Paging through my notebooks, I could not find much in the way of advice, as I have never addressed a situation such as you present.
I came across this here note to a lovely lass in my distant past. I don't know if it will help in your situation. Cheers me up to think of her. I will send it along. See what you make of it. I wonder how she would answer questions that we thought so unknowable way back when?
Disclaimer: Mark Twain (1835-1910-To be continued) is unlicensed. His river pilot's license went delinquent in 1862. Caution advised. Daily Paul ☑