("Give me another chance." "No one else will want you." "I promise I'll never hit you again." "I'll go thru rehab." "I'll stop drinking." "You won't make it without me." "He's not drinking as much as he was." "I'm trying." blah, blah, blah...)
I was in an abusive situation myself, so I understand your sensitivity. I've also been surrounded by others' cruel physical and psychological abusive situations. Terror and duping played a part.
In the political arena and from those who court the liberty movement, we've seen both duping and terrorizing, be it physical and/or psychological. Just ask some of the delegates who have been assaulted or had illegal items planted in their hotel rooms.
Uncomfortable as it may be, what Jefferson described has been the plight of many. And while what he described may not mirror your particular situation or mine or that of many others to a tee, he was not trivializing, but rather trying to wake people up with the analogy.
One thing I'd like to add to what Jefferson said, though, is about a coping mechanism that I see among some in the liberty movement. Besides denial or hope that things will somehow be different this time, I've seen a disturbing parallel in that abuse victims sometimes convince themselves they're outsmarting (or going to outsmart) the abuser, or that they're actually using them instead, or that they are getting the upper hand, when clearly they are not.
I've seen that first hand in a domestic abuse situation of a friend of the family (where the male was actually the victim), and I see it now among some in the liberty movement.
The bottom line is that those caught up in the cycle of abuse would do well to recognize it and break free. Until they do, it's not likely going to stop.
Best wishes and peace to you as well.
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