Comment: While the subject of organ donation

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While the subject of organ donation

is an of honorable intentions it must be viewed in a somewhat sinister framework. I've had two personal experiences with it, the first being a friend in his twenties who was in a horrific auto accident. The doctors were adamant about his chances of survival being nil and were quite persistent in attempting to persuade his dad to turn off life support. Thankfully he refused and within a week his son had regained consciousness. At first he was a bit disabled but eventually almost made a full recovery. The second incident did not turn out as well.
My wife of 26 years suffered a total cardiac arrest on a Friday afternoon at our home which is in a rather rural area and is located near the county line. As I was preforming CPR with one hand I was calling 911 with my cell phone. Being as close to the county line as we were, I was routed to the next county which necessitated them having to transfer my call to my counties 911 center. To make a long story short after this delay, and the incompetence of the ambulance crew, it took an hour and a half to get her to a medical center.
Upon arrival, and much to my relief, I was told they had gotten her heart beating, that relief was very short lived. The next day the Neurologist told me that there was absolutely no brain activity and that if she were a few years older they would "pull the plug". Your concept of time in such a situation is totally suspended as your mind races through all the possibilities. Try as I might I could not get any of the physicians to transfer her to a university hospital in nearby Philadelphia. It soon became obvious that they were looking upon her as an organ doner. After they removed her from the respirator she began to breathe on her own. I had her transferred to a rehabilitation center where there was a thirty day limit allocated to see of there was any chance of recovery.
After her time was up and with no sign of recovery I was approached by a member of a organ harvest organization. Until then I was considering this option however once they explained that the harvest would be done before she had expired I found myself absolutely appalled and repulsed. I then had her transferred to a hospice unit and was persuaded by friends and family to remove her feeding tube which was a decision which will haunt me until the day I die. It took over a month for her to pass away and then I gladly allowed them to harvest her eyes and a few ligaments which were acceptable.
The point I am trying to make in this rather long story is that if any of you find yourself in any of the circumstances I have described, from the bungling ambulance crew to the unresponsive doctors, get your loved one out of their hands as soon as possible, don't be cowed by the "stand back and let the professional do his job" mentality which is so prevalent in much of our society. To this day I feel that if I had just tossed my wife in the car and drove to the hospital myself, she would have stood a much better chance of survival and not be treated as a potential organ doner.

If not us than who?