Comment: You got there on your own, did anyone force you?

Don't force the wife and kids, or else you will only guarantee that they will never get to where you are. Lead by example, find positive opportunities to explain why you are doing what you are doing for yourself. Control over others is an illusion, but the illusion often temps us to make it reality by using force. But that "reality" is also an illusion, since any compliance on their part is only an illusion to fool you into stopping said force. Rinse, repeat. Same situation here, wife is always on my case about eating fried eggs over easy, a true believer in conventional wisdom.