Comment: Calling people what they want to be called

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Calling people what they want to be called

is usually just basic politeness. Words can be used to hurt. Anyone here who stands out from the crowd in any way knows what terms are used to hurt people who stand out from the crowd in that same way. Maybe it doesn't bother you. Maybe it does. If it does bother you, and someone insists on using that word to describe you *because* they know it bothers you, perhaps you're being too sensitive about it, but they're definitely being an asshole.

Take the third panel. The spanish word for black is "negro." In that convoluted way the guy is asking if he can call the black guy there "negro." Why? Why does he want to use the word "negro" to refer to that guy? What's the motive? He knows it's very unlikely to be the term the guy would prefer to be described by. He knows that it dredges up connotations of Jim Crow laws and segregation. So why does he want to do that? What possible non-asshole motivation could he have for wanting so badly to use the word "negro" to describe that guy?