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We bury my Mom today and still on the Daily Paul.

Submitted by tony m on Mon, 08/11/2014 - 06:54. Permalink

The Daily Paul has been a connection to the influence of Ron Paul. Both have changed my life to a better person.

Today, we bury my Mom. She is 89, my Dad is 93. They showed up to see Ron Paul speak in 2011 in East Aurora, NY. They surprised me. I wish i took a picture of them there.

I have been, not that great of a caretaker for them, more like a emergency guardian for when things go bad with them in their home.

My Dad is a better man than me. If I could take my life and give it to him so he could live on another 30 years, I would do it.

I laid in my Mom's bed yesterday before the wake which gave me strength. My Dad had a rough time yesterday.

The Daily Paul has been a connection to life for me in a sense.

As I hurt from the most grief I have ever felt, here I am on the Daily Paul. The DP is my window to grow intellect, be better, and help others learn about Liberty.

I miss my Mom. Now I have to continue on and try to help my Dad live on. And always come to the Daily Paul to be better.

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Update:

Thank you for all the support.

I feel for all those with their loss.

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An extremely heartfelt post.

An extremely heartfelt post. My sincere condolences to you and yours tony m.

john prine

Great song.

It hit hard too much, certain things break me down for a bit.

Due to having older parents, greeting and treating elderly people, strangers, as existing, is something I feel good about doing.

I was the only one, of my oldest sister and older brother, who wanted to grant my Mother's wish of wanting to be home. She died of a broken heart, alone, in a strange room; knowing the oldest two didn't want to be bothered taking care of her. Instead of in her home and own bed. She only had moderate dementia at that point. She knew what was going on, and panicking. She was a sweetheart that would just keep saying Thank You for helping put her clothes and shoes on correctly. I don't have any real regrets because I knew I was not in control (health care proxy), being the youngest (them all not awake yet, not Liberty people); because I held her like a lover, tight to me, and for around 20 seconds over a month ago, in the kitchen.

The short interview of Don Garlits below, a multi millionaire, is what love is, what I could not accomplish for my Mom. I have been the family outcast as a knowledgeable Freedom educator and now I am the bad person for not following the "script, agenda" that my siblings had planned for my parents.

She always could count on me to keep her going on living. But this time, I couldn't, because I was locked out of decision making. It broke my heart and let her down. She had a heart attack two days later but still kept fighting. The others wouldn't see that it was do to her flipping out from knowing they were dumping her off. My siblings actually believed they were doing the right thing. I feel so bad for my Mom.


http://youtu.be/hhv410kC2ZY

My father gone now

24 years and I still miss him every day. But I remember the essence of his spirit most which still shines through in my thoughts of him. The wrinkle of his eyes as he smiled, his gentle humor, his strength of character. I know it was one reason I was so drawn to Dr. Paul, the same kind of integrity and a true gentleman. The hurt gets replaced with the warmth of their spirit as time goes on. Thoughts and prayers are with you Tony M. Blessings to you and yours.

"Any government that is big enough to give everything you need is also strong enough to take it all away."

My family did not grow up with spirituality.

Over the last 10 years, I am met more spiritual people and have been getting warmer towards that arena. Now, I am hoping there will be a understanding of it since I am accepting it's exorbitance.

What hurts is going into Mom's bedroom and I can no longer touch her.
It makes me want to touch my Dad more. It's just he keeps his emotions to himself and has never really expressed external emotion almost at all.

I appreciate your post, I am struggling.

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I am sorry for your loss.

So sorry to hear of your mom's passing.

Your mom and dad sound like special people. I'd been to many a rally but was surprised one day when my son, his wife and my grandson came to see grandma in action. It was one of my proudest moments. I know your heart is aching. Take all the time you need to heal, stay strong for your dad, and know that we are thinking about you.

Be Sure to Need Him

The best thing is to need your Dad. Purpose in life is very important.

Sometimes, people make the mistake of being too strong, leaving others nothing to do.

I suspect that as much as you miss your mother, in some ways she's not gone. For one thing, your mother, her mother, and other mothers stretch in an unbroken line back for thousands of years... They are part of you.

Thank you for reminding us to enjoy our moms while we can.

What do you think? http://consequeries.com/

Eternal rest grant unto her, O Lord,

and let perpetual light shine upon her. May her soul and the souls of all the faithfully departed rest in peace. Amen

Tony, may you find comfort in all the years of good memories of your mother. My condolences to you.

