Comment: Live the life in front of you

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Michael Nystrom's picture

Live the life in front of you

People have been fearing a dollar collapse and mayhem and pandemonium for decades, at least since the early 70's when Nixon took us off the gold standard. There is an entire industry devoted to fearmongering.

I don't have advice for your specific situation but what I would say is this: Don't make your decision out of fear. Fear-based decisions are nearly always bad. I've yet to meet a good one. In fact, focusing on the fear tends to help manifest what you most fear.

For example, I know a guy who sold his triple-decker (that's what they call a triplex out here in Boston) in 1987, after the stock market crashed. He was convinced that the whole market was going to hell, and he wanted to get out before it did, because he was afraid of losing.

Fast forward to 2005 when I met him, and the house he sold for $100K was worth well over half a million. Not only does he not have that asset, he's missed out on all the rental income (probably 5-6K per month today for 3 units) he would have had. The mortgage payments would be minuscule today, and/or the house would have been completely paid off.

In a way, he attracted what he feared: poverty.

There is that old saying: "Sometimes you meet your fate on the road you took to avoid it."

Obviously your situation is different. No one here on the DP can make your decision for you. That is yours and yours alone.

My advice is this: Instead of focusing on the fear, focus on the love: The love for your wife, for your friends in LA, for your job, and above all, the very miracle that is your life and everything that led you to where you are. Get reconnected with how happy you were when you first got your job. Focus on the love. Let it grow. Feel how blessed you are.

When you do this, new vistas will open up for you - new ways of seeing your world and your situation. The world will change for you in mysterious ways.

You are what you think about. Or, as Pink Floyd put it, All you touch and all you see, is all your life will ever be.... Take care as to where you put your focus.

To be mean is never excusable, but there is some merit in knowing that one is; the most irreparable of vices is to do evil out of stupidity. - C.B.