Comment: kindness leads people to have a change of mind

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kindness leads people to have a change of mind

I encourage you to continue to have a kind posture towards your neighbor and at the same time engage her in an honest and straightforward conversation.about the light.
The conversation could begin like this,...
"Pat, I got your note and I want you to know that I do care about your thoughts regarding your light--I also want you to know that I genuinely want to continue to have good neighborly.relations with you.
I hope you do understand this-- I see you as a good neighbor and I.sense that you too want a healthy.relationship (at this she will become disarmed from any defensive posture).
At this moment you can then ask her if the "light" for her is about a sense of security, or is it about an ambience that it creates and she enjoys, or is it because its old and she doesn't want to.deal w/ it period. (or any other reasons).
I truly believe she will answer the question and then you can ask her what she suggests you do (you can remind her of your patience for over 10 years but now that you've bought the house you would truly like to have some peace without the brightness).
Again reassure her that you will be her "good neighbor" no matter what she suggests (this again will continue to help her feel less defensive) and at that point she will proboly be open to meeting you at least halfway--and maybe even.completely.

His blessings to you.

Jesus is the saviour of the WHOLE WORLD, "As in Adam all die, so too in Christ ALL shall be made alive." (ICor.15:22) All means all. The pagan 'hell' of literal fire & eternal torment is a lie and is SPIRITUAL TERRORISM. http://www.hopebeyondhell.net