Dude, you have serious misperceptions of my community, As a gay man, I don't know where to begin. The truth is that we are just as messed up as the straights are, though most of us do have a bit more freedom to pursue interests given that most of us have no kids. But know this one thing. If a gay person wants out, gay people will NOT hurt that person. That is such nasty nonsense. Now if you are talking about the elite activists that is a different story, but most gays are just like the average straight person, just traveling down their own road, doing the best he or she can.