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are you insane? Get the test

are you insane? Get the test done? Getting the test done will secure this man into financially being responsible for the next 15 years, and in turn will make his future wife less financially secure. Only an idiot would take a paternity test.

Look at the child if you are so concerned. If you see yourself in her, then you probably are. At that point tell your wife the events, but never take a test to confirm it.

At that point if she is accepting of it, and the birth mother is fine with it, then form a distant relationship with the child.