There are four kinds of people in the world -- four postures people take in their interactions with others and the world they live in. The beauty of this method of understanding is that each of us has the responsibility (the ability to respond) and the ability to change (ourselves). Both start with self and are based on the way in which we interact with others and with the world. (I.e., the world is what you think it is.)
The four positions are:
1. I'm OK, and you're NOT OK;
2. I'm NOT OK, and you're NOT OK;
3. I'm NOT OK, and you're OK;
4. I'm OK, and you're OK.
From my brief and limited interaction with several of the posters on this forum, and only because you asked the question, Danton, I offer this bit of psychology:
Questions are accusatory. Many people here on DP enjoy pushing their power around by communicating in questions (the "why" question being the most antagonistic) and insinuation (ex., "If you had bothered to read the article. . ."). This form of posturing is from the first category above (i.e. the category of posturing onself as being right in a world where others are wrong).
This #1 posture is the postion of the bully. It exemplfies a person who stays busy calling attention to everyone else but self in order to distract attention away from self, a person who is on the defensive. Admittedly, most of us tend to go there when confronted with another person who is on the defensive; it's a normal "ab-reaction." But many people in the world these day, and particularly many people on this forum, live in the #1 posture. Finding fault with others and pointing fingers is their primary modus operandi.
This behavior becomes self-perpetuating to the point at which people like this develop no other means of interacting with the world except to criticize and make people, things and events wrong. Then, because of this, because of their "window" into the world, they themselves end up feeling worse and worse; it is self-defeating.
This form osposturing generally catches up with folks by the time they are 57 years old. The human spirit can withstand only so much antagonism. Indeed, we are the sole 24-hour audience to our own movie every day.
The underlying reality is that people in this position (i.e., bullies) feel deep inside that they are NOT OK; so, in an attempt to make themselves feel better, more OK, more self-important, etc., they project an attitude of arrogance and of being OK and make others wrong. Ha! If only it were so easy. That approach does not work. The only way to turn this around is to go inside and to work on the parts of self that do not feel OK in the first place. This is where "simple" and "easy" are NOT the same thing.
In truth, nothing about us as a people will feel better or function properly unless and until at least a majority of us come to the realization and operate from the firm conviction that we are all OK, that each one of us is absolutely correct in our own being and world. That conviction takes a strong inner knowing that "I'm OK, and you're OK." That conviction is worth rippling out.
Unless and until we get to the point of living, breathing and believing that, we as a species are stuck in the outermost layer of the human brain which challenges us to be in an almost constant state of angst, and angst is on the uprise. It is exponential.
All it takes to turn the way of the world around is for people like you and me to change our thinking about self and others, one person at a time -- to develop compassion for self and others, and to stop making people and the world we live in wrong. *Smiles*
To answer your second question, I respect Richard Gilbert for putting his boots where his mouth is and for applying muscle to the cause. Too many of us lolly around these chat areas complaining and antively nothing nothing to better the world. Others spend their time and genious spamming and creating viruses. From what I have been able to tell of Richard Gilbert, he has the power and education to go to bat, and he is using it. (No greater waste than a gift left untouched.) For being a mover and a shaker, I respect him. It's allowed. It's OK.
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