Minnesota Mary

Condolences

You and your family are in my prayers..

Very sorry to hear about your mom!

It is always hard to lose someone close to you. I have lost 5 relatives in the past decade myself and it was hard losing each and every one of them. I still have my both my parents though and I really can't imagine losing them but I know that would hurt the most of any, so I really feel for you!
Heart-felt condolences to you and your family. And the best thing you could do for your dad is to be there for him.

What are you fightin' for?
Caught in the middle?
Freedom is only for those with the guts to defend it!

Condolences

I am sorry to hear about your loss.

Edward Moran

Druge report

Robin Williams passed away too today . May he also rest in peace. Life long depression is bad. I have a daughter that suffers from it.

Money talks and dogs bark

Thank you for all the

Thank you for all the support.

I feel for all those with their loss.

Awesome video.

Thank you.

Prayer going out to you, tony m, for you to find

your inner strength during the difficult days ahead and for the inner wisdom to do what is needed for your father and for yourself.

“It is the food which you furnish to your mind that determines the whole character of your life.”
―Emmet Fox

Prayers

and thoughts with you and your family. Give your Dad every second of your time that you can. For both your sakes. You need each other even more now. I know, there isn't one thing I wouldn't do to spend another minute with either of my parents. Treasure each moment left with your Dad. It will be forever special.

Give to your Dad, some of your most valuable thing

Your time.

It will help you both through this tough time. When my Mom passed 3 years ago - I found someone I never knew: my Dad. He started talking about all the things he did before meeting mom. His old girlfriends, and how he had 5 girls writing letters to him in WWII. Other neat things too, that he had never told me and my siblings.

You don't have to give your Dad your life, just some of your time... he'll greatly appreciate it.

My condolences for your loss Tony.

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I'm so sorry...

This hits me a little close right now and I know what you are going through.

You have my deepest sympathy.

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Sorry to hear

Your moms passing. Stay strong and comfort your Dad. As much as he will let you . Do not get down on yourself as a caretaker. I always tried with my parents. 86 and 70.Both with dementia and physical health issues. Whatever their issues. My dad would fight and reject any help from me. He and mom would ask friends first. Unless he demanded it. I learn to let them be. Because my wife said it was taking a toll on me. Sometimes I think I should be more like my liberal progressive sisters. Nothing is wrong.As long as they call on Sunday. I get the calls from my parents friends. They need help . There friends know they are both stubborn and should have full time medical care and caretaking. Many of their friends avoid them now. Many say there sorry for me the way your parents treat you. They know how I tried to help them. Some said let them go. Love my parents. Myself getting old. One thing I know. Its not for the weak of heart.

Money talks and dogs bark

Tears in my eyes..

Your parents obviously raised you well.

Jefferson's picture

Truly

sorry for your loss Tony. As it happens, today is my mother's birthday. Your post has reminded me that I should never take anything for granted. (not that you have) I hope you find some peace in this incredibly excruciatingly trying time. My heart goes out you.

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I'm sorry to hear it tony

Everything passes, everything changes.

I lost my mom when I was 19, and I lost my dad in 2005 - 9 years ago. I know how hard it is, and what pain and emotional turmoil you're going through.

Know that our thoughts and prayers are with you, wherever you are.

To be mean is never excusable, but there is some merit in knowing that one is; the most irreparable of vices is to do evil out of stupidity. - C.B.
egapele's picture

I am so sorry.

My heart goes out to you.

Our condolences

Death is a natural part of life but it always hurts when we loose the ones we love. We buried our son l2 years ago and the last of our parents last Christmas. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

Thank you for sharing your story.

In the past thirty years I've come to miss the wisdom and the experience of elders that have passed.

Don't know what you've got til it's gone is sad but too often true.

Best wishes from,
Paul.

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The Toughest Day

This is the toughest day for Tony. It is hard to lose your mother, worse than your dad. It is the hardest to see them lowered. That is the final good bye.

I have been over to his parents home much of the time
the the last two and a half years, living there for awhile too, helping out, making sure all was well.
I met his mom at the Ron Paul rally in East Aurora NY. I was surprised. His dad was there too.

Tony is a good man. Please say prayers for him today. I wish I could be there.

I feel your pain.

There is always hope.

Always

One day, I'm gonna' change my name to Dale Lee Paul