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I gave my kids a bath about a half hour ago and put them in bed... normally my wife handles bath time, but my daughter's birthday is tomorrow and my wife ran out to get some last minute stuff for a small family gathering we'll host tomorrow night.

I set this goal when my wife left to run errands to try to do something to make her life a little easier before she got back. Bath time was a small thing... 15-20 minutes, not a ton of effort involved... but it made my wife smile and hey, that was the ultra-simple short-term goal.

I retreat to a little space in my garage (a tiny corner of my garage is my only little "man cave" escape) to be alone with my thoughts or smoke a cigar and surf teh interwebz... tonight I'm smoking a great Camacho... but that's a whole other story.

This post is about goals. Reflecting on that super short-term goal of saving my wife a few minutes got me thinking about other goals... Some triumphs, some failures and some "I'll tell you in the morning, but it's looking good so far" moments... I've found that goals are really important in my life. If I wasn't comparing myself to some sort of standard (whether it's a real one or one I've constructed in my own head) I'm likely to do nothing. Seriously... nothing.

I've gone through life as an extreme over-under-achiever. If I'm motivated and inspired, I'll break records, I'll innovate, I'll move the freakin' earth itself if you give me a place to stand... but when I'm unmotivated and uninspired, I'm one of the most useless people on the planet.

As a young-adult I always looked to "leaders" at work, or in different friendship circles to provide that motivation and inspiration and a few years ago, in my early 30s, it just stopped working. I'm sure it's tied to the "awakening" as so many here call it, coming to terms with a bogus, rigged system... anyway, it forced me to look inside for motivation. That was the best thing that ever happened to me.

I've forced myself to set daily, weekly, monthly goals for the past 20 months. Since I've started doing this, I've achieved more in 20 months than I did in the previous 5-6 years. (and done so with less free time to pursue these goals) I haven't achieved every goal on the list... some have been on the list as weekly goals for a few months, but actually having the list and looking at it has made a big difference for me.

Anyway, I wanted to see if any of you have a similar practice and want to know what some of your goals are? what are the minds of the DP setting themselves to accomplish? What greatness can we expect from you? (can you expect from yourself?)

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Dude..... you sound a lot like me. (Type A)

(I prefer a Rocky Patel vintage with more room in the garage though)
Iam 37 married with children and run a business. I can certainly relate to your comments.

Marrage: the 3 "C's": connection, compassion and compromise. (Love is the law)
"Gifts of service" as you have done for your wife not only help her but subconsciously tell her you love her. ( it will be exponentially noticed and appreciated and takes little time)
Very good read: http://www.amazon.com/Languages-Express-Heartfelt-Commitment...

This year has been very tough for me. Out of exhaustion and frustration I frequently questioned "why am I wasting my life putting all of my effort into things that are not eternally valuable" (IE: working like a slave for federal reserve notes that only loose value and will not bring me true joy) my answer: simply balance. God, family, my sanity, joy in life... Etc. all the important things come first. Then work. Everything else is negotiable and lower priority. (There are always interruptions and exceptions but you deal with those as they come)
Some quotes that helped me through the year:

Don't let anyone steal your joy

Giving up is when you have lost sight of your goals

If you stop thinking then you stop trying. If you stop trying, then you fail

the most powerful thing you can do is change how you think about something.

Focus on what you want, not what you don't want. You will gravitate more towards what you are focused on

"People willing to trade their freedom for temporary security deserve neither and will loose both" Benjamin Franklin

ha! I like Patel's sticks

I bought a bunch of the R4s (the giant Churchills) a while back... and still have a handful of royal vintage torpedoes! you do sound like we're cut from the same cloth. (I closed my business and took on a boring but steady corporate gig to support the family... and I'm just a couple years younger. I'll be 35 in a couple months)

I completely identify with the tough year... I "earned" more FRNs than ever, but of course now with kids, I spend far more FRNs than ever and find myself no better off today in the "top 20%" with 2 kids than I was in the "bottom 20%" with no kids. LOL

I still need to work on the prioritization factor you mention... far too much energy is focused on work and political theatre.

At their inceptions, the #Liberty, #OccupyWallStreet and #TeaParty movements all had the same basic goal... What happened?

How funny

We are alike,
I like the RP vintage 92 and 99. The ones you mentioned are very good too. (Thompson cigar five pack fever a great deal)
I hear you on the 20% logic. For me It all seems to be a state of mind sometimes. I just try to focus on what brings me joy. If I run out of FRN's I can always get more. I can't get time with my family back (meaning time is my most valuable asset) hope you enjoyed my comments and I wish you the best :)

"People willing to trade their freedom for temporary security deserve neither and will loose both" Benjamin Franklin

I get mine from cigarbid

You can score everything cheap on cigarbid. I think I paid under $3 per stick for the royal vintage (mine are 99's I think... purple ring, box-pressed torpedoes).

