Comment: It's not entirely a gender problem.

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It's not entirely a gender problem.

As a woman, I understand the concerns about how easily women are influenced by emotional arguments. I will freely admit that, for many women, facts often take a back seat to feelings, but I'm not certain that the issue is entirely about gender. Women are and have always been expected to be emotional. It's all around us. In movies, songs, literature, and even in our own families, we are taught that women are emotional creatures. I'm not going to say that women don't have some natural tendency to be more emotional. I don't know. If that is true, it seems that little trait skipped me, and I'm so very glad it did.

In contrast, in earlier times, men were expected to act logically. For a long time, logic was taught in universities. That doesn't happen as much anymore. Boys were neither expected nor allowed to show as much emotion. I'm not saying that's a particularly good thing, but it was the reality. Men are now being pushed to be more emotional, and, from all I've seen, a lot of them are actually going along with it. While it may be a good thing for men to be able to express themselves emotionally without fear of being ridiculed, emotion must always be tempered with reason. That's not happening anymore. In addition, a large number of boys are being raised without any meaningful contact with their fathers.

So the problem, as I see it, is the severe lack of reason and logic and too much focus on emotion. Before long, everyone is going to be voting based solely on feelings, and that would be a very bad thing, indeed. So I'm thinking that we need to start focusing on teaching both our sons and our daughters how to actually think instead of just feel.