If the punch to the throat made them grab their throat ( which is 90% of the case), then they either got a kick in the nuts or a proper throw down to the ground. NEVER had any problems with bullies after the first meeting. I will not be trampled upon, and neither will my children. BTW, I have friends too, AND I've managed to live this long.

This is for real

I was thinking it was a joke or thought-provoking blog that went viral under the story of it being given to children. No, this was given to children.

The parents are quite upset.

https://www.facebook.com/lincolnpublicschools/posts/10152004...

There's some attempt to figure out if this material orginated with this program

http://brooksgibbs.com/programs.php

but that's speculation at this point.

The school is refusing to admit who gave the information to the kids and the parents want to know and want that person fired. It could be quite a spectacle once the parents encounter their powerlessness to act as employers in this.

Defend Liberty!

Effeminate men are a goal of liberalism.

And this " policy " , abhorrent to its core is part and parcel of this agenda.

My boys, all grown men now, would not have fit this mold as both delt with their bullies as per my advice. Which was simply this " knock them out ".
It worked for me. Chuck wagon, the sawed off schools bully eventually got around to me by approaching me one day after lunch with his posse. Chuck reached into my pocket and took out my pencil which he promptly snapped in two, the next thing he remembered is getting up off the floor as I instantaneousy just leveled him with a hard right hook.

After that whenever chuck saw me coming down the hall towards him, he'd quickly move out of my way. The only downside of the whole thing was how all the other strong boys ( Jocks ) wanted to suddenly box me in gym class. They did not understand that I naturally abhore violence, not because defending myself is bad, but because I knew that my natural strength could seriously hurt another person and I didn't want to ever do that as I recieved plenty of hurt myself from a father who had to discipline me for my other bad behaviors quite often. I have long thought ( and secretly thanked ) my dad for knocking the knock out out of me.

Instigating violence is never righteous, defending oneself or ones loved ones can be.

Stēkō

Drew, by the very grace of GOD through the blood of Christ Jesus.
"there shall come after us men whom shall garner great wealth using our system, and having done so shall seek to slam the door of prosperity behind them." George Washington

Burt Squirt Lost His Dirt

My brother, Burt, in probably 2nd grade, came home one day, very upset, because the kids were chanting, "Burt squirt, lost his dirt" the way playground poets like to do.

Of course, the more upset he got, the more they enjoyed it.

My Dad and he sat at the dinner table and worked out what he should do about it.

The next day, when someone said, "Burt squirt, lost his dirt," my brother replied, "And now he's very clean. And if you don't stop saying that, he may get very mean."

Burt reported at dinner that he only had to use the line a couple of times before they lost interest.

Magic words? Or magic attitude? Most of those rules above really work. In my brother's case, the words weren't so much to defend himself, as to change his attitude and body language so that he was not seen as a victim.

What do you think? http://consequeries.com/

Playground Poets, lol....

One I used to get: Maria-peppia goes diarrhea in her tortilla.

When a true genius appears in the world, you may know him by this sign: that the dunces are all in confederacy against him. ~J. Swift

The rules work

in some situations. Mainly, when the bully was mistaken about whether a power imbalance existed. When the bully is correct that a power imbalance exists, they do not work and the expectation to keep trying them prolongs the situation and causes more damage.

Defend Liberty!

These Rules Will Work

Take it from me, eldest of four kids, and I never had a problem maintaining order (chief babysitter) as long as I stayed cool.

I was never bullied in school. I don't even remember anyone attempting it, but I imagine if they teased me or challenged me, I ignored them or responded calmly. I didn't get sucked in, and they went on to look for another victim.

I've been watching a lot of Dog Whisperer, too. He does the same: calm assertive. No talk, no touch, no eye contact. It totally works to be a mature adult by not getting scared, not getting mad, not yelling, not running, not acting a victim.

What do you think? http://consequeries.com/

Nice conjecture....

But you admit you were never bullied and nobody even attempted it. So this is what you imagine you would do.

