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A Mother's Love

I was only 17 when I had my son. His father was young also and decided he couldn't handle being responsible for another human. He skipped town and left me to care for my child on my own. The first years were a struggle. While I was still a child myself, I was forced to grow up instantly. I'm not going to bore you with a long sappy story about how I struggled through the years as a single mom to make ends meet and raise a child. I'm sure you've all heard this story time and time again. Yes, I was your typical single mom...a statistic.

Fast forward 16 years later. Happily married and have a pretty damn great teenage boy. No other children...unfortunately God decided it isn't in the cards for me and the one child I have is so awesome and special that I needed to focus all my attention on him.

Today was a very emotional and proud day for me. My husband and my son packed up the car and headed 4 hours south down to the U of M. My son will be enduring 28 days of the J Robinson Intensive wrestling camp. Yes...that's an entire month of blood, sweat, and tears. This will be one of the hardest things my son will probably do in his life and I am so damned proud of him for taking this on!

As I stood in the driveway waving and blubbering like an ol' buffoon, I remembered the day I brought him home from the hospital and his first day of school and all the wonderful moments I've experienced as a mother watching my boy become a young man. And all I can say to myself is "I can't believe it". The truth is I cannot believe I raised such a wonderful child and now he is growing up and will soon be starting a life on his own. I feel an overwhelming sense of happiness yet a little empty. For 16 years my whole life has been about him. He is my life. What does a mother do when her children leave the nest?

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What is your goal as a parent?

Of course, it is to raise a well-adjusted, independent, happy and productive adult!

When you feel a bit at-sea during your transition phase, just focus on your good and successful outcome. It is reassuring to know that it is supposed to be that way. And it makes it easier for you to get out of the way and let him live an independent life, too. He'll continue to surprise and impress you for years to come. Enjoy.

I'm voting for Peace.

Loved your story. I guess I

Loved your story. I guess I was on the opposite end of having my only child; I am 45 & she just turned 9. You are young still. I remember how my mom got when my older sister moved away for college. She told me that when "kids" leave the nest, it produces the same grief as a death in the family, or at least that's what she heard from a psychiatrist friend of her's. I hope you don't mind that I'll send a prayer your way to help you through this. :)

Thank you so much for the

Thank you so much for the words of encouragement! I still have a couple of years to figure out how I'm going to "deal" with this. It is kind of weird that he will be off and away and I am still in my mother bearing years. I feel like I'm too young to go through the empty nest syndrome.

What do you do when your

What do you do when your child leaves the nest?

If you are a good mom, and you probably are, they will be back to visit. Don't let your kid go off and kill other people's kids in the military, or become a blood sacrifice to the establishment himself.

Now you can use that energy for other good causes. Ever thought about being a foster parent to some kid that didn't have even one good parent?

Does he still want to join the military?

Does he still need advice?


We've had talks. Lots of

We've had talks. Lots of them. I personally am having a hard time supporting the military thing...and not just because I don't support the wars we are in but because I feel that because I am unable to have other children that my one and only son was truly a miracle and I feel like God has bigger plans for him. He has thought about the Coast Guard also.

become politcally active, so your grandkids have a future worth

living in!!

I am.

I am.