Comment: One is based on learned behavior that can be unlearned

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One is based on learned behavior that can be unlearned

The other is an attack on a person's intrinsic qualities that cannot be unqualified. They're not on par with each other, they're not even on the same course. Maybe neither are right, but they're sure as hell nowhere near as binary as you're making them out to be.