If I get tired of walking, I'd like to imagine I could fly.

Think it will work?

Well this is bullshit

this essentially tells the child to take the abuse and like it.

Tell your child this:

If someone physically harms you, you report them for assault.

If someone spreads lies about you, you get them for slander.

If someone spreads lies about you via social media, get them for libel.

End of story. If an adult was doing this to an adult, no one would think twice about reporting it to the police, so why should children?

I was picked on by bullies every day as a high school freshman.

The juniors had their lockers next to the freshmen and it was nearly inevitable that I would be shoved into lockers after having had my books thrown all over the floor.

One day I had absolutely had it. Jerry a big high school football lineman tossed my books one more time than I could take. I jumped up and encircled his neck with my right arm so I was in control as he was bent over and we faced the same direction, and I rammed his head into the lockers. He fell down.

Then in a big hurry I figured I better get the hell out of there. When my brother, also a junior, got home he just said "Wow, I heard you beat the hell out of Jerry _______. The whole school is taking about it!"

Never got picked on in the same way again. And I got the respect and eventual friendship with Jerry.

Let's Call em "Nine Rules for Becoming an Easy Mark!"

Let's Call em "Nine Rules for Becoming an Easy Mark!" Sheeatt!

RULE #3 is the ONLY good one. "Do Not be afraid." Yes. That implies resistance to the bully. I'm shocked its on that list.

Rule #6 implies that bullies have a sense of humanity, that seeing their victim in pain will cause them distress. BULL! That's what they live for. Actually, adapting #6 into "Hysterical fits and screams" is a technique I successfully used when I was six or seven to avoid more than one beatdown. The bullies got so scared of my hysterics, they ran before a teacher or adult could find them. Didn't work when I was 12, because I'd be too ashamed to carry on like that.

Rule #9, "How to crack jokes in the face of a beatdown" is only possible after years of beatdowns. Its called FAST-TALKING, and I adopted it through trial and error to get out of some serious sticky situations.

Where's my mother's rule? Not here. Let's call it Rule #10: "Just Ignore Them." What she forgot to tell me, is that Rule #10 tells the bullies they can get away with their bullying.

No, the only way to deal with bullies is to resist. Making things difficult for them takes away the fun. They'll look for easier marks. I wish I'd been taught that at an early age. Would've saved me a lot of childhood depression.

"Cowards & idiots can come along for the ride but they gotta sit in the back seat!"

It looks like it was written

It looks like it was written by bullies.

LoL really...

That's a "nice" brochure...

Too bad it isn't legal, thus, a waste of paper and someone's time.

If you don't know your rights, you don't have any.

Spit and run...

lie in wait with stick or bat...
sneak attack...
no more bullying...

Works every time.

Wha? .....hey....who stole my country?

It just hit me.

I find it ironic on a site based on non-violence. SO many here are more than willing to speak the language of the state and use violence.

Yet so many here want to be friends with the government bullies so they can bully. Rather than just not being involved with the like when you grow up into an adult.

Sounds a lot like cowardice and welfare mentality. Why send your kid to a 3rd rate school so he can be a fighter? Let me guess becuase it's free and staying home with the kid you love is just too much of your time. Am I right?

I don't think this site is based on non-violence

but overall there seems to be great support for not initiating violence.

LOL

So ron paul believes in using violence to solve problems? Is there free crack being handed out here, and I missed it ?

"Legitimate use of violence can only be that which is required

in self-defense." – Ron Paul

Site based on Non-Violence?

HUH? Let's try that again using the word "Initiation".

Wha? .....hey....who stole my country?

Rules for dealing with bullies

1. Hit them first and hit them hard.
2. Repeat #1 if necessary

Most, if not all, bullies are cowards. They pick on those they perceive as weak. If you inflict any pain they will normally leave you alone and pick on someone who is weaker. Groin shots are the king of bully takedowns. No need to fight fair, that's for the other guy.

Hey...

