Comment: I think the fallacy is the golden rule

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I think the fallacy is the golden rule

Many people do not love themselves and that's the problem in "the golden rule".

When someone loves themselves, they are called, selfish, arrogant, delusional, untrustworthy, egotistical...

People tend to feel the need to put up a false front of being kind and helpful, while in reality they are manipulating and coniving to obtain from another to whom they are jealous, envious, feel threatened, indifferent, uncaring..

To share the love you have for yourself with another who does not love themselves is like casting pearls before swine, so the golden rule, really is golden.. rare.

Most relationships are unbalanced, and so when you love yourself, many times the love winds up being "tough love" because you have to protect yourself from those who do not love themselves.