Your Muslim relationships, vs. mine...I often wondered what my friend's response would be if I'd asked him, "What do you think about your wife's rights under our laws...in America... not the religiosity/govt. of Sharia? Where do you fall, my Muslim friend? American now.
I've never had to ask him that question. It's part and parcel to the main reason he came here. But, the M..Fr (lol) was already trying to align himself, wrongly, with the unamerican dream of debt, 2 incomes --no one home to look after his young kids!!!
So tempting to him. But I never let him fall prey to the false American dream. And I also let him know that 'playing the system', (which his compadres bragged about, was not something to brag about, nor did I want to ever hear about any such incidences. A multi-generational American, me, that's all he really needed to hear this from ...this is not a game...this is about principles. You got 'em, use 'em, or lose 'em.
Frankly, I think he just liked testing me--a lot. And why not? I tested him... I did.
So many temptations, so little time.
But I'll never forgive myself for asking him the most clumsy, stupidest question an American could possibly ask a Bangladeshi legal immigrant: "Why did you come here?"
Folks, don't ever, EVER, ask a legal immigrant, much less your best friend/co-worker that question, no matter how curious you are as to why they would choose this dilapidated, crumbling old empire...it's a very good way to lose the best friend you ever had, but then, his question, preceding mine was, "Where are the Jesus miracles now when we need them?"
Actually, I had an answer. But in light of my most disgraceful, most stupid question, I simply STFU.
"If you want something you've never had before, you have to do something you've never done before." Debra Medina
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