Comment: As much as we hate to admit it

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As much as we hate to admit it

It's all about the art of compromise. By that, I do NOT mean giving up on your beliefs. What I mean is, pick your battles and take baby steps.

1) Prioritize: Which of those issues you mentioned do you feel is MOST important and causing your family the most harm right now? Is it something you can personally change? (i.e. chemtrails would be very hard for you, on your own, to eliminate).

2) Find something that is important to your wife (that you can live with, even if you don't love the idea), and then make a sort of trade. For example: You will agree to let your kids eat "nasty" halloween candy they get from uninformed neighbors for TWO weeks per year (Halloween time), and you will work to find sources and/or recipes for and encourage the kids to eat homemade snacks and candy that are made withno HFCS, non-GMO and other healthy ingredients. In exchange, she will 100% back you up on this with the kids, and you will back her up on her idea.

3) If everyone is agreeable, pretty soon the healthy snacks will become the "new normal" instead of the HFCS and GMO crap. You can reinforce this with your kids by emphasizing some other benefit--i.e. we can have dessert more often as long as it doesn't contain the "junk" ingredients. Now you can move on to the next most important issue.

4) Don't forget that if you make the junk 100% against the rules, no one will go for it. Let them keep about 5% of the junk, and they will be 95% healthier. In time, they might make their own decision to eliminate 100% of the junk. That is the "art" part of the compromise--getting them to believe they are still getting what they want!

We did this with soda. We only drink it when there is a birthday party, or on the rare occasion we go out to eat (in fact, they only order soda about half the time!). They can live with that because it is not completely out of the question. I can live with it because it eliminated so much sugar and HFCS from their diet.

You can also be the example instead of the lecturer. When I decided to go mainly "primal" and grain-free in my diet, I announced what I was doing, then just did it. I did not require it from anyone else in my household. Six months later, I brag to them often about how great I feel, how fit I look and how horribly my body reacts now when I occasionally overdo the grains. The kids and hubby are now asking me questions about it, they are trying my primal meals (which are made with pretty normal stuff) and they no longer balk when I limit pasta to once per week. It is becoming the new normal, and my habits are rubbing off on them by osmosis.

Don't forget: Take baby steps, and give up some things that are less important in order to get what is more important.

Good luck!