SPECIFICALLY to avoid having that mentioned; I referred to the "fear of God" as in reverence, and I referred to fear as the instinct that preserves us. I apologize if I wasn't clear enough, but that was my intent - to show that by either definition of fear, it's not a bad thing and is never condemned as evil.
Unconditional love is absolutely commanded by God; as Paul pointed out, without love all our gifts amount to nothing. Paul, Jesus, and the prophets all repeatedly emphasized that in addition to love, we must also hate sin.
Quite frankly I don't give two craps about what "many people believe." Many people also believe that socialism works, and they clearly are dead wrong. I care about what Jesus said, and He made it abundantly clear that there is good and there is evil; while, in a manner of speaking, evil can be seen as the absence of good, the fact is that they are distinct, like light and dark. Without absurd mental gymnastics, there's only one reasonable interpretation of Jesus's words in that phrase - that only through Jesus and His sacrifice are we able to be with Him after death.
Yes, there is no coherent philosophy. You just proved it by attempting to claim that Buddhism and a Judeo-Christian worldview are somehow similar beyond very basic morals. Christianity and Judaism teach that God is a personal Being that created all of existence, and is outside of time and space; that human beings are created in His image as individuals; that after death, the faithful are to be with God as individuals. Buddhism is COMPLETELY different; in Buddhism, there is no "God" per se, but rather we are all somehow one being and that when we reach "enlightenment" we can stop our reincarnation cycle and lose our individuality.
Look, I'm not angry at you, and I'm far from fearing you. I am sorry if I come across as angry, but I have very little tolerance when someone claims that there is no good and evil, just different degrees of the same thing. After all, if we're all one, then there should be no objection at all to harming "others," because they're all one, including you, so you're really just hurting parts of yourself and it doesn't matter in the long run.