I like the logic about family being the most important asset... just still trying to balance providing for the family with spending time with the family.

I started a DP Cigar thread several months back... there are a few reviews there if you're ever looking for a new smoke... or want to share your thoughts on one you've smoked..


At their inceptions, the #Liberty, #OccupyWallStreet and #TeaParty movements all had the same basic goal... What happened?


I will check it out. Thank you very much
Good to talk to you.

"People willing to trade their freedom for temporary security deserve neither and will loose both" Benjamin Franklin

I found a good quote.

Quote link:

Complete Transcript of the Martin Luther King, Jr. Assassination Conspiracy Trial

Goal: Redeem the soul of America.

James M. Lawson, Jr
Page 541

"The movement was aimed at reversing that. King's motto was, the SCLC motto, it was not civil rights, it was redeem the soul of America. That was our motto. So you see right away that that is much larger than getting a hamburger at a lunch counter."

Tool needed to reach goal: Trial by Jury (according to the common law)

Arthur Jackson Haynes, Jr
Page 804
“I have considered in my thirty-five-year career a jury is the best lie detector there is.”

A Goal:


a seemingly difficult goal...

"GodBless America, but she stole the 'B' from Bless"

At their inceptions, the #Liberty, #OccupyWallStreet and #TeaParty movements all had the same basic goal... What happened?

old goal

I like goals. I like the idea of offering suggestions of worthy goals to others. My kids can all bathe themselves. ;)

Below is a link to a somewhat old and out of date thread. The sentiment still appears to me to be correct, and if you can see through to that, I still commend it as a goal:


It still represents a major goal for me.

Lesser goals:

1. Make a major shift of personal wealth from wfrns as a store for wealth to land. (done)

2. Reduce the need for wfrns. (in progress)

We seem to have similar goals

I like your contract. short and sweet... and the other goals you listed are goals I share.

what are you doing to try to reduce your dependence on FRNs? What's working and what's not? (I'm sure everyone here would love to reduce their dependence on FRNs)

At their inceptions, the #Liberty, #OccupyWallStreet and #TeaParty movements all had the same basic goal... What happened?

short list

-1. Take inventory of what is really needed and where frns are employed. If necessary, can you do without gasoline (pretty ensconced on the regulated economy, and destructive as well), electricity (provided by government monopoly here),...? What food do you need? How can you truly own property?

0. Building community. Finding others who can supply something that is really needed, understand my goals, and will trade (frns OK in this context, silver, barter, whatever, but the keys are known sources, quality supplier, no reporting). *b*u*i*l*d* *c*o*m*m*u*n*i*t*y*

Anything that is made and used by you can be made and used by your community independent of regulation if your community is large enough. (Think about that.)

1. Learning to grow food. (Not everybody has to do that, but someone does, and that is one area I've chosen.)

2. I have a friend in my community with whom I trade for soap. Another for beer (which is not necessarily a necessity, but that's his thing). Another for rabbits. The list goes on. What can you produce in quality and quantity which can, if necessary, allow you to be completely independent of the frn exchange market? What do people really need? Who can you find that can produce similar goods and services who values an alternative market?

We asked these questions in our community group, and people are trying to figure out what they can supply.

Hope this helps.

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Sorry you haven't received any response.
The ability to properly establish and prioritize goals, then map out action steps to achieve them, is a clear signpost for success, and is characteristic of the entrepreneur/leader. It's quite the opposite of "just let things happen". You have to know where you want to go in order to figure out how to get there.
Since you asked, one of my major personal long term goals is to change and improve golf swing teaching. I am at serious odds with the majority of the golf swing teaching establishment. Their philosophy is that there are a zillion different ways to swing the club, so let's see what you do naturally and we'll build on that. At 65 yrs, and having been subjected to that philosophy for most of my life, it never taught me how to swing the club. My question over the years is, "What do you do with your arms in order to get in this or that position?" In other words, "Teach me something!!!". I often think teachers keep it complicated and mystical in order to elevate themselves to guru status, and keep learners coming back. I claim there indeed is a most efficient way to do it. Is there not a most efficient way to perform a 10 rated swan dive? The teachers laugh at my assertions.
Proving my theories is my current intermediate goal, so practicing and perfecting are the steps I am currently taking. I use small goals in swing improvement day by day, and am seeing considerable progress. Soon, I will be able to demonstrate a most efficient swing, based on sound physics and use of body structure to advantage.
Just an example of goal setting. Thanks for the opportunity to write it down, and best wishes on your road to achievement.

Undo what Wilson did

best of luck with the swing!

let me know when i can catch you on TV on the Sr Tour!

At their inceptions, the #Liberty, #OccupyWallStreet and #TeaParty movements all had the same basic goal... What happened?


Can't get anywhere without them.