...that's what we hope the rest of the world will do as our military industrial complex rolls all over them. Shut up and suck it up.

My experience...5 years old...bullied every day by the neighborhood tomboy...finally fought back...bingo...no more bullying.

It's a sad reality. But my kids were taught, don't pick fights but if someone dishes, you're going to need to dish back. This usually resolves it for good.

"WTF" is right. Whoever came up with this shite should be sent down to work on the Bundy ranch for a while.

How about just ending public schools.

Are you people tired of mixing your kids with the uneducated masses ?

Seriously telling a kid that is some times no match for a bully to hit them is the worst thing they could ever do.

You will never beat up the bully -- you will only beat up that bully. Most people that are bullied are usually bullied at home. Like me, my dad beat me daily and when I went to school I was fucked with daily.

I beat up my bully -- and for the next three years just about ever one of his friends at some point were trying to fight me. A week after I actually beat him up I was jumped by 3 guys. I was tough right, I beat up the bully. YAY -- now instead of one I have 3. Fuck yeah.

I dropped out of high school after 3 years of torture. (You have to be 16 by law to escape. Yay)

Don't send someone you love into a lions den. My dad was pos who hit me so I wasn't surprised when he gave me the same advice and then pushed me out the door. After all he was hitting me to make me stronger -- so was the bully.

FYI I'm the same size I was in HS 5'8 140lbs.

Also the school never did anything they didn't care. This same kissed pissed in some guys mouth at one point and was suspended for 3 days. Although I'm almost positive he works at walmart now -- I wished he were actually just dead.

That's awful.

If you would have followed your dad's advice you would have kicked his a--.
Good for you to leave the situation.

You are critical of the advice here to fight back, but what is your advice other than getting out of school? As you demonstrate, bullies can be at home also.

I did.

Kick the guys ass. And in front of his entire school right before his homecoming game. How much more could you want. I gave him a public beating... Or are you thinking that I could of beat up all the other people too. In which case I have to ask at which point if you were my father would you of stepped in to help me go to a different school. Or maybe too just not beat me before they did. Maybe just not beat me at all so I'm scarred and people pick on my dually.

Did you at least think about what you said before you said it ?

Would you tell your son the same thing. Basically, too bad, too sad. If so I might have to question your ability to show compassion.

That's not what I meant.

Sorry.

I was insinuating that if your dad thought the solution to bullies was beating them, maybe he should have gotten a bit of his own medicine. Glad you didn't give it to him. I do not know your situation, but it sounds like he was a bully himself…

I think you are perfectly right to expect a father to protect and defend you when he is able. Maybe you can do that for your sons.

My wife and i

live below our potential in a home that I can pay for on one salary alone (and I don't make much) in order for her to stay home with our children and homeschool them.

I'm not advocating that the woman always stay home, i'd be fine if my wife wanted to work, but I feel the greatest cause of societies ills, are the abandonment of children to day cares and public schools. If you have both parents working and you ship your kids away, then whoever you entrust your child to during those hours has far more control over the person they become than you do.

I tell the kids

that if they are bullied and have no other choice - then cut loose and hit them right in the nose as hard and as fast as they can. Don't worry about getting in trouble with me - and I'll handle the school principle. The next day we'll bring the bully some candy or some sort of peace offering.

"It does not take a majority to prevail but rather an irate, tireless minority keen on setting brushfires of freedom in the minds of men."

--Samuel Adams

Is this a WTF moment or what

If they hurt you show you are hurt but don't get mad? My daughter is going to be taught three things:

1) Self esteme - if it is only verbal then they don't exist
2) Self defense - if they so much as touch you put em down hard
3) Daddy rocks - I will back her up if she's forced to step 2 and God help the principal

Maybe it was just my experiences as a bullied kid but I did learn that once I put the first bully on his ass the rest backed off. Sure, I still got it verbally, but they never touched me again.

I'm more worried about the

I'm more worried about the parents who took all of the rules seriously and told their kids to follow them.

Southern Agrarian