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I also bought into the idea

I also bought into the idea that college was a necessity (1987). I went 4 years and the degree did help me get my foot in the door of the field I wanted but I didn't choose wisely because the work I was doing did not pay a lot (which was my fault) and even though it was fulfilling at the time, it has changed substantially since then and I'm ashamed of it (media). Both my parents wanted me and my sister to get a Bachelors. But my parents made way more money than I ever did. My father graduated from high school and flunked out of college but he made a lot of money in a factory as a foreman. My mother attended a two year college and became a registered nurse and both of them made quite a bit together. But even with them wanting us to get a degree, they didn't know how to really teach us what were good paths to take. They assumed that if you got at least a Bachelors, you'd be in the money which is not true. Because my mother was born in the late 1930s, she always heard that there were only 3 jobs women could take: teacher, secretary, or nurse. That was what she was taught. To her, breaking out of those 3 fields was an accomplishment. But she didn't have the hindsight that getting out of those professions just to say you can isn't necessarily the wisest decision. My father often didn't think he had done well because he didn't apply himself much in school but he sold himself short. He was doing well, even in a factory. And with the dollar being much more valuable 40 years ago, they were doing quite well. So another piece of advice I'd give is not just to go to college to go to college. Think about things you're good at and would like to do in life. But make sure you can make a living at it. And college isn't necessarily the only option. The one piece of advice I wish I had taken from my mother was to go ahead and get my teachers certificate while I was in college. I kept telling her no, I don't want to teach. But what do you really know at 20 years of age? We think we know everything when we're young but really have no idea how our lives will change for the next 20-30 years. I argued with Mom till the cows came home. I DO NOT want to teach. But here I am 25 years later and realize I would've been a really good teacher. I also believe I'd be a good small business owner. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought about either of those years ago. In fact, it might even be a wise decision to get out of high school, work full time at whatever and save save save for a few years and the extra years out of school and the growing mentally might provide better guidance in what you might want to do. Then by the time you think of something you'd really like to do, THEN you decide if college or a trade school or simply more training in what you already are in, etc is right for you. I was always expected to jump right in college out of high school and I had no idea what I wanted to do. Just thoughts.