you don't have the chance to calculate your response.
What you mean is, "to think." What you're hoping for is a debate in which heated emotion means something, and in the text based world, your heated emotion comes across as off-putting and illogical, which it is.
I'm sorry, but I don't think a debate in which the parties aren't given time to think and compose responses is conducive to debate. It's conducive to name calling and emotional coloring, which is obviously what you need. Look how mad you get just reading the text. You can barely control yourself at your keyboard. Why do you think anyone would trust you with their personal details or to meet up in public?