Oh my, sounds as though you are at the complete mercy of a real Bit*h and she has none. You're an intelligent person, you know how to handle it. Can't suggest anything because I wouldn't know what the heck I was talking about. No smoking even on a patio? People can be such control freaks! Hope all works out for you.
Down votes? They didn't understand I guess. Disregard the vote thingie, keep on posting your interesting posts!