Sorry for what you've gone through Denise.
I know a guy who made a mistake on his tax returns about 10 years ago. With penalties and interest...a $5,000 mistake has turned into $50,000 he now owes the IRS.
He has no intention of ever giving them a dime. He does contractor work on the side and only takes cash payments. He doesn't keep money in the bank or anywhere else the government can get it's hands on it. They pester him from time to time, but he simply tells them he doesn't have it.
He's a happy guy too. He lives a very simple life with very few expenses.
“Let it not be said that no one cared, that no one objected once it’s realized that our liberties and wealth are in jeopardy.”
― Ron Paul