Are you lifelong PCA? (I am not surprised that you are Presbyterian, as the Calvinist tradition seems to attract those with sharp, analytical minds, and those adjectives certainly apply to you.) Over the years, I have been a member of three PCA congregations; one of these was a congregation where most of the women practiced covering their heads during worship, a practice I heartily approve of. (I am reminded of that by your comment about having "heads covered when praying or prophesying," and I think that seeking to respect your earthly husband in what you do publicly is a very good thing.)
That PCA congregation also practiced weekly Communion, which is a big reason why I presently am a member at my local Episcopal parish (along with the local Catholic parish, the only one I am aware of within easy walking distance that partakes of Holy Communion every week).
I also recall a non-denominational church that I attended for several years that would, on the once a month "Communion Sunday," have elders up front that people could pray with before (or after) they received Communion (I bring this up because it seems that even those who have not considered, from a doctrinal standpoint, the principles raised in my "The Christian Priesthood and Confession" post, will sometimes instinctively adhere to those principles). That congregation would also have women up front as an option for a woman who wanted to pray with another woman; I agree with your position about women mentoring other women, for, as the Apostle Paul wrote:
"Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God." - Titus 2:3-5 NIV
I hope you don't mind me saying, for I mean it as a complement, that your "Identificational Repentance" prayer practice is what I would consider to be acting as a "priest" on another's behalf (as you, along with all Christians, are united to Christ in his priestly intercession). I find it interesting that you often will pray in this capacity about a sin that you yourself struggle with, for, as it is written:
"Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has ascended into heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are -- yet he did not sin." - Hebrews 4:14-15 NIV
Any observations or questions? God bless, dear sister.
A Constitutional, Christian conservative who voted for Ron and stands with Rand