But today's children need a dose of reality. We are raising the first generation that will have things much worse than their parents. You do no favors by creating protective bubbles. Our oldest, my stepson, also had issues with autonomy and private property. i.e. what is his is his and everyone else should share, he should still receive allowance when he refuses to do homework or chores. He was shocked that when he came home from friends after he was supposed to, there was no dinner for him. When he stopped doing chores, his bank account disappeared. When he was using his phone and computer(for our convenience not his) inappropriately we removed his door. When he refused to contribute or take part in family activities, he found his laundry piled on the floor, unwashed. What this individual did seems harsh, but necessary. Yes children that age form opinions without knowledge. It is our jobs as parents to give them that knowledge.